AITA for selling my company without asking my then teenage children?

A construction company founder sold his business in the 80s to save his marriage and relocate to a beach town, casually informing his then-teenage kids it was just a new job. Years later, his now-26-year-old son exploded upon learning the truth via a random Facebook connection, feeling robbed of an inheritance he never expressed interest in.

What makes the story more complicated is the son’s insistence that his dad should have consulted 14- and 16-year-old versions of them, despite their clear disinterest in the industry back then. The daughter remains unbothered, highlighting a one-sided entitlement clash.

‘AITA for selling my company without asking my then teenage children?’

The company began decades ago, leading to a life-changing sale during family turmoil.

I started a construction company in the 80s, sold it when my kids were 14 and 16. I joined forces with another contractor in a beach town 2 hours outside...

The kids received a simplified explanation, uninterested in business details at the time.

We didn’t tell the kids we sold the company, we just said I got another job and we’re moving. It wasn’t meant to be a secret that I sold it....

A decade later, a social media add uncovered the sale, sparking adult resentment.

I said “oh yeah that’s the guy I sold my old company to” Long story short, we got in to it because he was shocked I sold it. He thought...

I tried to be understanding but he kept saying “I just don’t understand why you wouldn’t have asked us first”. It’s true I didn’t ask them BUT I did try...

Both tried it for a week and said no thanks. They had other career plans. It got to the point that I was not being so understanding because he was...

An edit clarified the daughter’s stance, focusing the conflict solely on the son.

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Editing to add: please stop dragging my daughter in to this! I called her and we talked, she has no issues with the decisions I made and is not at...

Selling a family business without teen input often resurfaces as regret in adulthood, yet it typically reflects practical parenting over neglect. Here, the father’s choice prioritized marital stability and fresh opportunities, decisions far beyond a minor’s scope or interest—especially after their brief, rejected stints in the company. The son’s delayed outrage smacks of hindsight fantasy, imagining an effortless CEO handover without grasping operational risks.

What makes the story more complicated is the emotional gap between perceived legacy and reality; he mourned a “failure” narrative for years but resents success without inheritance. Broader societal trends show many heirs decline family firms, with only about 30% entering the business per surveys.

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As family business consultant John A. Davis states in Harvard Business Review, “Forcing succession on uninterested children destroys value more than any sale ever could.” Open early dialogues might ease shocks, but ultimate authority rests with the founder.

Check out how the community responded:

Many users supported the father, calling out the son’s entitlement given his teenage disinterest and decade of silence.

icecream77008 − NTA for selling your business. Your son didn’t even realize for 10 years! !!!

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l3rambi − NTA. You were the adult and you made an adult decision. AND they already indicated they weren't interested. They're just disappointed in the loss of a potentially easy...

NurseNess − NTA. Why would you have to ask your minor children if it’s ok to sell your company? Did they contribute financially to it?

imakesawdust − He’s hurt that I didn’t keep the company to pass down to him and his sister. Translation: he wanted to inherit a CEO position instead of having to...

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deadlyhausfrau − NTA. Your son is being ridiculously entitled.

Some offered balanced takes, questioning the son’s logic while affirming the parent’s authority.

CoderJoe1 − Wow, he sounds too entitled. Why would you owe him the business?

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Disglerio314 − NTA it would have been one thing if the kids had shown interest in the company or the industry. Why would you discuss your plans with a child...

And he was ok when he thought you were just terrible at business and had let it fail, but finding out you chose to get out makes it different how?

[Reddit User] − NTA, for these reasons: 1. They were children, and the reasons for the sale included stuff that is not the kind of thing a child needs to...

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ETA: At 14 and 16, if there had been purely financial issues, letting them sit in on the process might have been a good way to preview adulting--but not with...

2. They were not involved in the business and did not intend to be involved in it, and you could not put your life on hold waiting for them to...

Is he imagining being the guy in the shiny shoes who signs the forms, scooping money from a successful business that must continue in success because Dad set it up?

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Does he know how to run a construction company in order to keep it successful? Or is he just in love with the idea of having big trucks with his...

and wishes he could go back to the days when he was too young to know anything except that Daddy had a hard hat and made good money with it?...

It's especially telling that he brought this up as his 20s are passing away, which is often a time when people trip over the divide between where they think they...

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A couple kept it light, mocking the idea of consulting teens on life-altering moves.

andielbc − NTA - He was a kid, you didn't ever need his permission. You made a move that benefitted you all and if he can't see that, too bad...

Comfortable_Garage44 − NTA. If they want a company, they can start one. They also clearly didn’t care about it for a good 10 years after you sold it, and it...

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Your son is just acting entitled, even if you’d kept the company, you might have made the decision not to pass it down to them. Especially as you’ve already made...

The dad sold his company for family salvation without fanfare, only facing backlash years later from a son who never showed interest. The daughter’s indifference underscores the one-off nature of the gripe, resolved by adult priorities over teenage consultations.

Do parents owe kids a say in business exits, or is hindsight entitlement fair game? Drop your family legacy drama below.

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