AITA for ruining Steve Irwin for my friend’s daughter?

In a cozy living room, the glow of a TV flickers with vibrant scenes of crocodiles and snakes, as a 13-year-old girl sits mesmerized by Steve Irwin’s wild adventures. Her enthusiasm for wildlife is palpable, but a casual chat with a family friend takes an unexpected turn. When a visitor shares a vivid memory of meeting the legendary Crocodile Hunter, an offhand comment about his less-than-rosy scent sparks a surprising reaction, threatening to dim the girl’s passion for animals.

What started as a nostalgic trip down memory lane spirals into a debate about appropriateness and respect. The friend’s tale, meant to inspire, instead leaves the young wildlife fan questioning her dreams. Can a single smelly anecdote really derail a budding passion, or is there more to this story? Let’s dive into this quirky drama and explore the clash of idealism and reality.

‘AITA for ruining Steve Irwin for my friend’s daughter?’

I [38f] got to visit my friend recently and spent the night. One of her daughters [13f] spent a couple hours watching old episodes of The Crocodile hunter on a TV. My friend said her daughter's been pretty interested in animals and wildlife and nature so they got her some of those to watch, since she remembers enjoying those shows as a kid and the modern versions of them don't seem as good.

I thought this was great as I actually grew up near Beerwah, Australia (where the Australia Zoo is) and we went a lot - even into my young adulthood before moving to the US for work. Got to see Steve a couple times, and later Bindi when she got older, at a couple talks / small group settings. My friend said 'wow, you should totally tell my daughter about that!'

So a while later I went into the living room where the daughter was watching the shows, and I told her 'I got to see Steve a couple times before he died and later Bindi,' and she got excited and started asking me a lot of questions. I told her he seemed like a great guy and as much as I could remember about the animals.

Then I told her about a detail about the first 'talk'/small-ish group I saw him at where he warned us that he had to help cover for a keeper who called in sick and cleaned out the primate houses right before this talk and hadn't showered yet, so we really might not a front row seat. I didn't listen and got one anyways, and...ooof, regretted it.

I'm sure it was a great talk and a treasured memory looking back, but at the time all I could think about was how not to gag! This horrified my friend's daughter more than I thought, as she went 'ewww he smelled bad?' I was sorta taken aback and said 'well, what do you think, being around animals all day every day!

That day was worse than others I'm sure, but come to think of it he stunk pretty bad the other time I got close enough to smell him too...so did Bindi, for that matter' My friend's daughter is apparently also very into spas and perfumes and smelling nice, and this has put a great damper on her thoughts of working with wildlife and even her enthusiasm for seeing it through a screen.

My friend called me the next day and said 'Of all the things to share with her did you really have to bring up how Steve Irwin smelled like monkey waste when you met him and distracted you from the talk?' She said that seemed like an inappropriate thing to bring up to a young girl and also disrespectful to Steve's memory.

But I don't think it was inappropriate to bring up, I think it's a realistic part of the work Steve did and was certainly something that stuck in my memory. If anything it made me respect the work he did more!. AITA?

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Sharing personal stories can be a minefield, especially when they involve childhood heroes like Steve Irwin. The original poster (OP) found herself in hot water after her anecdote about Steve’s zoo-related odor clashed with a teen’s idealized view. The mother’s frustration is understandable—nobody wants their kid’s idol tarnished—but was the OP really out of line?

The conflict highlights a broader issue: the romanticization of careers like zookeeping. According to a 2023 study by the Association of Zoos and Aquariums , zookeepers often face physically demanding tasks, including cleaning enclosures, which can involve unpleasant odors. This reality check is crucial for aspiring professionals. The OP’s story, while blunt, exposed the gritty side of wildlife work, potentially saving the teen from unrealistic expectations.

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Dr. Jane Goodall, renowned primatologist, once said, “Working with animals is not always glamorous, but it’s deeply rewarding for those who embrace its challenges” . Here, the OP’s anecdote aligns with Goodall’s perspective, emphasizing authenticity over glamour. The teen’s fixation on hygiene suggests her passion might lean more toward idealized nature than hands-on work.

For the OP, a gentler delivery might have softened the blow, perhaps framing the smell as a badge of dedication. Still, her honesty wasn’t inappropriate—it was a slice of reality. For the teen, exploring less messy animal-related paths, like veterinary care for pets, could align better with her love for perfumes. This story reminds us to balance inspiration with truth when guiding young dreamers.

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a mix of chuckles and wisdom. Here’s what they had to say, raw and unfiltered:

namesaretoohardforme − NTA she's 13 for crying out loud. This isn't Santa Claus. Her world isn't gonna end now that she knows animals can smell.

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alwaysmonochromeblue − NTA. It wasn’t inappropriate to say a zookeeper smelled. And it’s the reality of the job. She’s 13 and should be able to handle knowing that. If she’s put off by knowing animals stink, she shouldn’t be working with wildlife anyway.

uffelm − NTA. Sounds like a needed dose of reality. Also! **Ugh.** Ape stench. It's by far not the *worst* smell I've encountered working with animals but it might somehow be my least favorite. At least if you reek of big cat, or otter, or penguin, people will go 'oh, ugh, yep, *that's* a zookeeper alright, gasp, gag, barf.'

After a long day in the ape house you might not stink as *bad*, but it's in this sickening uncanny valley of smells where it's not entirely beyond the realm of possibility that it's super bad human BO. But like, the worst ever, though.

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And funkier than you'd hope any human has the capability of producing. And yet you know that any stranger will have at least *some* thought in the back of their head of 'did this person just never shower in the past decade?'

[Reddit User] − NTA. You are sharing a personal experience. The obvious Silver Lining of this cloud is that she realized animals smell before she spent a lot of time and money pursuing working with them as a career.

LB-Dash − NTA. Wtf is wrong with people? Of course people working with animals will smell bad sometimes…I mean, you can say he smelt normal most of the time when he hadn’t been cleaning pens. I mean, what is the intention here? To lie to the child about it until they visit the zoo one time? Or a pet store? Absurd.

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[Reddit User] − NTA this is f**king hilarious

useyerbigvoice − Your friend asked you to share your memories of seeing Steve Irwin with her daughter and you did. Talking about how working with animals can make you smell like them is just a fact. I think that part of the story made the anecdote more interesting. Talking about that would not ‘ruin Steve Irwin’ for most people. Who knew her daughter would fixate on that one aspect of the story? NTA.

RandomRedMage − It’s actually super important, the whole smell thing. Because when working with WILDLIFE, you actually want to smell consistently like yourself. It’s part of how a lot of animals will recognize you. And if you muddy that up with perfumes it could get you hurt or killed.

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NTA, if it hurt her interest, then it was good it dissipated before serious investment into it happened, and then she got smacked in the face by the scent of reality. Wild animals are amazing, and wildlife reserves and zoos are great, but someone like her might want to stick to domestic animals like cats and dogs and bunnies.

Pet care is also super important and veterinary workers aren’t usually expected to be mucking a zoo enclosure unless their an exotic animal vet. Lol. But if learning that Steve smelled bad was enough to turn her interest away, than it was a passing interest at best and not a passion or something she would have pursued in the future.

[Reddit User] − NTA. If anything you did the little girl a favor. She thought she might grow up to work with wildlife which can take decades. Then, when they get there and realize what the work is really like and they hate it and all those years go to waste. You just helped her focus more on things she does enjoy and can now head in a direction that she will really enjoy.

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Mom will get over it. If you didn’t change the daughter’s mind, she would have done it on her own eventually. Plus, people change their mind a thousand times on what profession they really want to do for a million reasons. Mom needs to chill, but don’t tell her that.

DigDugDogDun − NTA. I was a big fan of the James Herriot book series growing up. One of the things I remember him talking about was instructing a group of young veterinary students as he was examining a cow … rectally.

He said that watching him removing his entire (excrement covered) arm from a cow’s a**s is often the defining moment that separates many of the real vets from the students who can’t take it. If your friend’s daughter is icked out at the idea of gross things and smells, she probably likes the idea of animals more than actual animals.

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That’s not to say that she won’t ever go into an animal related field, but it’s good that you introduced the idea that it won’t always be clean and pretty. I don’t know why your friend wanted to keep his daughter in the dark about this but better she found this out in the beginning.

These Redditors rallied behind the OP, arguing that a dose of reality isn’t a bad thing. Some saw the teen’s reaction as a sign her wildlife interest was more fantasy than commitment, while others found the smell saga downright hilarious. But do these hot takes capture the full picture, or are they just fanning the flames of a quirky misunderstanding?

This tale of a smelly memory and a shattered illusion shows how quickly good intentions can stir up drama. The OP’s honest anecdote, while shocking to a perfume-loving teen, offered a glimpse into the less glamorous side of wildlife work. It’s a reminder that heroes like Steve Irwin were human, sweat and all, and that’s part of what made them inspiring. What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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