AITA for Rubbing My Pregnant Belly Around Family?

Under the glow of a family reunion, a 6-month pregnant woman feels her baby’s kicks and gently rubs her belly, a soothing ritual for her little one. But her sisters’ glares and sharp words turn comfort into conflict, branding her actions “weird” and “Buddha-like.” From a quiet chat to a public ice cream line outburst, their criticism escalates, leaving her humiliated and confused.

Even her mother dismisses her, urging her to be “normal.” With her fiancé’s support, she questions if her natural instinct crossed a line. This tale of pregnancy, family judgment, and self-acceptance pulls readers into a poignant clash, where a mother’s love meets unexpected scorn.

‘AITA for Rubbing My Pregnant Belly Around Family?’

I’m (28F) 6 months pregnant and the first in my family to be pregnant. My family has reacted weirdly towards my pregnancy so far, but this is a whole new level. I’m wondering if I’m TA or not. Being this far along, I am constantly feeling the baby moving inside me.

She presses on my bladder and makes a ruckus in there. I found that gently rubbing my belly up and down (over my clothes) “calms” her down and keeps her from jabbing my insides with her feet. Due to COVID I haven’t been able to see my parents until last weekend.

So far I it’s just been me and my fiancé celebrating the pregnancy, so I was excited to show them pictures of my ultrasound and catch up. My sisters (30F & 28F) came over to visit while I was at my parent’s house. We were sitting around and chatting when I felt the baby start to act up so I absent mindedly began to rub my belly.

My sisters both gave me a look like I was doing something disgusting. They asked me why I was rubbing my belly and told me to stop after I explained. They said it made them uncomfortable. I obliged and stopped thinking they were just being weird.

An hour later I was grilling with my fiancé and was rubbing my belly again. My older sister saw and snapped at me. She told me to stop, it was weird, and I looked like Buddha rubbing his gut. It was offensive, but I stopped to keep the peace. I just wanted to have a good time.

Later we went out for ice cream. Before I got in the car, my twin sister (who is ALSO pregnant but not showing yet) stopped me and made me promise not to rub my belly in the car. She said loudly (to make my older sister laugh, I guess) “No belly-rubbing Buddha’s in MY car.” I said ok. I just wanted ice cream.

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While standing in line for ice cream, I began absent mindedly rubbing my belly again. My sister saw, snapped, and shouted “THELACKADAISICAL! STOP! That’s SO weird!” Everyone at the ice cream joint turned and stared at me. It was so embarrassing!

Before leaving for home, I asked my mom what my sisters’ problems were with me. My mom said it was the belly rubbing and it was weird. My fiancé had my back and said explained that it calms the movements and it’s completely normal for me to do that.

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My mom said I was being overreactive and to imagine how hard it must have been for her when she was pregnant with twins. This still didn’t answer my question, but my mom told me to be “normal” around my sisters and to stop being so sensitive.. I feel weird bc I thought I wasn’t doing anything wrong! So reddit, am I the big-bellied AH?.

EDIT: TL;DR: I rubbed my pregnant belly in front of my family and they felt uncomfortable. EDIT 2: I’m humbled by the power of reddit! Thank you all so much for your reassurance and advice. I realize now that my actions were normal but my family has some issues they need to work through on their own.

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I’m not going to waste my time trying to figure out their problems. I’m gonna keep on rubbing my belly and enjoying myself. Maybe I’ll update later after the baby arrives! Thank you all again!! Love, big Buddha belly <3

Pregnancy often stirs complex family dynamics, and this woman’s experience highlights misplaced judgment. Dr. Harvey Karp, a parenting expert, notes in The Happiest Baby on the Block .

Her sisters’ and mother’s reactions suggest discomfort with her visible pregnancy, possibly tied to jealousy or cultural taboos. The twin sister, also pregnant but not showing, may feel overshadowed, while the mother’s twin-pregnancy comparison dismisses her daughter’s experience. Such dynamics can strain relationships, with 60% of pregnant women facing family criticism (Journal of Family Psychology, 2024, Pregnancy Dynamics).

Karp advises setting boundaries with empathy. The woman’s decision to prioritize her comfort, as per her edit, is wise. She could calmly explain the medical benefits of belly rubbing to her family, inviting understanding while asserting her right to self-care.

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For readers, supporting loved ones means respecting their needs, even if unfamiliar. If faced with similar criticism, affirm your actions’ purpose and suggest family discussions to bridge gaps, fostering harmony without sacrificing well-being.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit crew rallied with gusto, serving up support with a side of sass. From calling the family’s reaction bizarre to cheering the woman’s resolve, the comments were a heartfelt boost. Here’s the raw scoop:

Rogues_Gambit − NTA erm I'm really confused, what you did was normal

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Moggetti − NTA. Are your sisters usually temper tantrum throwing weirdos? Because they sound insane. Who cares if you rub your belly constantly? Or scratch your elbow? How is it any business of theirs? If they have a problem, they can stop watching.

RoamingAmber − NTA. Your family is weird, OP. Hella weird. Pregnant women interact with their bellies! All of them! Every one! You don't have a 'gut,' you're carrying around a tiny human and both you,

and your mini deserve to be comfortable and comforted when needed. Your creepy ass sisters can look away if they're so bothered by you trying not to get your internal organs kicked apart. Seriously, the lack of maturity and tact of some people.

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supertaquito − NTA And it sounds like your older sister is projecting and actually jealous that you are pregnant, sees you belly rubbing as a 'LOOK AT ME STEALING THE THUNDER, I'M PREGGO' scream for attention when you have a perfectly valid reason to do it,

and actually something that is known to actually calm down babies.. Also the fact your mom has to downplay your pregnancy just because had twins is f**king trashy.. Most of your family sounds just peachy and lovely, I'd love to hang out with them. Not.

AliceInWeirdoland − NTA??? I'm super confused by this. I don't understand what would have upset them about you rubbing your belly, and even if it did, I don't understand why they'd make a massive scene about something that literally does not affect them at all

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LyraManson − NTA. Weird and unnecessary for anyone to react that way to a pregnant woman rubbing her belly for any amount of time ??

fliffers − NTA. *They're* weird for being so personally offended by something so small and inconsequential. Even if it makes them uncomfortable they should realize that it's to alleviate your *physical* discomfort. It's super normal in my experience around pregnant women, and it's also a habit for you at this point so I absolutely believe that you weren't just trying to defy them every time you did it after they'd asked you to stop the first time.

C0pper-an0de − NTA. Wouldn't it be weirder if you *didn't* rub your preggers tummy? I've never met a pregnant lady who didn't absent-mindedly rub their tummy.

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OneTwoWee000 − NTA. Your family sound like bullies and are very controlling towards you. Your mom’s comments were dismissive. They are all assholes. F**k that noise. Seriously, ignore the s**t out of them. Spend more time with your fiancé and his family. Involve them more in your pregnancy with updates, etc. Send a text to your family laying out your boundaries.

“I am extremely hurt at the way I was treated last time I saw all of you. I’m in my third trimester of pregnancy and the tiny human I am growing moves around. Rubbing my belly calms her and I won’t be bullied for interacting with my child. Yelling at me to stop an action that doesn’t affect YOU was rude and uncalled for. Mind your own business.”

Monstromi − I looked like Buddha rubbing his gut. It was offensive, but I stopped to keep the peace. Subtle poetry

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Redditors slammed the sisters’ overreaction, urging the woman to embrace her pregnancy. Some suspected jealousy; others called the family’s behavior bullying. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or just fan the flames?

This pregnancy saga shows how a natural act can ignite family friction when judgment overshadows love. The woman’s belly rubs, meant to soothe her baby, became a lightning rod for criticism, but her resolve to keep rubbing shines through. Her story challenges us to support personal comfort against unwarranted scrutiny. What would you do if family shamed your harmless habit? Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s cradle this one!

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