AITA For Requesting To Not Work With A Specific Girl At My Job?

A restaurant employee found their patience wearing thin after months of dealing with a coworker who refused to pull her weight. Despite working the same shifts for several months, the new hire still struggled with basic tasks, leaving others to pick up the slack. Over time, the situation became frustrating as the employee felt they were doing the work of two people while being paid for one.

The workload issues alone would have been difficult enough. However, things became far more serious when the coworker began making openly racist remarks about customers and people around her. Even after being confronted directly, the comments continued. Eventually, the employee reported the behavior to their boss and asked not to be scheduled alongside her. The coworker later blamed them for deciding to quit, leaving the employee wondering if reporting the situation had gone too far.

‘AITA For Requesting To Not Work With A Specific Girl At My Job?’

The employee explained that problems with the coworker started after a few months.

I work at a restaurant, and we got this new girl about three months ago, and she was okay at first. Despite working 3 days a week every week for...

She is incredibly lazy, and every single time I work with her I have to do my job AND hers (even though we have two different jobs and tasks).

The situation became worse when the coworker began making offensive comments.

On top of that, I found out she's f*cking r__ist which is something I can not stand. Here are a few things she has said: -(Talking about a black person)...

(Talking about this group of three black men that walked in) "OP, can you take this order, I don't want them staring at me" -"You've heard of elf on a...

and showed me a picture of a black person with a spoon on their head. I genuinely did not understand it so I asked her to explain it and she...

(An eastern-asian looking man ordered, and we took his name for the order) "OP how do you think his name is spelt? Should I just put Ching Ching Chnk?"

After confronting her directly, the employee eventually went to management.

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There are many others, but I won't list them as I think that is more than enough. Anyway, I was frankly embarrassed to be around someone like that, especially because...

I called her r__ist to her face and she just acted like it was some normal ol' personality trait. I went to my boss and requested to not work with...

1) When I work with her, I am doing the job of two people and being paid for one.

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2) I am extremely uncomfortable by the comments she makes and I believe it makes me and the company look bad to have her around.

She got wind of my comments and told me I am the reason she is putting in her two weeks, and if I had just talked to her first instead...

(I did encourage her to do her own work, she just didn't take the hint multiple times, and I did call her r__ist etc). AITA here? I kind of feel...

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EDIT FOR INFO: this was a few weeks ago, said restaurant is now closed until further notice because of COVID-19. Sorry for not clarifying!

Workplace environments rely heavily on mutual respect and cooperation among employees. When one worker consistently fails to perform their duties, it can quickly create resentment among colleagues who are forced to compensate for the imbalance. Over time, this kind of situation often leads to burnout and tension within teams.

In addition to performance issues, discriminatory comments in the workplace raise serious concerns. Offensive remarks about customers or coworkers can damage a company’s reputation and create an uncomfortable or hostile environment. Businesses typically have policies in place to prevent this kind of behavior because it can negatively affect both employees and customers.

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From a professional standpoint, reporting concerns to management is often the appropriate step when direct conversations fail to resolve the issue. Supervisors are responsible for addressing workplace conduct and ensuring that employees follow company standards. By bringing the problem forward, the employee allowed management to evaluate the situation and decide how it should be handled.

See what others had to share with OP:

Many commenters supported the employee’s decision and felt the complaint was justified.

gunnyhunty − Of course NTA. Not sure where she thinks she’s going to get a job that’s fine with her blatant racism, not to say anything about her questionable work...

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hallalaladeii − i get you, i have worked with a similar girl and youre right to ask for that. She put it on herself to get reported if she doesnt...

The-confused-alpaca − NTA, I've had to do the same several times at my work place. You have the right to be comfortable while you work. I'm sure management would not...

stridingranger − NTA. What she's doing can constitute workplace harassment/intimidation. You're right to let boss know about it.

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Forza613 − NTA. You shouldn't have to work with a lazy r__ist like that, she sounds embarassing and very inconsiderate and rude.

Some commenters focused on workplace accountability and responsibility.

ninjasexbang − NTA. I recently found out that a coworker of mine is openly transphobic (I'm trans, but he doesn't know that, so he just casually told me),

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and until COVID and our doors closing I'd been planning to request not to work with him too. You shouldn't have to deal with that.

Viperbunny − NTA. She is blaming you for her own shortcomings. You likely aren't the only one who dislikes her and likely not the first complaint. People like this look...

Beaumis − NTA - She "got wind" of it because someone spoke to her about her performance and behavior. Most likely she was given the option to quit rather than...

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A few responses added blunt humor while still agreeing with the employee.

[Reddit User] − NTA, in fact she's the a

Ella_phante − NTA - She's a big r__ist baby who can take her elf-on-a-shelf r__ist ass and go f__k a duck.

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The situation highlights how workplace conflicts can escalate when professionalism and respect break down. While the employee initially tried addressing the issue directly, the continued behavior eventually led them to involve management. Once the matter reached supervisors, the coworker’s reaction shifted the blame toward the person who reported it.

Situations like this often raise questions about responsibility in professional environments. When inappropriate behavior occurs repeatedly, should employees continue trying to handle it privately, or is involving management the most effective step? And where should the line be drawn between personal conflict and conduct that affects the entire workplace?

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