AITA for removing all of my fiance’s certificates from the wall after he took down my daughter’s dog picture?

A living room wall became a battleground when a woman’s fiancé removed a cherished photo of her daughter’s late dog, Tic. The framed picture, a comfort for the grieving 12-year-old, was replaced by silence after he threatened her to keep it hidden. In retaliation, the woman took down his prized academic certificates, sparking a fiery clash over respect and family.

This isn’t just about decor—it’s about honoring a child’s grief versus personal pride. The fiancé’s cold shoulder and demands for an apology deepen the rift, while Reddit’s bold takes unravel this emotional showdown, questioning who truly crossed the line.

‘AITA for removing all of my fiance’s certificates from the wall after he took down my daughter’s dog picture?’

Me F34 and my fiance M36 got engaged 2 months ago. I own the house we currently live in but after he moved in he started helping out with the mortgage payment. I have a daughter Ruby, F12, she adores animals (she had about 7 pets so far in her life). Unfortunately, her dog Tic passed away. He was her closest friend and favorite pet.

It was devastating for me as well because he was so precious. As a way to honor him, I've printed a middle sized picture of him (Ruby's favorite) and put it in a frame and hanged the frame in the living room wall. Ruby was so happy with it especially since she gets to see him smiling at her when she walks in, It gives her comfort.

My fiance saw it and got upset. He commented on how strange it was to have the dog's picture up on the wall and how much of distraction it brings. I felt puzzled because we have all kinds of pictures that were hanging on that wall. He suggested we remove it but I ignored him. One day, I got home and saw that he's taken it down.

Ruby was in her room crying holding the picture. I asked what happened and she told me that my fiance took the picture off and told her she's not allowed to have it hung up there, also told her to keep it in her room if she didn't want to lose it 'for good'. I was shocked.

I rushed out and immediately started taking down all the certificates he had on that wall. His doctorate , master's and bachelor's degrees. And about 4-5 other certificates as well. All of them I took down and put in the bedroom. He discovered what I did and snapped at me and said that it's his house as well and I should respect his input.

In my defense, I told him that since my daughter has to keep it in her room then he too has to keep his certificates in his room according to his logicHe yelled at me demanding that I stopped nagging him and acting childishly and spitefully. He wanted to put them back up but I refused and said that if he does that then Tic's picture will be put back up as well.

He yelled about how I disrespected him and his achievements and treated them as trash, and then stormed out. He's been giving both me and Ruby the cold shoulder for days now saying he out speak to neither of us til we apologize and put those certificates back up on the wall ourselves.

Family harmony can crumble over seemingly small acts. The OP’s fiancé, by removing a photo of her daughter’s beloved dog and threatening the child, dismissed a grieving 12-year-old’s emotional needs. The OP’s retaliation—taking down his certificates—was a sharp response to his overreach, but his demand for an apology and silent treatment escalate the conflict. This isn’t about wall space; it’s about power and empathy.

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Blended families face unique challenges. A 2023 study in Journal of Family Psychology found 65% of step-parents struggle to balance authority and bonding with stepchildren. The fiancé’s actions suggest control, not care, especially since the OP owns the home. His certificates, better suited for an office, clash with the living room’s warmth, where Tic’s photo held sentimental value.

Psychologist Dr. Patricia Papernow notes, “Step-parents must earn trust through empathy, not demands” (Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships). The fiancé should have discussed the photo privately, not acted unilaterally. The OP could offer to rehang the certificates if he apologizes to Ruby and restores Tic’s photo. For readers, open dialogue and prioritizing children’s feelings in blended families prevent such rifts. The OP should reassess this relationship, ensuring Ruby’s emotional safety comes first.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit pounced with fiery takes, dishing out support and red flags with a side of wit. From slamming the fiancé’s bullying to urging the OP to protect her daughter, the comments are a lively mix. Here’s the crowd’s unfiltered scoop:

awyllt − NTA. He took a picture of your grieving child's dog, threatened her, told you that your house is also his, yelled at you and demanded an apology.. If you marry this abusive man, you and your daughter are going to have a miserable life.

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Goddess_Hylia2001 − NTA for taking down his certificates, but YWBTA if you stay with a man who literally threatened a 12 year old child to throw away a picture of a recently deceased animal.

CrystalQueen3000 − This is so concerning. He took down the picture and threatened a 12 year old that she’d lose it permanently if she didn’t keep it in her room rather than on the wall in a common area in her own house. If this is indicative of the way he is with her when you’re not around then I’d boot him out of your life ASAP.

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Speak to Ruby and have a heart to heart, ask her what he’s like when you’re not there because this story is waving a whole bunch of red flags 🚩. NTA for trying to make a point but there seems to be a much bigger issue going on.

Ambitious-Battle8091 − Info: are you still marrying your daughter’s bully ? Do you have a prenup ? Do you accept your daughter feeling unsafe forever in her own home going forward ? Do you condone silent treatment as punishment and find that healthy ?

epostiler − Good lord! Who puts their certificates on the living room wall? A very small minded egotist, that's who.. In a professional office? Sure. In a home? Hell no. In someone else's home? Gtfo.. NTA.

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Klutzy-Captain9013 − Who puts their certificates up in the living room? In a study or office, yes. Living room? No.. NTA

ClothesQueasy2828 − NTA. People who aren't dog people don't understand the role dogs play in our lives. To me, it makes sense to have a photo of your dog on the wall. I don't know about the certificates, but your daughter definitely deserves the dog photo on the wall.

CakeEatingRabbit − 'Respect his input'. So... do as he says?. NTA

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shannikkins − Print off more pictures of the dog, and for every day he continues to sulk, hang one more dog picture where his certificates once were.. You are NTA

Redditors rallied behind the OP, calling the fiancé’s actions controlling and his threats to Ruby alarming. Many questioned the relationship’s future, urging a heart-to-heart with Ruby. But do these takes nail the issue, or just fan the flames? One thing’s clear: this wall dispute has sparked a bigger conversation about respect.

This wall drama reveals how small acts can wound deeply. The OP’s defense of her daughter’s grief was justified, but the fiancé’s harsh response raises red flags about his role in their family. Respect starts with empathy, not control. How would you handle a partner who dismisses your child’s feelings? Share your thoughts below—let’s dive into this emotional clash!

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