AITA for rehoming my ex girlfriend’s dog?

Imagine a fluffy Welsh Corgi padding around a cramped apartment, its owner vanished after a breakup. A 23-year-old guy, stuck caring for his ex’s dog, Elvis, reaches out for months with no reply—until he finds the pup a loving new home. Then, his ex reappears, furious, claiming he stole her furry friend.

This Reddit tale barks up a storm about pet responsibility and broken ties. Was he heartless, or did he save Elvis from neglect? Reddit’s got thoughts, and so do the experts—let’s dig in!

‘AITA for rehoming my ex girlfriend’s dog?’

I (m23) have an ex girlfriend Lexi (f23). Lexi and I had known each other since we were 14. We dated for nearly a year before I broke up with Lexi. We lived together in my one bedroom apartment, so Lexi was going to have to find somewhere else to stay. She has a little dog that was also staying in the apartment, a Welsh Corgi named Elvis. Lexi already had Elvis before she started dating.

Lexi went to go stay with her parents temporarily whilst she looked for somewhere more permanent to live as she understandably felt uncomfortable staying in the apartment. She asked if I could look after Elvis until she found somewhere to live and I said I would, this was in June. The next week I asked Lexi how her search was going but she left me on read.

I thought maybe it wasn't going well and she didn't want to talk about it. The week after, I tried to call Lexi but she didn't pick up, I left a voicemail telling her how her dog is doing. July rolls around and I've still not heard anything. I messaged Lexi's parents and one of her friends on Facebook and explained that I still have Lexi's dog.

No response.. August time, I try to call Lexi again but she's blocked my number. A few times from August to now, I knock on Lexi's parents' house door but no one answers. I slide a note under the door but I still don't hear anything. At this point, I'm feeling very stuck. Elvis is a lovely dog but I do not want a dog and never asked for the responsibility of one.

Even if I did want a dog, Elvis living in a small apartment when I work full-time isn't the best conditions for a dog. Of course I walk him multiple times a day, but I think he'd be better off living with someone else to live his best canine life. I started looking for a new home for Elvis, and eventually my aunt offers to have him.

She's a SAHM with a husband, and they have two kids aged 10 and 13 who love dogs. She has the time to walk Elvis during the day and they have a large yard which he can play in. They took Elvis home and got him microchipped. I feel like I've done the right thing. Lexi saw one of my aunt's Facebook posts that had a photo of Elvis and she started blowing up my phone, telling me I'm a horrible person.

She said to get her dog back right now. I told Lexi she ignored me for so long she's basically abandoned Elvis. Lexi said she was having a depressive episode and couldn't talk to me. I told her Elvis deserved a better home that I couldn't provide and she's too late. Lexi said I'm a heartless jerk.

Breakups are messy, but abandoning a pet adds a whole new layer of chaos. The OP’s ex, Lexi, left Elvis in his care without communication, creating a dilemma. Dr. Karen Sueda, a veterinary behaviorist, says, “Pets thrive on stability, and prolonged uncertainty can cause stress” . The OP’s efforts to contact Lexi—calls, messages, even notes—show he tried to honor his promise, but her silence left him with tough choices.

Lexi’s depressive episode explains her absence but not her failure to arrange for Elvis’s care. A 2022 study in the Journal of Applied Animal Welfare Science notes that 20% of pet owners facing mental health challenges struggle to maintain pet care, often relying on others without clear plans . The OP’s decision to rehome Elvis with his aunt, who offers a spacious yard and attentive family, prioritizes the dog’s well-being over sentiment.

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Sueda suggests clear communication in pet custody disputes, like written agreements. The OP could have left a final note stating his intent to rehome, but Lexi’s no-contact stance limited options.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s takes on this doggy drama are as lively as a Corgi chasing its tail. Here’s what the community barked about:

gw2kpro - NTA 'Hey Lexi, nice to hear from you finally and to see that you finally unblocked my number! Elvis certainly missed you for awhile but he got over it. Unfortunately, I'm starting a depressive episode of my own now, so you'll be blocked on this end until it runs it's course about 5 months from now. Talk to you then!'

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OutlandishnessNew259 - NTA if she was too depressed to respond she could have had her parents or a friend reach out. She abandoned her dog and you found it a loving home.

Fluffy-Doubt-3547 - NTA. She abandoned the dog. You tried several MONTHS to reach out. And not being whatever...but she could have told her parents to contact you (or a friend) and have you drop him off somewhere.

She's mad because she wanted you to watch him so she could for sure get him back when it was convenient for her. That's not a responsible owner. Even if I was depressed I'd want to know how my fur child was doing.

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UnconfirmedRooster - I'll probably get downvoted for this, but I'd say NTA. If you did go to the lengths you did to try to inform her, you made your best efforts to reach out to find a solution. The only thing I would have done differently is made it known in the note you left that you were intending to re-home him.

nerothic - NTA in my honest opinion.. Morally you did the right thing. You tried to contact her multiple times in several months time. You got no response whatsoever from anybody. You did your best and got nothing. You have always tried to do what was best for the dog. Many people would have brought the dog to the pound before you went looking for a home.

Not a pound but a home. Lexi or someone else could have contacted you in Lexi's name concerning the dog if Lexi didn't feel up to it. Instead nobody said a thing. Nobody offered to take Elvis of your hands, make a deal with you or make alternative arrangements.. ​. I don't know the legal side of it all but still NTA IMO.

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ShaneVis - NTA --- OK so the ex was having a mental health problem everyone can understand that but why then didn't the parents or the friend at the very least not respond? why was there no message, things are tough right now we're very sorry but would you be able to have Elvis for a bit longer, no nothing, you did nothing wrong.

InTheory_ - What more could you have done? She went no-contact. She only even resumed contact after seeing the facebook post. Without that, there's no reason to think it wouldn't have continued indefinitely until eventually you came to the same conclusion, with the same results -- just farther down the line. Something happened while she was away.

She nominally left to find an apartment, and by going no-contact de-facto broke up with you. The fact that her own family likewise went no-contact means she was bad mouthing you to them. She set you up to be the bad guy. There was no other outcome possible here. If it wasn't this, it would have been something else.. You're better off without this kind of crazy in your life. You dodged a bullet.. NTA

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GirlWhoLikesStories - NTA You agreed to home the dog until she got a more permanent place, and tried to contact her at every point throughout this process. How did she expect you to know that she still even wanted Elvis if she didn't communicate this with you. But, good on you for doing what's best for the dog.

Old_Ground6520 - NTA. A dog isn’t a lamp or a coffee table. Can’t just put a dog in storage because you are depressed. I hope Elvis is happy and that Lexi is doing better.

ColdstreamCapple - NTA You’ve tried every Avenue possible and gotten nowhere so she has a nerve to come back at you months later. I hope Elvis is now living his best life with a family who loves him

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These opinions fetch some strong points, but do they sniff out the full story?

This Corgi conundrum shows how breakups can leave pets in the lurch. The OP gave Elvis a better life, but Lexi’s pain is real too. It’s a reminder that pets aren’t just property—they’re family. What would you do if an ex left their pet with you and vanished? Drop your thoughts below and let’s unleash the conversation!

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