AITA for refusing to wash chicken before cooking it?

The kitchen can be a stage for culinary magic or a battlefield of clashing opinions. A Reddit user, a PhD microbiologist, found themselves in a sizzling spat when their partner questioned their refusal to wash raw chicken before cooking a honey-glazed roast. Armed with science, the user explained that washing spreads bacteria like salmonella, but their partner doubled down, framing it as a “dietary choice.” The tension boiled over, leaving the user wondering if they were too harsh.

This isn’t just a tale of chicken prep gone awry—it’s a peek into how expertise, trust, and stubbornness collide in a relationship. With the user’s partner fuming and the kitchen still smelling of honey glaze, readers are drawn into a savory debate about science, safety, and who gets to call the shots at the stove.

‘AITA for refusing to wash chicken before cooking it?’

I do most (read: all) of the cooking in our relationship, usually I cook while my SO sits at the dinner table and reads or does whatever. Usually they don't pay attention which is fine with me because I get into a zone when I'm at the cooktop and put my headphones in and turn into Gordon freakin' Ramsay.

Anyways yesterday this time my spouse showed an interest in cooking & decided to watch me cook because they wanted to learn something. Cool, no problem. We were having honey glazed roasted chicken with a bunch of other stuff that's not really relevant, its just important to know that we were having the chicken.

As I usually do, I take the chicken out of its package and defrost it in the microwave (if I forgot to take it out to defrost during the day, as was the case yesterday) for 2 minutes, after the 2 minutes were up I took it out and got to work seasoning it and stuff. My partner said 'oh you forgot to wash it' and I said nope I know what I'm doing.

They were concerned and said that if I don't wash it then I won't wash off all the salmonella and other germs that reside on the chicken. I said that if the chicken is cooked appropriately to a high enough temperature then it'll kill off all the microbes and they won't be an issue,

and washing the chicken just splashes the bacteria everywhere in the kitchen in water droplets which has the very real possibility of being a hazard. My SO still didn't believe me and kept trying to argue with me and (I might be the TA here) I finally got exasperated and said 'you might as well listen to me because I'm a PhD microbiologist, if you don't want to eat the chicken then that's fine,

but you've been eating it this whole time without me washing it and you've never got sick even a single time'. They got mad because apparently I'm not respecting their 'dietary choices' and some other B.S that I don't want to repeat here 🙄 but I mean everything I said is true. AITA?

Kitchen habits can spark fiery disputes, especially when science clashes with tradition. The Reddit user’s refusal to wash raw chicken was rooted in fact: washing spreads bacteria like salmonella through water droplets, posing a contamination risk. Their partner’s insistence, despite the user’s microbiological expertise, reflects a common misconception about food safety, turning a simple meal prep into a relationship rift.

Misinformation about food prep is widespread. The CDC (CDC Food Safety) advises against washing raw poultry, noting that cooking to 165°F kills pathogens, while washing increases cross-contamination risks. A 2022 USDA survey (USDA Food Safety) found 40% of Americans still wash chicken, driven by habit or cultural norms.

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Dr. Jennifer Quinlan, a food safety expert, states, “Washing raw chicken is a risky habit that persists despite clear evidence against it” (Drexel University). Here, the user’s stance was correct, but their exasperated tone may have escalated the conflict. Their partner’s “dietary choice” claim misframes a safety issue as personal preference.

To resolve this, the user could share credible sources, like CDC guidelines, to educate their partner calmly. Cooking together, with clear roles, could build trust. The partner should respect the user’s expertise while voicing concerns constructively.

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Check out how the community responded:

The Reddit crowd dished out opinions hotter than a skillet. Here’s the raw scoop from the digital kitchen:

Narcosis17 − NTA. Washing chicken is dangerous, instead of killing the germs causing the illness, you spread them everywhere the water touches. You're in the right.. 

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_Save_Bees_ − The CDC has said time and time again to STOP WASHING CHICKEN.. All it does is spread bacteria.. NTA

[Reddit User] − NTA, it's actually recommended to *not* wash the chicken as the water can splatter on it and spread illness more so than by not washing it

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lyraterra − DO NOT WASH RAW CHICKEN.. this has been a PSA.. NTA.

bmoreskyandsea − NTA. 'Dietary choices' Seriously? It isn't a diet or an allergy, them just being an i**ot and kinda controlling. You have the actual knowledge.. Also

Rittman925 − NTA. You're not supposed to wash chicken before cooking. It spreads germs around the kitchen.

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iimrosa − NTA. Your SO sounds a bit stupid and if they really want this dumb action done before cooking chicken they should do it themselves then, nobody washes chicken.

noplzstop − NTA. If you're doing the cooking, you get to decide how you cook. If they want it cooked a particular way, they should cook it themselves. And yeah, you shouldn't wash chicken (you know that, though) .

lyralady − NTA - pre-packaged/prepared raw chicken should not be washed, the CDC recommends against this, as does the NHS, for the reasons you stated. It's not necessary as long as you properly cook your poultry, and washing it may create backsplash. Theyre the one who decided to argue with a microbiologist.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. You know you're right.. But...defrosting chicken in the microwave? Ew.

Redditors backed the user, citing CDC and NHS warnings against washing chicken, while some poked fun at the partner’s “dietary choice” argument. Others winced at the microwave defrosting but cheered the user’s science-based stand. These spicy takes beg the question: do they season the debate just right, or overcook it?

This kitchen clash proves that even a simple chicken can stir up drama. The user’s science-backed refusal to wash poultry was spot-on, but the argument exposed deeper issues of trust and communication. Food prep is personal, but facts should guide the knife. Have you ever clashed over cooking habits with a partner? What would you do to keep the peace while staying safe in the kitchen? Toss your thoughts into the pot below!

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