AITA for refusing to take down negative school reviews?

Imagine uprooting your family to escape a school where your kids faced relentless bullying, only to have the school come knocking with pleas—and threats—to erase your honest reviews. One parent, fed up with a high school’s failure to protect their son and daughter, took to the internet, airing the institution’s dirty laundry. Their scathing posts, naming teachers and faculty, hit a nerve, swaying some parents to choose a rival school. But when the vice principal demanded the reviews come down, the parent doubled down with fiery defiance.

The saga didn’t stop there. Legal threats and PTO shade painted this parent as a villain, yet they stood their ground, sparking a wave of copycat reviews. It’s a tale of righteous anger, school accountability, and the power of a keyboard. Is this parent a hero for speaking out or a troublemaker stirring the pot? Let’s dive into the Reddit storm that’s got everyone talking.

‘AITA for refusing to take down negative school reviews?’

My son and daughter were relentlessly bullied at their high school and we moved, for that and employment reasons. I wrote some really negative reviews about the school on google and just about every website you can write reviews about schools on.

I wrote the names of the incompetent teachers,faculty and why exactly they are s**t and why nobody should send their kids there. Well the school vice principal contacted me, asking me nicely to take down the reviews, I heard from my friend who has their kid there still that the reviews have actually persuaded some people to send their kids to the catholic school down the street instead.

I told the vice principal to go to hell and f**k off. He then sent me another letter basically threatening me with legal action, saying it was defamation and such. I responded back with 'f**k off and leave me alone, why don't you stop the bullying issue at your school instead,

of trying to bully me, f**king dumbasses, if you solved htese bullying issues you wouldn't have such bad reviews' other parnets seemed inspired to write negative reviews as well. Well at the PTO meeting I was mentioned and they said I was a devil ruining their kids education and such, as a increase in students could result in less funding.

I doubt my inpact was that drastic but the PTO seems to think it will be. The vice prinicipal and other school admin have tried contacting my husband doing the same thing, saying he may be more reasonable htan me. My husband ignored htem.

This parent’s crusade against a bullying-plagued school is a raw mix of justice and fury. Naming and shaming teachers online is a bold move, but the school’s response—legal threats instead of action—only fuels the fire. Dr. Dorothy Espelage, a bullying prevention expert, notes, “Schools must address bullying head-on, not deflect blame” (University of North Carolina). The OP’s reviews, born of frustration, highlight a school’s failure to act, as their kids endured harassment dismissed as “kids being kids.”

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The OP’s situation is a clash of accountability versus reputation. The school’s inaction—ignoring physical and verbal bullying, possibly to protect donors—breached trust. Per the National Center for Education Statistics, 20% of U.S. students report bullying, often unaddressed (NCES). The OP’s reviews, if factual, aren’t defamation; they’re a warning. The vice principal’s threats and PTO’s outrage sidestep the core issue: the school’s negligence.

This saga reflects a broader problem: schools prioritizing image over safety. The OP’s harsh tone may ruffle feathers, but their core grievance—unaddressed bullying—holds weight. Dr. Espelage suggests schools implement evidence-based anti-bullying programs, like peer mediation, to rebuild trust. The OP should consult a lawyer to counter defamation claims, ensuring their reviews are factual. Updating posts to note the school’s threats could amplify their message, encouraging transparency.

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For now, the OP’s stand inspires others to speak out. Schools must listen, not litigate, to fix systemic issues.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit brought the heat, dishing out a mix of fist bumps and raised eyebrows for this parent’s bold move. It’s like a town hall meeting where everyone’s got an opinion, and no one’s holding back. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the community:

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kingpoop1045 − NTA. School: has a problem. You: points out the problem. School: instead of fixing the problem they want to sue you.

G8RTOAD − NTA I’d be speaking with a lawyer and getting a cease and desist letter sent to the school. Sounds like you also need to update the reviews about being bullied and threatened with legal action by the school.

Sounds like bullying is rife throughout the school from students through to the vice principal and now the PTO. You wrote the truth and parents had the right to know whether bullying is occurring and being brushed aside at the school.

[Reddit User] − So OP Responded to an INFO post below, but it doesn't show. It shows in OP's history. u/jangmi: Info: What steps did the school take when you informed them of the bullying? What steps did you take at home?

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u/Commercial-Law-864: The schools would say that they're just 'kids being kids' or that our kids were 'provoking them' which is not at all true as they always approached our kids, and I've seen it online when they constantly harassass my kids on social media.

The most the school did was have an assembly and call us parents in to discuss it. That's it. The bullying never stopped. On a daily basis they made fun of my kids for being southerners and speaking with a southern accent, calling them redneck hillbillies magatards and other slurs names.

The school would say the kids are just having fun. **The bullying sometimes was physicail so my husband taught them self defense, my son beat the s**t out of one of the bullies who wouldn't stop following him and harassing him. School suspended both of them.**

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The school never took any of the bullying seriously, and I highly suspect it was because some of the bullies are large donors to the school and one of them works for a company that supplies the school lunches. They don't wnat to upset htem. I'm going to go with ESH. I feel like we aren't getting the full story from OP, tbh.

Longjumping_2390 − NTA It’s not deformation if it’s true.

Maximoose-777 − NTA .... If your reviews are honest and not exaggerated. YTA ... for your reply’s, there is no need to speak in this offensive manner. If this is normal for you then, it gives serious doubt that this is the full story here

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Jangmi − Info: What steps did the school take when you informed them of the bullying? What steps did you take at home?

NinjaTurtleDude2 − Judging by how you talk to people you might be the bully yourself. You sure your kids weren’t the ones being the bully’s?

TallCombination6 − ESH. The school sucks for letting your kid get bullied. However, you don't need to be abusive about it. The way you spoke to them is way out of line and downright trashy.

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And I get the feeling from your overall demeanor here that your kid is one of those kids who is s**tty to people and then cries 'bullying!' when held accountable. I'm a teacher and whenever I I have a student who plays the victim, they have a parent like you.

[Reddit User] − If what you wrote in the reviews was factual, then NTA. It sounds like they’re devoting 1000% more energy to trying to rid the internet of negative reviews than trying to deal with the school’s bullying problem.

Might be worth seeking a legal consult to make sure your ass is covered, though, and if it is, have the lawyer send them a cease and desist and update the reviews to say the school has been pressuring/harassing you to remove them. Let them dig their hole. They’re handling this really badly.

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sweetjacket − INFO: Did you document your concerns while your children were attending the school? If they didn't take your concerns seriously then, they have nothing to complain about now.

Redditors largely backed the OP, slamming the school’s inaction and cheering their honesty. Some urged legal protection, while others questioned the OP’s tone. But do these hot takes capture the full picture, or are they just adding fuel to the fire?

This tale of a parent’s stand against a negligent school leaves us grappling with questions of justice, accountability, and the power of online reviews. The OP’s refusal to back down has inspired others but drawn threats and shade. Should they have toned down their words, or was their fiery honesty justified? What would you do if your kids’ school ignored their suffering? Share your thoughts and experiences—let’s keep this conversation burning bright.

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