AITA for refusing to return a lost pet?

A scruffy, limping cat appeared in a quiet backyard, tugging at the heartstrings of a kind stranger who couldn’t ignore its plight. What began as a mission to save a suffering feline turned into a deep bond, forged through vet visits and cozy nights. But years later, a shocking message from the cat’s original owner sparked a moral tug-of-war, leaving the rescuer torn between love and duty.

This Reddit tale unfolds a heartfelt dilemma: after pouring time, money, and affection into a neglected pet, should you hand it back when the past comes calling? The story stirs questions of responsibility and attachment, pulling readers into a cozy yet tense narrative where a fluffy companion’s fate hangs in the balance.

‘AITA for refusing to return a lost pet?’

So over two years ago a cat appeared in my yard. He was skinny, skittish, unneutered, and had a serious abscess on his rump, likely from a cat bite wound. I took him to the vet that night and had him treated. The vet estimated he was about six months old.

I called the local county shelters to file a found cat report. I also posted on Craigslist, posted his info at local vet offices, and kept an eye out for flyers. He was scanned for a microchip and didn't have one.

At that point I didn't intend on keeping him and planned to find him a home when he was healthy. After his abscess healed he was still limping and we discovered his hind leg had been fractured and healed poorly. I spent several thousand to fix it and he just sort of slipped into the family.

To recap...I found a sick cat and spent a good chunk to get him healthy. The cat had no id and no one responded to my efforts to find the owner. I've now had the cat for almost two and a half years. Recently someone contacted me on social media claiming to be the cat's original owner.

The cat has distinctive markings and he has pictures to back this up. They allowed the cat to free roam and assumed he had been killed when he failed to return home one night. The owner's daughter was very upset by the loss. He wanted the cat back.

I refused on the basis that I've now had the cat longer then the original owner did, and his lack of responsibility in searching for the cat or providing a form of id. I feel I did my due diligence and I'm now very attached to the kitty in question. I also worry about his future if I did return him.

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I've been told by the owner and some of his friends that I'm a giant a**hole for disappointing the daughter and stealing the cat. I think they're the a**hole for writing their cat off as dead without a search and expecting me to give him up after having him for two years. ??

This feline fiasco claws at the heart of pet ownership and responsibility. The Reddit user’s refusal to return the cat they nursed back to health pits personal investment against an original owner’s claim, revealing a clash of care versus neglect.

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The user’s efforts—vet bills, shelter reports, and community outreach—show a commitment the original owner lacked. Dr. Karen Becker, a veterinarian, notes, “Responsible pet ownership includes ensuring your pet is identifiable and safe”. The owner’s failure to microchip or search diligently suggests neglect, weakening their claim after two years.

This situation reflects broader issues of pet abandonment. The ASPCA reports that 6.3 million pets enter U.S. shelters annually, many unclaimed. The user’s actions likely saved the cat from becoming another statistic, highlighting the importance of proactive care.

For the user, keeping the cat seems justified, but offering the owner updates or photos could ease tensions, especially for the daughter.

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Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit’s got some claws-out opinions on this one—let’s dive into the candid, sometimes spicy takes from the community!

CJBing - Keep the damn cat. The daughter can’t be *that* sad after two years. After you put money into fixing that poor guy he was yours no matter what.

VexBoxx - You're not the a**hole. You're the person who is actually taking care of the cat. You're the human the cat deserves. Keep the cat. You were chosen.

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[Reddit User] - Keep the cat. It's yours now

evilmonkey2 - Not the a**hole. I'd keep it. However you might want to read through this page (I'm no big city animal law lawyer but did look it up and skim it). [lost pet law](https://www.animallaw.info/article/detailed-discussion-legal-rights-and-duties-lost-pet-disputes)

Only skimmed but sounds like the original owner could fight you for it but you'd have a pretty good leg to stand on given the shape the cat was in and your efforts to fix it up, the effort you put in to find the owner originally and the time frame (which might be past the statute of limitations anyways).. But no... You're not the a**hole.

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However keep in mind just because the cat was in bad shape and the original owner didn't respond to your search doesn't necessarily mean they were bad owners. It may have been missing for months before you found it during which time they quit looking and it suffered those injuries.. Still, I feel it's your cat now.

The_Foe_Hammer - He's a giant a**hole to try and rip a loved pet out of your home. I don't give a f**k if his daughter bawls for the next two years, they let the cat roam without identification, they let him get injured, they left him alone in the wild.. This is on them, not you OP. Props for rescuing the fluffball.

nutsaur - Tough situation. I'd be curious to see their response when you agree to happily return the cat...in exchange for the vet bills.

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mspoisonisland - I don't think you are the a**hole, but maybe a great idea to find out exactly how much of an a**hole the original owner is: ask him to reimburse you food, water, vet bills if he truly wants the cat back.

If you actually spent 1000s of dollars on vet bills and add in room and board, you can wash your hands of the situation by implying also that their lack of care has caused you to spend that much money.

If they are unwilling to pay you in full, then they should possibly accept or understand that while you didn't just abandon the kitty or take it to a shelter, that you caring for it is probably better than the cat returning to them. They are off the hook for a bill and you can send pictures to them on a regular basis if the daughter is that upset.

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csonnich - Not the a**hole. To add to what everyone else said here, cats are creatures of habit, and uprooting them and moving homes is a lot more stressful for them than for us. So moving the cat back to its old home after 2 years of being with you is probably not in the best interest of the cat, regardless of what this guy and his daughter think.

[Reddit User] - Black and white of it is If not for you their assumption would be true the cat would be dead. For the cats sake keep it.

DorianGreysPortrait - Definitely not the a**hole, keep the cat. As a responsible pet owner, one of the first places I’d go to look for my buddy would be the shelter. The fact that you reached out to shelters and everything you possibly could, and the ‘owner’ didn’t get to you until TWO YEARS later tells me they really were not trying hard at all.

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Likely what happened was daughter wanted a cat and family didn’t, they took no care of it and it became an outside cat, they assumed it ran away and was killed and didn’t give a s**t and didn’t look, then randomly came across something that led them to you two years later and all of a sudden decided they wanted it back. That’s no way to be a good pet owner. Now you, on the other hand, ARE a good pet owner.

These Redditors aren’t holding back, but do their fiery verdicts hold up in the real world?

This tale of a rescued cat and a late claimant leaves us pondering: where does responsibility end and attachment begin? The Reddit user’s dedication shines, but the original owner’s plea tugs at empathy. What would you do if a beloved pet’s past owner resurfaced after years? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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