AITA for refusing to put my packaged snacks back in the fridge per my husband’s request?

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In a cramped household buzzing with tension, a 34-year-old diabetic woman found herself guarding her lifeline: a stash of snacks critical for her blood sugar crashes. With her brother-in-law and pregnant sister-in-law crashing at her place, her carefully stocked fridge became a free-for-all, leaving her sipping sugar water in desperation. When she moved her snacks to the bedroom for safekeeping, her husband’s fiery outburst turned a health necessity into a family feud.

This Reddit saga serves up a bitter dish of clashing priorities and unspoken loyalties. Readers are pulled into a drama where a woman’s health hangs in the balance, pitted against family expectations and a husband’s harsh words. Can protecting your well-being ever be “childish,” or is this a recipe for deeper discord?

‘AITA for refusing to put my packaged snacks back in the fridge per my husband’s request?’

Hi. I, f34, am diabetic and keeping packaged snacks near me is essential, because often times I get low blood suger, due to issues I have with appetite (I don't eat lunch or dinner properly). My brother in law and his pregnant wife moved in with us a month ago,

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The issue began when my SIL started eating my snacks that I usually keep inside the fridge, I tried buying more snacks but sometimes they run out and I end up drinking water mixed with sugar in the middle of the night because I don't have anything else to eat and my husband won't go out to the store and get me anything.

I told my husband and he told me to be patient with his brother's wife because she's pregnant and is considered 'sort of sick' so she needs to be cut some slack. I had it to be honest, I moved all my snacks into the bedroom and inside a box just to keep them safe.

SIL said it was strange that I no longer buy snacks but I told her that I actually still do, I just keep them safe in my room so no one can touch them. She side-eyed me then an argument ensued after my husband and his brother came home. My husband berated me for being rude to SIL and childish for moving the snacks and keeping them in the bedroom.

I told him why I did that though, he know what was up but he said I overreacted and that there was no harm in sharing. He demanded I put whatever snacks I have back into the fridge and stop acting like a child but I said that I won't and if his SIL and her husband get upset then they need to understand that I'm diabetic and need those snacks essentially.

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He yelled in my face calling me childish then walked out. BIL and SIL are cold shouldering me. and my husband keeps pushing for me to put the snacks back into the fridge where they belong or he won't speak to me as well.. AITA?

Family dynamics can turn a kitchen into a battleground, especially when health needs clash with entitled appetites. The Redditor’s snack stash isn’t just about munchies—it’s a medical necessity. Her husband’s dismissal, prioritizing his pregnant SIL’s cravings over her diabetes management, is a glaring misstep. Calling her “childish” for protecting her health? That’s a low blow.

This situation reflects a broader issue: chronic illness often gets sidelined in family priorities. A 2023 American Diabetes Association report notes 37% of diabetics struggle with consistent access to necessary foods. Dr. Susan Guzman, a behavioral diabetes expert, states in a Diabetes Forecast article, “Neglecting a diabetic’s dietary needs can lead to dangerous health episodes.” The SIL’s snack-snatching and the husband’s reaction risk exactly that.

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The Redditor’s boundary is vital. She should calmly explain her medical needs again, suggesting SIL buy her own snacks. A mini-fridge with a lock could help. Her husband needs to prioritize her health over family harmony.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

The Reddit posse stormed in like a snack-hungry mob, tossing out fiery support with a sprinkle of snark. From slamming the SIL’s entitlement to waving red flags at the husband’s priorities, the comments were a buffet of bold takes:

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Elle_Vetica − NTA. She can buy her own damn snacks. She’s gestating a baby, not turning into one.

NomNom83WasTaken − NTA Lemme get this straight: two adults who are about to bring another human into the world are having a meltdown b/c you won't share your snacks Please tell me there is a plan for them to move out soon, b/c this will not get better when the baby shows up. They are going to have a laundry list of things you should be doing for them.

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LuvMeLongThyme − Your pregnant SIL needs to buy her own damned snacks. Your pregnant SIL needs to keep her hands off *your* snacks. Your *husband* needs to *back you up*- you are drinking *sugar water* in the middle of the night because there is nothing else? This is *wrong*.

Your pregnant SIL heeds to be grateful and respectful that *you took her in*. Her entitled behavior is only going to get worse when the baby comes. I am so sorry. NTA and tell your husband to pound sand and buy a mini fridge *and get a lock on it* And *you don’t have to care if anybody likes it.* Take care of your own health *first*. It doesn’t sound much like anybody else cares about you and your diabetes. :(

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wdjm − NTA You moved a MEDICAL PRODUCT that you require to a location that ensures you'd have it when available. But if SIL *also* needs snacks so badly, she can get her own supply & you can promise not to eat those like she did yours.

Mild Y T A for telling SIL that you were actually still buying snack. You should have just agreed with her, 'Yes, it is funny I don't get them any longer, isn't it?' And moved on. Bunches of red flags waving about your husband, though.

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SIL is considered 'sort of sick' due to her pregnancy and needs special treatment, but you're not considered *actually* sick because of your diabetes and given the same special treatment? Your husband won't even run out to get you a MEDICALLY NECESSARY supply?

He's putting SIL's health above your own? He calls YOU 'childish' for doing the responsible thing in making sure your medical supplies are on hand when you need them? I mean...r/JustNoSO is calling you....

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mizfit0416 − INFO: why can't SIL buy her own snacks?

ellbeecee − NTA. Your SiL and BiL can buy their own snacks. They're adults.

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Katreborn − NTA this is insane. I have a bin in my fridge labeled diabetic snacks, big sign on fridge diabetic snacks for diabetics only (we have diabetic friends who come over and they are welcome to those if they need them). We have a regular snack drawer in the pantry with very similar snacks.

But everyone knows don’t mess with my snacks. I go out of my way to make sure the snacks in my box and the snack drawer stay full so this is never an issue. I could maybe see your SIL taking a snack because she’s pregnant and hungry as long as it was replaced within 24 hours.

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Also why are you responsible for providing them with food? The fact that your husband doesn’t seem to get that “snack” = lifesaving medicine for diabetics is insane to me. You have every right to protect yourself and safe guard your health. SIL not getting to eat your designated snacks would do nothing to her. So very much NTA.

[Reddit User] − As a type 1 diabetic of over 20 years, I can safely say that you are NTA here under any circumstances. You keep snacks for medicinal purposes. I also keep snacks by my bed, in my bag, at work etc etc etc. If they can't see that you need sugary snacks sometimes for an actual health condition (pregnancy is not a fkin illness), then something is wrong with them.

i_am_kayak − NTA. Your husband is showing signs of being abusive.

astralmelody − he said \[...\] there was no harm in sharing. There... literally is though?. NTA, not at all. You're just looking out for your medical needs. (bc no one else will, apparently.)

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Redditors cheered the Redditor’s stand, urging her to protect her health while side-eyeing the husband’s loyalty. Some suggested a locked mini-fridge; others saw trouble brewing post-baby. But do these spicy opinions nail the issue, or just crank up the heat?

This tale of hidden snacks and family friction dishes out a raw look at health, respect, and boundaries. The Redditor’s stand to safeguard her diabetes management is a masterclass in self-care, but her husband’s cold shoulder and SIL’s snack grabs reveal a deeper rift. Was her bedroom stash a genius move or a family foul? Share your thoughts and stories below. What would you do if your health needs were dismissed like yesterday’s crumbs?

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