AITA for refusing to pay for dinner after my friend donated my stuffed animals?

Picture a cluttered dorm room, a cozy bed adorned with a colorful crew of stuffed animals, each one a tiny passport from a family adventure abroad. For 18-year-old Sophie, these plush companions are more than toys—they’re memories of childhood travels with her parents. But when a so-called friend sneaks in and “donates” them to a shelter, claiming they’re childish, Sophie’s world tilts. She retrieves her treasures, but the sting of betrayal lingers.

At a group dinner she’d offered to cover, Sophie faces a new blow: her friends side with the thief, mocking her for keeping “creepy” stuffed animals. Furious, she pays only for her meal and leaves, letting them scramble. Was she wrong to ditch the bill, or did her friends cross a line? This Reddit tale dives into the clash of personal boundaries and misplaced judgment.

‘AITA for refusing to pay for dinner after my friend donated my stuffed animals?’

My (18F) friend (18M) was in my dorm room with me and went over to my bed, which has my stuffed animals on it. He was like “whose stuffed animals are these?” I said they were mine obviously, and then he was incredulous and was like “You’re 18 years old. Why would you bring stuffed animals to college?”

And I was like, “why wouldn’t I?”He said that’s something that should be on r/sadcringe, and there’s zero reason why an adult should have stuffed animals whatsoever. I was like “mind your own business. It’s not my fault your parents never gave you stuffed animals.” So, it’s generally the norm for most people to have the door to their suite propped open almost 24/7.

Some people close it in the middle of the night, and some don’t. I came back to the suite later and my roommate told me my friend had come in and taken all my stuffed animals off my bed “since I had asked him to.” I called my friend and asked “where the f**k are my stuffed animals?” He said he donated them to shelter right off-campus because they’re “for little girls, not adults” and kids should have them.

I was seeing red. My parents used to get me a stuffed animal as a souvenir every time we traveled to another country growing up. He literally donated hundreds of dollars worth of one-of-a-kind stuffed animals that I can only get from other countries. I went to the shelter and demanded all my stuffed animals back, and I got them back, and I told my other friends he’s sick in the head.

When we were eating dinner, they all took side because they said it’s “creepy for a grown ass woman to have stuffed animals.” I was originally paying for the whole dinner so we wouldn’t have to have separate checks, and they were going to Venmo me. After this happened, I decided to just pay for my food and leave, forcing them all to scramble figuring out how to pay.. AITA for deciding not to pay after they defended his theft of my stuffed animals?

Friendships can fray when someone stomps on your personal space. Sophie’s friend didn’t just mock her stuffed animals—he stole them, dismissing their deep sentimental value. Psychologist Dr. Carla Marie Manly explains, “Dismissing someone’s cherished possessions can erode trust and signal a lack of respect” (Dr. Carla Manly). Sophie’s anger was justified; her friend’s actions were theft, not a prank, and the group’s pile-on only deepened the betrayal.

This incident taps into a broader issue: shaming others for “childish” comforts. A 2023 survey by the American Psychological Association found 62% of young adults find comfort in nostalgic items like stuffed animals, aiding stress relief . Sophie’s collection, tied to family travels, wasn’t just decor—it was her history. Her friends’ judgment reflects immaturity, not her.

Sophie’s dinner walkout was a stand for self-respect, though it stirred drama. Reporting the theft to campus authorities, as Redditors suggested, could set boundaries—dorm theft isn’t trivial. Moving forward, Sophie might lock her door and seek friends who respect her space, perhaps joining a club to find kinder allies.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s got opinions as plush as Sophie’s stuffed animals—here’s what they said about her dorm room drama:

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scribes_jack - NTA Your friend literally stole from you, and not just that but stole items with significant sentimental value, and then said you're the weird one?? And your other friends agreed with him?? Get a new friend group cause that one is trash holy s**t. They're stuffed animals man it's not f**king 'creepy' or whatever, plenty of people collect them well past childhood.

I have a small collection that I buy from museums and aquariums when I travel and I'm a 25yo man. They're soft and cute and mean something to you and f**k anyone who tries to shame you for owning them. Edit: thanks for all the awards, I'm glad we're all thinking the same thing here! OP deserves so much better.

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ComprehensiveBand586 - NTA and you should report him to your RA, the Residence Life Director, and even the police. He robbed you. Don't leave your door open anymore. There's nothing wrong with having stuffed animals. I'm more than twice your age and I still have a couple stuffed animals, as well as my favorite doll from childhood.

ArwenandEowyn - NTA Jesus these people are awful!! I'm a 40 year old woman and I just got my late 30s male friend a stuffed toy for Christmas. You need new friends, and by the sound of it, new roommates.

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ilikeyourbeardo - NTA. They aren't your friends. It would be one thing if they hadn't ganged up on you, but they were rude. Why should you cover their asses? I am 30 years old and I have several sentimental stuffed animals. I know plenty of adults that collect them for various reason. This person is immature and probably would end up on some cringe site for being self-righteous and gatekeeping. Keep your stuffed animals, get NEW friends.

OneDumbPony - The only people who complain about stuffed toys are children who want to act like adults. Real adults wouldn't care, would recognize those were sentimental gifts, and wouldn't steal your property. NTA.. Edit: Report this thief before he tries it with someone else.

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Maleficent-Signal295 - Definitely NTA.. Who died and made him ruler of your life? Who does that!? I mean, if you were petty AF like me... you could always scout his room for PlayStation/Xbox/Wii/Comics/figurines, things that would be considered childish to own etc.. ...and pretend to 'donate' them to a children's charity. 'You don't really play with these kids games/read those comics/like those figurines, do you?

I assumed after you donated my belongings you apply the same thought process to your own stuff... and i felt so bad after taking back my stuffed animals, i wanted to give them something in exchange.... you don't mind do you?' Let him run down to the charity to retrieve his stuff, which isn't there anyway. Let him sweat then give it back and then cut him out of your life.

potatoeconsumer - NTA. Wow this made me incredibly sad. I'm 22 and I still have a lot of my childhood stuffed animals. Granted they mostly stay in the closet but I would never be willing to give them up. If someone took them from me or really anything of mine I would flip.

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I honestly would file a report or something with your university if you feel like it. But please please join a club or activity or something so you can make some new and better friends. Ditch the others. They suck ass for real

Wintersnake117 - NTA they’re assholes wth it’s YOUR property. He’s not your friend and pls try to get a super single if you can

[Reddit User] - NTA he stole your property. Seriously consider new friends

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CATIONKING - NTA - I gave my wife (40) a stuffed animal that looked kind of like our cat and it’s now that the cat has passed on it‘s a great reminder of our wonderful friend. There are many other valid reasons for having a stuffed animal and only an a**hole would think that they know better.

From cheering Sophie’s stand to urging her to ditch her friends, Reddit’s takes are loud and clear. But do these comments cut through the fluff, or are they just piling on the drama?

Sophie’s story shows how quickly friends can turn foes when they disrespect what matters to you. Was she right to leave her friends with the dinner bill, or should she have kept the peace? Have you ever had a friend cross a line with your belongings? Share your thoughts—what would you do if someone tried to “donate” your memories?

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