AITA for refusing to let my wife name our kid something stupid?

In a cozy living room, a couple’s joy over their soon-to-be-born son turned sour over a single name: Mune. A 25-year-old Reddit user and his pregnant wife thought they’d settled on a list of baby names, but a surprise gift at a baby shower—a blanket embroidered with “Mune”—revealed her secret plan to push a name he’d vetoed. His frustration boiled over, leading to a heated clash that sent her packing to her mother’s.

This isn’t just about an unusual name; it’s a tale of trust, compromise, and the high stakes of parenting decisions. With the baby’s arrival imminent, the husband’s blunt rejection of “Mune” has left their marriage on shaky ground. Turning to Reddit’s AITA community, he’s questioning his approach. Dive into this drama and decide: was he too harsh, or was her secrecy the real misstep?

‘AITA for refusing to let my wife name our kid something stupid?’

Me (25m) and my wife (23f) are having our first child together. She is currently 9 months pregnant and could give birth anytime in the next couple of weeks. The only major fight we have had throughout her pregnancy happened a couple days ago, and it was about what we were going to name our kid..

It all started when we found out the gender of the baby. We didn’t do a gender reveal and decided to find out the gender at one of her checkups because we didn’t want to spend time making two lists of names then have to get rid of one after.

So after we found out we were having a boy we sat down together and made a list. Almost all of the names she suggested were normal, until the one that caused me to write this post. She suggested we name our son Mune.

She told me the name was from this movie she watched when she was younger and that it always stuck with her. I told her the name was a little out there and he would get made fun of for it. She claimed he wouldn’t and we started going back and forth trying to decide whether to add the name to the list or not.

Eventually she agreed to keep the name off the list, we picked some that we liked, and I thought that was that.. Later on in her pregnancy her mom decided to throw a baby shower as it was her first grandchild, and my wifes pregnancy was almost over and we hadnt celebrated once.

It was fine for the most part until we started to open the gifts. Most of them were normal baby things like diapers and bottles, until we got to her moms gift. My wife opened the gift bag and pulled out a blue handmade blanket.

It seemed normal enough at first until my wife unfolded it and low and behold there was the name Mune written on the blanket. When I saw it i was pissed but didn’t want to cause a scene so i stayed quiet. After that reveal I had family members come up to me and ask me about the name and why i hadnt told them.

I didnt know what to tell them as i didnt have a clue about this either and just had to embarrassingly tell my family that, which pissed me off even more.. Once the event ended and me and my wife went home I started to question her about the name.

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She got defensive and told me that it was a good name and that i was overreacting about it. I brought up the earlier points and told her it was a stupid name for a kid and if she wanted to name something Mune so bad she could use the name for a dog. She got upset and called her mom to come get her.

After she left she called me and told me she wouldn’t be coming back for awhile. Everyone ive talked to about this has said im not the a**hole, but now that my wife has been gone and ive been thinking about it I feel like I could have handled the situation better. Aita?

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Naming a child can feel like naming a star—bright with possibility, but heavy with responsibility. This Reddit user’s clash with his wife over “Mune” reveals a rift in trust and communication. He saw the name as a bullying risk; she saw it as a cherished nod to her past. Her secret move to share it with her family, revealed at the baby shower, breached their agreement, escalating a private dispute into public embarrassment.

This reflects a broader challenge in parenting: mutual decision-making. A 2023 study by BabyCenter found that 60% of couples disagree on baby names, often citing concerns about bullying or practicality. The husband’s veto aligns with protecting their child, but his harsh words may have deepened the divide.

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Psychologist Dr. John Gottman emphasizes, “Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect and shared decisions”. The wife’s secrecy undermined this, but the husband could soften future talks with empathy. Couples should list names both agree on and discuss concerns openly.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back on this naming drama, dishing out sharp takes with a side of humor. Here’s what the community had to say about this baby name battle:

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[Reddit User] - You are not over reacting and NTA.. Tell your wife this or better yet have her read this: Naming a baby is a 2 yes or 1 no situation. You do not name a child something your partner does not agree with. You find a compromise.

This is the start of many necessary compromises in life and it is a total AH move to unilaterally decide on a child's name despite your partner's misgivings. You need to put your foot down HARD on this because what she is doing is 100% not okay.  She is absolutely not mature enough for motherhood if she can not find a reasonable compormise on this.

I am a mom to several kids. There are names I have loved my husband has not and there are names my husband has loved and I have not. We have ALWAYS landed on a name that ended up being a great fit for our children. They might not have been our first choices but its not about winning.

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Its about finding a name you both love that will be a good fit for your child no matter what career they might have in life. And, Chief Justice Mune doesn't have any weight. The only thing a name like Mune is good for is if your kid ends up the drummer in a metal band.

[Reddit User] - NTA - Congrats and good luck with everything! I’m also about to give birth and we haven’t picked a final name yet. If my husband went behind my back and told his family a name and didn’t bother to mention it to me…

I’d be livid! Not to mention she told them early enough that they either had time to personalize or hand make a personalized gift! Names should be 2 yeses. I’m not gonna comment on the name…

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but your wife is TA for making an important decision behind your back, keeping you out of the loop, and telling people. That’s not ok. Hopefully things can settle down and you guys can talk it out soon. Hope all goes well!

AnywhereDeep4041 - NTA. You guys are allowed to downvote me but I think that naming your children after fictional characters is not a good idea. I know your wife liked that french animated movie but she should consider that naming a baby is not the same as naming a pet...

PurpleStar1965 - Mune: Guardian of the Moon (2014). Mune, a young fawn, is chosen as the new Guardian of the moon. From IMDb. Please don’t name your child this.. NTA NTA NTA

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JenninMiami - NTA I think that your wife is being pretty ridiculous about the name. That’s an awful name and you’re right that the kid will be bullied for this. Your wife is incredibly wrong for deciding to name the child that name anyway, regardless of what you think. It’s just as much your child as it is hers.

galacticghostx - NTA. it's your kid too. and Mune is an incredibly stupid name

WielderOfAphorisms - NTA. Both parents have to agree to the name. It doesn’t matter if it’s boring, weird or ridiculous…both have to agree.

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Kmia55 - More than worried about the name, I would be worried that your wife is deceitful and manipulative. NTA.

MonOubliette - This is one of those “two yeses/one no” situations. You did not have two yeses, but your wife proceeded as though you did, even going behind your back to do so. Maybe it’s her pregnancy hormones,

but she’s very much in the wrong here. Your kid is going to end up being called Moon Moon (or something along those lines) by his classmates. Kids are mean enough as it is. No need to give them ammo.. NTA.

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ScousePete - When my wife and I were picking names, we agreed that a unique name was ok, as long as it would be something the kid wouldn't have to constantly spell.. Mune would be constantly spelled Moon. Unless you pronounce it differently, then it would be Money. NTA

These fiery opinions roast the wife’s sneaky move, but do they miss the emotional weight of her choice? Reddit’s clear: naming takes two, and Mune’s a risky pick!

This baby name saga, stitched with secrecy and a controversial blanket, shows how a single word can unravel trust. The Reddit user’s stand against “Mune” was about protecting his son, but his wife’s covert push for the name sparked a marital storm. As they await their baby, finding common ground is key. What would you do if your partner pushed a name you hated? Share your thoughts, naming stories, or compromise tips below!

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