AITA for refusing to help pay for a new PS5 for my brother after his was damaged?

In a bustling household, the clatter of dishes and the hum of family life usually blend into a familiar rhythm. But for one 18-year-old woman, the harmony screeched to a halt when her older brother’s messy habits drowned his prized PS5 in a spilled cup of water. Picture a cluttered bedroom, cups of stale milk teetering on a desk, and a furious sibling pointing fingers at her for not cleaning up his chaos. Her refusal to fund a replacement console has sparked a family firestorm, with parents siding against her.

This isn’t just about a broken gaming system—it’s a clash over accountability and fairness. For those who want to read a similar story of household tensions: [insert link to previous article]. As the battle lines are drawn, readers are left wondering: is she wrong to stand her ground, or is this a lesson in responsibility her brother desperately needs?

‘AITA for refusing to help pay for a new PS5 for my brother after his was damaged?’

I (F18) live with my parents, sister(15) and brothers(18, 19). We all have assigned chores and everyone but my brother sticks to them. I do dishes and sweep, my sister cleans the upstairs bathrooms, my twin cleans the downstairs bathrooms and mop and my older brother take out the garbage and is supposed to take turns with mopping or sweeping sometimes.

My twin brother does his part but my big brother will let trash pile up (up to 3-4 bags), his dishes pile up in his room, and he keeps everything messy. We still continue to do our duties and clean but we leave his mess for him to clean.

I don’t mind cleaning dishes most times but he’ll eat cookies and milk and let the leftover mush sit in the cup and it stays in his room for nearly a week before he sets it on the counter for me to clean. Same thing with plates of food and bowls of old cereal and milk. My brother thinks rules don’t apply to him because my parents allow it.

I stopped going to his room to collect the dishes under his bed or on his desk. He apparently had a cup of water on his desk above his ps5 and due to whatever it spilled over it and completely ruined it. My brother came home and went mad when he realized what happened.

He came yelling at me because i hadn’t gathered his dishes and it was somehow my fault because had i collected it, it would’ve been avoided. I understand his anger as he spent $900 on it but i told him it was his own fault and he needs to learn to clean after himself. He told my parents what happened and they agree with him and i should do my job so these things don’t happen.

My brother wants me to help him pay for a new PS5 and i said no. I offered to help pay to fix it but he insists it’ll keep having complications later and wants a new one. I do have the money to help him but that’s money saved for when i can go back to college and live on my own.

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My dad thinks i should do it because it’s “my fault” but i still refused. My twin brother agrees with me and says i’m doing right by standing my ground but i’m feeling conflicted and feel maybe i am being an a**hole by not helping him out. I need an outside opinion on this. AITA?

This family feud over a ruined PS5 is less about electronics and more about boundaries and accountability. The young woman’s refusal to clean her brother’s room or fund his new console stems from a clear stance: his mess, his consequences. Yet, her brother’s outrage and their parents’ support reveal a deeper issue—enabling irresponsibility. By blaming her, they sidestep the real problem: his failure to take ownership of his space.

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Family dynamics often amplify such conflicts. A 2022 study from the Journal of Family Psychology found that 58% of sibling disputes in young adulthood involve perceived favoritism or unequal responsibilities. Here, the parents’ backing of the older brother risks fostering entitlement, leaving the sister feeling unfairly targeted.

Psychologist Dr. Joshua Coleman notes, “When parents enable one child’s irresponsibility, it breeds resentment in others”. The sister’s chore is washing dishes, not scavenging her brother’s room for them. His expectation that she prevent his accidents is unreasonable, and parental pressure only deepens the rift.

To resolve this, the family needs open dialogue. The sister could calmly explain her boundaries, while parents should enforce equal accountability, perhaps by requiring the brother to replace his own console.

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Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving up a feast of support for the sister’s stance. From calling out her brother’s immaturity to slamming the parents’ enabling, the community’s reactions are a fiery mix of logic and exasperation. Here’s what they had to say:

Vavamama - NTA. Why are your parents enabling him? It’s a pretty wild stretch of the imagination to say you should cover the cost for his negligence. It’s unfair, really bad parenting. Your twin has your back, though.

akoudagawaismywaifu - NTA. If he didn't want his PS5 to be ruined, he should have taken better care to tidy his room. He shouldn't get to blame you this is 100% not your fault.

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ImpossibleBop - NTA. You shouldn't be expected to clean anyone's bedroom but your own anyway, regardless of whether anyone else does their chores. And his PS5 wasn't damaged by you, it was damaged by him - it was his own cup in his own pigsty.

He shouldn't have had water by his electronics at all, and he should have cleaned up after himself. It's in no way remotely your fault, and it's frankly ridiculous anyone can even pretend it is. You shouldn't give him a single dime. He broke it himself. It is 100% his own fault.

Aromatic-Ice-968 - NTA. So much NTA. Why isn't it your mother's fault for buying the glass that had the water that spilled on his toys? Why isn't it the city's fault for having pipes that take water to your home? Why isn't it Sony's fault for making devices that aren't waterproof? It's utterly ridiculous that he's trying to blame you because he's a slob.

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No 19-year-old able-bodied individual should be counting on his little sister to come into his room and collect his dishes.. You are not responsible for his failures to clean up after himself. Your parents are doing him no favours by letting him escape accountability for his actions. The real world doesn't work that way.

Santos_Dude - Nobody with a ps5 in their right mind would put a cup of water on top of their ps5.. There's no way it would hold steady, seriously look at pics of the ps5. NTA, dont even offer to pay to have it repaired.

a-neurotypical - NTA. Lol he sounds like he's a 12 year old to be honest. It's so so so stupid to put liquids near electrotonics.. Also, he paid *that* much money for a ps5‽. Wow. Edit: I'm also baffled about your parents point of view. And how on earth does a 18 year old has that much money to spend on a (way too expensive) ps5?

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MillieHillie - NTA. His room. His responsibility. It's not your fault his mess caused damage to his property.

Jess1eR - NTA. It is not your job to go into your older brothers room to clean out his dirty dishes. Stand your ground. Don't enable your brother like your parents do. I feel for his future partner.

[Reddit User] - So it’s your fault that he left water near it and it got ruined? Because you didn’t come get the cup fast enough?. NTA Cleaning dishes is one thing, but it’s not your job to clean his room or get the dishes from there. Everyone is old enough to clean their own rooms. Your “older” brother lives like he’s 10 years old.

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Mysterious-System680 - NTA.. He deserves nothing and you should give him nothing. Your job is to do the dishes. That doesn't mean venturing into your brother's pigsty of a room to rummage through his filth to see if there are any dishes. He should be bringing his dishes to you.. Your parents are assholes for enabling him.

These Reddit hot takes cut deep, but do they offer a path to peace or just fuel the family fire?

A spilled cup and a broken PS5 have turned this household into a battleground of blame, with a young woman standing firm against her brother’s demands and her parents’ pressure. It’s a stark reminder that fairness starts with accountability, not finger-pointing. Can this family find a way to share the load, or will resentment keep them divided? What would you do if a sibling tried to pin their mistake on you? Drop your thoughts and solutions below—let’s sort out this messy situation!

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