AITA for refusing to give back a book owner sold by mistake after I purchased it?

Imagine snagging a stack of books for a steal—20 for $5—and discovering one’s a rare first-edition worth $1,000. A 29-year-old book lover hit this jackpot at a friend’s sale, only to learn the prized The Grapes of Wrath was sold by mistake, sparking marital strife for her friend. Urged by her parents to keep it, she did, costing her the friendship and her spot in a local sales group. Now, she’s left wondering if her treasure was worth the trouble.

This Reddit AITA post crackles with ethical tension, pitting a bargain’s thrill against a friend’s distress. The woman, torn between her find and her friend’s plea, asks if keeping the book makes her the villain. Let’s dive into this tale of books, bonds, and moral binds, with a nod to the thrill of a good deal.

‘AITA for refusing to give back a book owner sold by mistake after I purchased it?’

I (29f) am an avid buyer of sales and being part of different social media where people sell used items. The old adage is “One man’s junk is another person’s treasure. A lady who is also a friend places 20 books for sale for $5.00.

I immediately reply to the post to purchase the books, and pick up the books from my friend for $5.00. Later that night, I receive a call from the lady that she accidentally sold her husband’s first edition The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck 1st printing.

She tells me her husband is livid and it is creating marital discord with their marriage. I tell her that I will look into the situation and get back to her with an answer. I explained the situation to my parents and they said under no circumstance do I return the book.

It is ethically and morally yours, and you have no obligation to return it. My husband disagreed with my parents and said it was an honest mistake and you will lose your friendship over $1000 book accidentally sold.. I subsequently took my parent’s advise,

and kept the book, and she kept the $5.00.. AITA for not returning the book and losing the friendships? She subsequently threw me off her WhatsApp group of items people are selling, and can no longer buy on that platform.

This book brouhaha lays bare the clash between legal rights and moral choices. The woman’s decision to keep the first-edition The Grapes of Wrath, legally hers for $5, ignored her friend’s honest mistake and marital strain. Her parents’ advice to prioritize ownership over empathy fueled the fallout, ending a friendship and her access to a sales community.

Dr. Thomas Lickona, an ethics educator, states, “Moral courage means doing right, even when it costs you”. Keeping the book was within her rights, but empathy could have preserved the relationship. Studies show 80% of people value fairness in personal dealings over legal technicalities.

This reflects broader dilemmas of balancing personal gain with social bonds. Returning the book, perhaps for a refund or goodwill gesture, could have shown compassion. Dr. Lickona suggests reflective dialogue: she could have asked, “How would I feel in her shoes?” Therapy might help her navigate future ethical tugs.

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s posse didn’t mince words, hurling shade and moral musings like a book club gone rogue.

BeepBlipBlapBloop − YTA - You have every right to keep the book, but you're still an a**hole for doing it. Your friend made a mistake and you took advantage of her.. You can be right and an a**hole at the same time.

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DutchMadness77 − YTA. Just because you're legally in the clear doesn't mean it's ethical

[Reddit User] − YTA. It wasn't even her book to sell. Your parents are greedy AF, btw.

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Ropya − YTA.. Yeah, give it back.. Unless you perfer money over decency.

justlemmeread − YTA. you are a MAJOR AH. This was a mistake, one she quickly tried to rectify. You got TWENTY books for $5. You're already coming out on top of this. The book clearly means a lot to her husband, and the fact that she TOLD you this is causing a problem in her marriage and don't care speaks volumes about you.

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People make mistakes. What you're doing is intentionally being obtuse. There's no way you DONT know you're the AH here. Your parents gave you really bad, selfish advice tbh. Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if you accidentally gave away something of importance to your husband, he got incredibly upset with you and lost trust in you,

and when you attempted to get it back you were told nah, it's mine now? EDIT: I didn't read her other posts before I left my judgement. Clearly putting herself in those shoes won't be effective. Hopefully her self proclaimed belief in Karma will?

Budget_Psychology280 − YTA. I cannot fathom how you could possibly think this is the right thing to do. How would you feel if you made a mistake and your 'friend' (I use the word loosely) that benefitted from that refused to help you rectify it? You paid 25 cents for the book. FFS, give it back.

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WickedScepter710 − YTA and so are your parents. Just give them the f**king book back.

Damp_Unicorn − YTA. I’m not sure what you expected to happen here. Your (now ex) friend admitted to you she made a mistake that is causing stress and discord in her marriage and your first thought isn’t about being an understanding friend or even to offer any comfort,

no no no, your first thought is “well now, let me think on it, is our friendship reeeallly worth a book?” Then you doubled down and said “nah I’m good.” and you expect to somehow not be the a**hole in this scenario??? But at least you’re not the sole a**hole in this situation. Your parents were even worse for raising you that way.

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Embarrassed_Hat_2904 − Congratulations YTA, just like your parents raised you to be.

gwacemom − Legally you own the book. Morally? Give the dang book back. It was clearly an error and is causing her problems. YTA.

These Reddit roasts are fiery, but do they hit the mark on this ethical pickle? Is the woman a savvy buyer or a friendship wrecker?

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This saga of a bargain book turned bitter feud shows how fast a deal can unravel relationships. The woman’s choice to keep her $1,000 find, while legal, cost her a friend and a community, proving some treasures carry hidden prices. Empathy might’ve saved the day. Have you ever faced a choice between a steal and a bond? What would you do in her shoes? Toss your thoughts below and let’s keep the pages turning!

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