AITA for refusing to drive an hour and a half to pick up my daughter’s sick friend from the amusement park?

A group of teens hit an amusement park on a school holiday, chauffeured by one early-riser dad at 8 a.m. and slated for pickup by another parent—our poster—whenever the girls called it a day. The plan was simple: one drop-off, one return trip, all together, no individual shuttles. But when 14-year-old Andy suddenly fell ill with explosive diarrhea at 2 p.m., the blueprint shattered.

What makes the story more complicated, Andy’s mom was locked into an “unreschedulable” appointment until 6 p.m. and begged the poster to make a solo 3-hour round trip, claiming the original offer covered emergency extractions. The knot tightens as the other girls refused to leave early—having saved for months—while Andy’s public accident became school gossip, landing her in a two-day social blackout. Now Andy’s mom blames the poster for the humiliation, but every other parent agrees: sick kid, parent problem.

'AITA for refusing to drive an hour and a half to pick up my daughter’s sick friend from the amusement park?'

The kids planned a group trip on a school holiday; one dad drove them at 8 a.m., the poster agreed to retrieve them all later.

A lot of the kids at my daughters school decided to go to an amusement park on Friday since they had to day off for veterans day. My daughter and...

but they needed to be driven as its an hour and a half away and there's no easy public transportation there. So one of their dads agreed to get up...

At 2 p.m. Andy fell ill; the poster offered one trip for everyone, but the others wanted to stay until close.

At around 2 pm I get a call that one girl, Andy, is sick. I told my daughter I could be there in an hour, but I was only doing...

The other girls didn't want to leave until the park closed because the tickets were expensive and they wanted to get their money's worth. So my daughter said they would...

No other parent could come; Andy’s mom begged the poster, citing her own 6 p.m. appointment.

It turned out all the other parents had already made plans that day and said they couldn't pick Andy up. After calling them Andy's mother specifically called me asking to...

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Andy's mom had an appointment she couldn't reschedule, so she couldn't leave until 6pm to pick her daughter up. She stressed that I had agreed to pick up the girls...

The poster declined, unwilling to waste hours on multiple trips or force the group to leave early.

So I decided to say no to picking Andy up early. While my schedule on Friday was flexible in that I could pick up the girls whenever I still had...

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I also didn't think it was fair to the other girls to have to leave early since they had saved up to go. On the ride home my daughter and...

My daughter texted me earlier saying she didn't come today either. The mother of one of my daughter's other friends called Andy's mom to ask if she was okay. This...

The other mother has told me not to worry about it and prewarned the other parents about Andy's mom. The general consensus is that I should not have been expected...

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A single amusement-park vomit (or worse) exposed the fragile scaffolding of parental favors, where “I’ll pick up the girls” morphs into “be my on-call ambulance” the moment one kid’s stomach revolts. The original agreement was airtight: one dad sacrifices sleep for the 8 a.m. drop-off, the poster handles the single evening return—equal effort, shared burden, no extras. Andy’s 2 p.m. emergency flipped the script, but only for her mother, who treated the poster’s flexible schedule like a Uber Black subscription.

Counter-arguments about “village parenting” crumble under logistics: a 3-hour detour, potential biohazard in the minivan, and an hour of solo babysitting a non-relative until Mom’s mystery appointment ended. Socially, this mirrors a epidemic of entitlement where parents offload last-minute crises to whoever sounds nicest on the phone, eroding reciprocity and turning favors into obligations.

Psychologist Dr. Laura Markham stresses, “Children learn responsibility when parents model it—picking up a sick child is non-negotiable parental duty, not a group project”. Andy’s mom skipped that duty, then weaponized her daughter’s public humiliation to guilt-trip the one adult who enforced boundaries. The poster’s refusal wasn’t callous—it was the only move that preserved fairness for the other teens who’d saved for months and protected the poster’s own time. In the end, the real AH is the parent who chose highlights over her kid’s dignity.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The vast majority backed the poster, insisting sick-kid pickup is strictly the parent’s job—no exceptions for roller-coaster diarrhea.

murphy2345678 − NTA. Her mom should have picked up her sick kid. As soon as she knew her kid was sick she should have canceled her appt.

Fire_or_water_kai − Nta This lady sounds so entitled that if roles were reversed, she'd ask you to compensate for her daughter's ticket if the trip was cut short. It's sad...

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KittylitterMacaroni − You offered to drive the girls home when they were all ready to leave. Most people would have understood that you meant you'd do this in the same...

You did not offer to act as a car service to pick up and drop each one off separately depending on how they were feeling. Andy's accident and humiliation is...

Ok_Remote_1036 − NTA. Her mom had the obligation to pick her up early, not you. I would not have wanted someone else’s sick child in my car for 1 1/2...

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What if she had diarrhea in your car? Part of being a parent is knowing that your child may get sick and you will have to rearrange your schedule at...

A couple commenters floated a swap idea but still ruled the poster blameless.

MeatofKings − Did she offer to swap with you? That would be the only reasonable accommodation I would consider. You pick up her daughter early and she picks up all...

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Two users delivered snarky truth-bombs about the mysterious “unreschedulable” appointment.

Ok_Remote_1036 − I saw a post a few months ago where a mom said she had an “appointment she couldn’t reschedule” which was why she couldn’t pick up her sick...

[Reddit User] − Sick child always trumps "appointment that can't be rescheduled" What the hell was Andy's mom thinking? You're NTA. ..but Andy's mom. ..AH

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Some other comments from readers.

Square_Owl5883 − NTA If my kid is sick, its then my job to pick her up. The fact the mother thought it was on you is entitlement.

miteymiteymite − NTA. Any rational parent would not expect you to pick the one child up early. If your kid is sick and needs to leave early, you go get...

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Cannabis_CatSlave − NTA Any reasonable human would have understood your offer was for 1 trip. Sucks Andy got sick, but it is on her parents to pick her up if...

Minute_Box3852 − Nta. When a kid gets sick at school is their usual bus going to pick them up early? Is the school going to insist the bus go ahead...

Nope. You agreed to pick up all the girls after their planned fun-filled day. When someone's child gets sick during an activity, that child's parent needs to get them.

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ThisEnvironment6627 − NTA its sucks the one girl got sick but that’s in her mom not you, it’s fair to assume anyone with a working brain cell would know you...

pinekneedle − NTA Its a parents job to pick up a sick child AND you did not agree to be an all day shuttle service

emilitxt − NTA. I mean, OP if it was 2 pm when they called and you had agreed to pick up Andy, you’d have returned home with her 3 hours...

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she wasn’t going to be there to take care of her daughter until 6:00 pm. So, what exactly were you supposed to do with someone else’s sick kid for an...

And that’s not even to mention all the things that could have gone wrong on your way back with her — if she s__t herself in your car would her...

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Traditional-Rain-574 − NTA…. . your arrangement was to pick up all the girls together at the end of their day. Andy being sick and needing to be picked up falls...

Just like it would be if Andy was in a carpool for school and got sick at school. The parent driving that day is NOT responsible for picking up other...

they are only obligated to pick up at the end of the day. *alternate arrangements if the driver’s kid is the sick one unless child can be home alone during...

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The group outing unraveled when one teen’s stomach staged a revolt, yet the poster’s refusal to play solo chauffeur held firm against entitled demands. Andy’s mom prioritized her schedule, then scapegoated the only parent who drew a line. Have you ever been guilt-tripped into emergency parenting for someone else’s kid? When does “helping the group” cross into being taken for granted?

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