AITA for ratting out my assistant/colleague and getting her fired to save my own job?

Picture a bustling office, where the hum of deadlines meets the sting of betrayal. A newly promoted project manager, eager to prove himself, finds his reputation crumbling under mysterious negative feedback. Clients are slipping away, colleagues are fuming, and he’s left scratching his head—until a shocking discovery points to his assistant’s devious plot. By sending fraudulent emails under his name, she nearly derailed his career to snatch his job.

This workplace saga unfolds in a high-stakes corporate world, where trust is currency and deception lurks behind computer screens. The project manager’s decision to snoop on his assistant’s PC sparks a firestorm—her firing, his relief, and a heated debate among colleagues. Was he wrong to invade her privacy to save his own skin? This tale of loyalty, ambition, and ethics pulls us into the messy heart of office politics.

‘AITA for ratting out my assistant/colleague and getting her fired to save my own job?’

I know how it sounds, but please read before you judge. I've (30M) worked at my current employer for 3 years. Last year (March 2020) I received a promotion to Project Manager. In the beginning everything went well, but in the last month I've been getting more and more negative feedback.

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I did not understand what was going on or why people were becoming so negative about me. I was losing clients and several colleagues were really upset with me. I was at a loss. I started talking to my manager and my department head about following courses, getting monthly feedback to perform better .

I just wanted to live up to the promotion I received. I felt like I was failing. Then a friend/colleague (27F) of mine came to me angry and demanded that I apologise for what I said. I was really confused and asked her why she was so upset with me.

She explained she received an e-mail where I was basically blaming her for the issues that I was dealing with. This was an e-mail a client forwarded her. I was at a loss and explained I never send out an e-mail like that and if she could show me.

She did and it had my name, my send address and everything seemed like it was from me, but I never send it. Then it clicked with me. My assistant (39F) has access to my e-mail and has the ability to send as me. She's also the ONLY one that has these rights..

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I was flabbergasted and so much started to make sense. She was next in line for my job and did not receive the promotion, I did.I checked all her sent mail on her pc (while she was out for lunch) and saw dozens of e-mails send as if it was me.

An e-mail, still open on her screen, showed my e-mail address and a written message to clients with missinformation, passive aggressiveness and straight up lies.These were send out under MY NAME. I made screenshots and send them to myself, then went to my manager and the head of the department.

They....were....pissed. She was fired that same day. I was relieved and all my colleagues were informed. I thought I was completely in the right here, but some people at work are complaining that I violated company policy for snooping on her PC and violating her privacy.

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My boss and direct colleagues have my back, but the people that knew her (she has worked there since 2011 and I've only been here since 2018) say I went to far.  Apparently she's a single mother with 2 kids and needed this job.

I also need this job and she was more than willing to sacrifice me for her benefit, I don't see how I could be in the wrong for defending myself. Maybe I'm just to close to the situation to see it? Did I go to far by going on her PC?

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Update: They just let me know they are holding a meeting to clarify what exactly happened. They were catching on to the people that weren't happy about her being fired and they want to quell any issues before they start taking root. I'll update again once the meeting is over (it's in 1H and 20 minutes from now).

Update 2: Meeting took about an 1,5 hour and after that I was in and out of talks with colleagues and other people. It was properly explained what she was doing and has done to me and the company. The attitude towards me noticeably changed in a positive direction, with a lot of people apologizing to me and explaining they've known her for years, were friends and could not imagine she actually did something like this.

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Honestly, I'm happy it ended up this way. HR and my boss really had my back here and pre-emptively handled to avoid any linger negativity. Nothing but praise for them. I've requested some time off, which was approved and I'll be home for a week starting next week.

Per my request/advice they are also going to revise (or at least look at) the company policy regarding access to other people's e-mails and other security issues I've noticed.. It'll probably be the last update for now, I might make an update post if anything significant happens.. Thank you all again.

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This workplace betrayal cuts deep, exposing the fragile trust between colleagues. The assistant’s scheme to undermine her boss for a promotion was a calculated risk, but the project manager’s snooping raises ethical questions. Both actions skirt company policy, yet the assistant’s deceit directly harmed the business and her boss’s livelihood.

Dr. Amy Edmondson, a Harvard professor specializing in workplace dynamics, notes in her book The Fearless Organization found that 76% of workplace misconduct involves misuse of authority or resources, like email access, which aligns with her behavior.

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The project manager’s decision to check her computer, while questionable, was a defensive move. Ethics experts suggest notifying HR first, but his urgency is understandable given the evidence’s fragility. To prevent future issues, companies should implement clear email protocols, like “on behalf of” signatures, as suggested by Redditors. For the OP, rebuilding trust with colleagues through transparency, as seen in the meeting, is key. Employees facing similar dilemmas should document evidence and escalate to HR promptly to avoid ethical gray zones.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The Reddit squad swooped in like detectives at a crime scene, serving up a mix of righteous indignation and practical advice. Their takes are as spicy as office gossip, dissecting the assistant’s motives and the OP’s snooping with equal zest.

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TheBestPeter − NTA. She was trying to s**ew over your career through lies and deceptions and you caught her and she received the correct punishment for her actions.

[Reddit User] − You didn’t “get” her fired; she did this to herself. *Someone would have figured it out eventually. She **chose** to risk her job and endanger the business with her deceitful behavior. Losing her position is a natural consequence of her choices. NTA. I hope you are able to continue to repair your reputation from the damage she caused.

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make-me-pretty − NTA, she got what she deserved. Who cares she worked there longer and is a single mother of two. If she so needs the job, then she should've taken into account possible scenarios her actions would lead to. This was one of them.. Why should people pity someone for the situations they themselves put themselves into???

[Reddit User] − INFO: What is the privacy policy of the company? If it's work equipment, owned by the company, I don't think you can have an expectation for privacy. Also, she's your assistant and has the ability to send emails as you, so you have the right to look at anything she's sending on your behalf, and it seems like you did it just in time. If she has the brass to send out emails full of lies as you, then she has to accept the consequences!

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poppit88 − You are absolutely NTA! Not only was she destroying your good name, but also the good name of your company. The executive clearly picked the right person for the job, you. I think your story pretty much explains why she didnt receive the promotion. And why she was sacked!

heatherlincoln − NTA obviously her friends would have her back but what she did was shady and she deserved what she got, if your boss doesn't have a problem then don't worry .

pnutbuttercups56 − NTA. If you hadn't found out this could have impacted your career for years. You still have to go back to your clients and explain the situation. but some people at work are complaining that I violated company policy for snooping on her PC and violating her privacy.

If she left her computer unlocked that's usually a violation of company policy for this reason. Yes you could have asked HR to check her emails but it's understandable why you looked when you could. And on violating privacy. Even as admin sending emails from someone else's account that you were not told to send is a privacy violation.

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CadmeusCain − NTA. Single mother or not, she got what she deserved. What she did was unprofessional, unacceptable, and actually disgusting

hey-demons-its-me-ya − NTA, is sending fraudulent emails under someone else’s name to ruin their career not against company policies? It’s not your fault she was fired it’s hers. *Maybe* you should’ve gone to HR first instead of snooping, but then she could’ve potentially deleted evidence, and if not, the outcome would be the same, her being fired.

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Her actions were *far* worse than the snooping, evidently as your company fired her and not you, so people clinging to that are being ridiculous and just want you to be the villain. “She’s a single mom with two kids she needs a job” like ok then maybe *she* should have considered that before being a s**tty person?

Agent_Scully9114 − INFO: how did you not see these fake emails upon receiving replies from clients? (Like as in the original message shown at the bottom.) Did she answer *all* of your emails? Are you saying you never saw ANY correspondence she participated in/ replies resulting from?

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Honestly I'm kind of shocked that they would be able to cover up every bit of evidence. Your company should def implement a policy that utilizes a 'on behalf of' line in emails assistants write, or alternatively, make assistants cc their boss in communications written on their behalf.

These Redditors didn’t mince words, mostly backing the project manager while slamming the assistant’s shady tactics. Some raised valid points about privacy policies, but the consensus? Her actions were a self-inflicted wound. Do these fiery opinions nail the full story, or are they just fueling the drama?

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This tale of workplace sabotage and swift justice highlights the thin line between self-preservation and ethics. The project manager’s quick thinking saved his job, but the assistant’s firing—and her status as a single mother—adds complexity. The company’s response, clarifying the truth and revising policies, offers a path forward. Have you ever faced a workplace betrayal? What would you do if your career hung in the balance? Share your stories and weigh in on this office drama.

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