AITA for putting an intern’s future employment in jeopardy for walking off with my baby?

In a bustling office, a new father’s quick trip to grab documents with his two-month-old in tow turns into a workplace whirlwind. When his assistant hands the baby to an intern, who then changes the baby’s diaper without permission, his protective instincts kick in, leading to a bold move: threatening the intern’s future job prospects. His wife calls it an overreach, sparking a debate about boundaries and fairness.

This Reddit saga unfolds like a tense office drama, blending parenting, workplace dynamics, and snap judgments. The father’s reaction to a stranger handling his child raises a question: was his stance a justified defense, or a power play gone too far? Let’s step into this corporate chaos and sort out the mess.

‘AITA for putting an intern’s future employment in jeopardy for walking off with my baby?’

Okay, I have a two-month-old and am currently on paternity leave. I’m fortunate to work at a place that’s family-oriented and where I’m a senior employee. I’m able to get a longer than typical paternity leave by working remotely from home. However, I had to go into the office to get documents that could only be accessed on my work computer.

I thought I would give my wife a break and let her sleep in. So I grabbed my kid and headed to the office. Only my boss knew I was coming in, so the office was surprised. And as people do, they gravitated towards the baby. Lots of cooing, holding, passing around, etc. This was all taking place inside my office.

Then my baby started crying. I told my assistant that she can rock baby or walk around the office and they’ll go back to sleep. My assistant took her outside my office by her desk and I worked on gathering what I needed from my computer. I stop hearing crying and look up to see my assistant on her phone, no baby in her arms.

I rush out and ask where my kid is. She said asked one of the interns, let’s call her Mary, to take her because she got a call from a client. Like most places, my office has summer interns who are college students. I’ve only met them once during the interviews months ago but I went on paternity leave before they started and haven’t worked with them like the rest of the office has.

I know nothing about them personally since I’ve been out of the office. I went over to where the intern desks are and ask where Mary was and they said she went to the bathroom. I asked if she had my baby they said she thinks so and I asked one of the female employees if she could go to the bathroom to get her.

A minute later, they both come back, baby with Mary and diaper bag on her arm. I took my kid from her arms and told her I didn’t appreciate her walking off with my kid. Mary said my assistant asked her to hold the baby and when she did, it seemed like baby needed a diaper change so she went and did that.

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I told her I appreciate the sentiment but didn’t like the idea of a stranger walking off with my baby. In private, I told my boss that how I felt and that I would feel uncomfortable extending her a job offer at the end of her internship but the status of her employment now was up to my boss to decide.

When I told my wife, she said I went too far. The girl was doing a simple task and that she probably was given an “intern task”. I reiterated that the girl was a stranger and we wouldn’t let a stranger change our kid’s diaper anywhere else why work?

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Work doesn’t stop people from being psychos. Wife said she understood that but that I didn’t need to jeopardize the intern’s future employment and that I was throwing my weight around since I’m high in command.. AITA?

A new parent’s protectiveness can flare in unexpected places, like an office where a baby becomes the center of attention. The OP’s decision to bring his infant to work was well-intentioned, but handing the baby to his assistant set off a chain of events that ended with an intern, Mary, changing the baby’s diaper without his knowledge. His reaction—opposing Mary’s future employment—stems from fear but overlooks her good intentions and the assistant’s role in the hand-off.

Mary’s initiative to change a crying baby’s diaper was compassionate, not reckless, yet the OP’s discomfort with a “stranger” handling his child is understandable. The assistant, however, bears more responsibility for passing the baby without consulting him.

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As workplace psychologist Dr. Amy Cooper Hakim notes, “Power dynamics make it hard for subordinates like interns to refuse tasks, especially informal ones like childcare.” A 2022 study in the Journal of Organizational Behavior found that 70% of workplace conflicts involve unclear boundaries during non-work tasks.

This highlights broader issues of workplace roles and parental instincts. The OP’s seniority amplified his reaction, potentially unfairly targeting Mary, who acted responsibly given the situation. Dr. Hakim suggests addressing such incidents with clear communication—like thanking Mary while setting boundaries—and redirecting concerns to the assistant. The OP should retract his stance to his boss to avoid harming Mary’s prospects.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s dishing out some fiery takes on this office baby drama, and they’re not holding back! Here’s what the community said:

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blessedtheloops − YTA you took your baby into work. Then left the baby with an assistant which prevented the assistant from focusing on her job, then your assistant didn’t want to be your nanny and gave the baby to an intern

because she didn’t want to deal with the responsibility of dealing with a crying baby while trying to perform her job.. Why aren’t you mad at the assistant?. Also, the intern was following orders.. Don’t bring your small child to your office if you aren’t going to take 100% responsibility.

AmJusAskin − YTA, absolutely.. The intern was being nice, she noticed the baby needed changing and took action. You found her with relative ease, she had done nothing dangerous or reckless and was caring for your child while you were unable to.

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I get that you might not appreciate her actions, but to actually go so far as to punish her in such a serious way is absolutely awful on your part. I don't know how you expected her to know exactly what your rules were. She was handed a baby and dealt with it like a pro when it was absolutely not her responsibility..

You should have commended her IMO. If anything, your assistant was a little out of line handing the baby off to someone she probably knew you were not familiar with but in reality, none of these people signed up to look after your child.

vicky_the_farmarian − YTA, like... A really big one. You left your baby with somebody that isn't responsible for it, they pawned it off to an intern and they went the extra mile and changed your kid.. THEN You went the extra mile to make sure the intern wouldn't have a job AFTER they did free work for you... I wish I could vote twice.

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You're not mad your assistant? Your mad at the intern?! JFC man, get your privilege in check. I'd consider leaving my child with an assistant to be 'P**cho' behavior, not changing a dirty diaper.. The acronym doesn't do it justice. You're an a**hole.

ConvivialKat − YTA. This feels so old school. And, for the record, I'm old school. As in, I'm 62(F), and this whole thing harkens back to the time the boss would expect his assistant to do personal things. Things outside work hours or outside her work description. I was one of those assistants for nearly two decades.

You are a s**t. Don't bring your kid to work, hand her off to your assistant (and don't say she took the baby...YOU gave her the baby...in a busy office). And then you get pissed off because she has actual work to do and hands off your poopy pants baby to an intern who tries to do the right thing and changes YOUR baby's diaper.

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You think she wanted to get your baby's excrement all over her hands? Do you think it was fun for her? And then, oh joy, both of them get handed their asses for taking care of YOUR KID. The convos that happened after you left must have been choice. Congratulations. You're now the least liked person in the company.

usernameawesome1 − YTA. 'then the baby started crying and I asked the assistant to take the baby and rock her and walk around the office.....' YTA that is passing your baby off. Your the dad. You took it to the office. Unsurprisingly baby started crying and instead of comforting or taking care of YOUR BABY you passed off YOUR BABY to your assistant.

You passed baby along. When assistant got a call she needed to take instead of taking care of YOUR BABY, she passed along to the intern. You should be THANKING the intern because she actually not only took YOUR CRYING BABY (most people won't do, btw) got it to stop crying AND CHANGED YOUR BABY. Most single people wonttouch a diaper with a 10 foot pole.

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You repay said intern with being an AH and trying to get her fired at the end of her internship. YOUR BABY wasn't your assistants job nor the interns. Not part of THEIR JOB DESCRIPTION I am almost positive and then you act like a jerk for intern taking care of YOUR BABY.. THEY AREN'T YOUR BABYSITTER.

YTA if I didn't say it enough. You need to retract your statement to your boss and apologize and maybe if you aren't a complete d**che THANK the intern. If I was them I wouldn't want to work for your company just based on your attitude. edit. thank you kind stranger for your silver. I am happy that my thoughts resonated so much with so many others. I am humbled.

SWGoodToes − I also love how you’re just pretending the dirty diaper couldn’t possibly be the reason the baby was crying. Your baby was crying for want of a clean diaper, and instead of handling that your self like an actual parent, you pawned a *crying child* off on your employee,

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who is not a nanny and was unable to do her own job because of said crying baby, and so handed her off to an intern, who is DEFINITELY not the parent and whose job role is even *less* similar to “OP’s nanny,” but who was the first person in this whole chain with the wits

and compassion to change the damn diaper so your kid would be comfortable and quiet down and quit disturbing *the ENTIRE OFFICE*. And here you are acting like you did the right thing for doling out official reprimands to two people whose job titles are definitely not “nanny”

SG131 − YTA. Really shouldn’t have said those things to your boss considering she was the nicest intern and the one willing to take your kid after you TOLD your assistant to take the baby instead of asked. Not only that but she actually cared enough to change your kids diaper. Wow, you need to get your b**t back into the office to apologize to that girl and to clear things up with your boss.

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sce3698 − YTA for getting mad at Mary and jeopardizing her future. You should be mad at your assistant who just handed your baby off to her.

3lydia5 − YTA, it’s already fairly unprofessional to show up in your place of work with your baby. It’s disruptive and distracting. It would have been okay to give everyone a heads up and do it around lunch time or the end of the day when it’s less disruptive.

It’s super unprofessional and inappropriate that when your baby started crying you handed them off to your assistant and expect her to care for your baby. She is not your nanny, babysitter or any kind of caregiver. I want to let you off the hook and say it’s a one time favor which would be normal and acceptable but you’re coming off as pretty entitled.

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Your assistant is there to work, not babysit. It would be within reason for her to talk to HR or your own manager about workplace boundaries. She had a meeting that you almost caused her to miss because you expected her to watch your baby (again not her job).

Asking the intern to watch the baby is also problematic. There are power dynamics at play that make it hard for her to say no. Even the healthiest of office cultures interns feel at times like they can’t say no because they have no power or authority.

Again, it’s the same thing, the intern is not there to babysit. Yet, she went above and provided actual care for your child. She saw what the baby needed and provided it. She didn’t take your baby out of the building or do anything inappropriate.

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How did you thank her? By making sure she has zero chance of career growth. If she is not extended an offer and her work record is otherwise good, this is exposing your company to potential drama (worst case is a lawsuit, more likely an internal review of workplace culture and norms).

I get that being a new parent can make you overreact and be protective but you took it too far. You owe a few people apologies. It might be good to take a hard look at yourself and how you treat your subordinates. Ask yourself if this is part of larger pattern of boundary crossing and lashing out.

ZeusMN85 − YTA. It's not like the intern asked to be handed a baby with a dirty diaper. Your assistant was the one at fault here. If you want to put someone's job in jeopardy that is where you should look. You throwing your weight at the intern is what makes YTA

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These bold opinions pack a punch, but do they cut through the workplace haze, or just stir up more tension?

This tale of a baby, an intern, and a protective dad is a stark reminder that good intentions can spark workplace storms. The father’s fear for his child’s safety drove a harsh decision, but targeting the intern’s future may have missed the mark. Was his reaction a fair boundary, or an overstep of power? Share your thoughts—what’s the toughest call you’ve made as a parent or employee in a pinch?

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