AITA for publicly calling out my coworker’s mansplaining during my presentation?

Picture a sleek tech startup conference room, buzzing with anticipation as a 24-year-old woman launches into her meticulously prepared presentation. But every few sentences, a male coworker cuts in with a smug “actually” or “technically,” derailing her flow. After weeks of preparation and two failed private pleas for respect, she snaps, publicly calling out his mansplaining—and the room freezes.

This Reddit gem captures a fiery moment of standing up to workplace disrespect, wrapped in the all-too-relatable struggle of women navigating male-dominated spaces. Her bold move won cheers from some but a warning from her boss, leaving readers to debate: was her public takedown a triumph or a misstep? Dive into this clash of courage and consequence.

‘AITA for publicly calling out my coworker’s mansplaining during my presentation?’

I (24F) work at a tech startup where most of my colleagues are men. I've been here for 2 years and while I love my job, it hasn't been easy being one of the few women in a male-dominated space. Last week, we had a team meeting about our upcoming project. I spent weeks researching and preparing my presentation.

When I started speaking, my coworker (30sM) kept interrupting me with 'actually' and 'well, technically' comments. Every. Single. Time. This guy has a history of mansplaining to female colleagues while never questioning the guys. So halfway through my presentation,

when he interrupted me for the 5th time to 'correct' something that wasn't even wrong, I stopped everything and said, 'If you interrupt me one more time, I'm going to start a tally on the whiteboard of how many times you've done it, and we can all analyze the pattern after the meeting.'

The room went dead silent. My boss looked uncomfortable but didn't say anything. The guy turned bright red and stayed quiet for the rest of my presentation. Afterward, some female colleagues quietly thanked me, saying they'd experienced the same thing.

But my boss pulled me aside and said while he understood my frustration, I 'embarrassed a team member' and should have handled it privately. Here's the thing - I've tried private conversations TWICE before with this guy, and nothing changed.

My male colleagues interrupt each other all the time without consequences, but when I stand up for myself, I'm 'creating drama.' My boss suggested I apologize, but I refused. Now there's tension in the office, and I'm wondering if I went too far. AITA for calling out my mansplaining coworker in front of everyone?

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This presentation-room showdown isn’t just about interruptions—it’s a flare-up of gender dynamics in a male-dominated field. The woman’s public call-out stopped her coworker’s mansplaining, but her boss’s push for an apology reveals a deeper issue: who gets to set the tone for respect?

She views the coworker’s interruptions as dismissive, targeting women disproportionately, a pattern her female colleagues confirm. He might see his comments as helpful, unaware of their gendered impact. A 2022 study found 70% of women in tech experience microaggressions like interruptions, compared to 30% of men, highlighting the issue’s scope.

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Psychologist Dr. Derald Wing Sue notes, “Microaggressions like mansplaining undermine confidence and belonging.” His insight backs her frustration: repeated interruptions signal disrespect. Yet, Sue suggests addressing such behaviors collaboratively to foster change, indicating a private follow-up might have softened the fallout.

She could document future incidents and escalate to HR, while suggesting team training on inclusive communication.

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit lit up with reactions, from fiery support to strategic advice, as users dissected this workplace drama. Here’s a taste of the community’s takes, served with a side of sass and solidarity:

LimitlessMegan − NTA. I’d respond to my boss and say, “I *have* addressed this privately with him, twice. I’m sure the other women have too. As the manager of both of us it was absolutely within your power to handle and stop the behaviour in a way that wasn’t embarrassing for anyone,

why have you been making the choice to continue to let him embarrass or degrade us with these interruptions and when I finally did what I needed to to make it stop (because you didn’t) why are you choosing to chastise me while you’ve never chosen to address his behaviour?”

In fact, I’d arrange to have a sit down with the boss and all the other women to have this conversation. I’d tell him you get it it’s a start up and we can all be bound to certain behaviours but you think this incident is the perfect opportunity for all of you to discuss this very real problem that is absolutely a top down problem.. NTA 

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why have you been making the choice to continue to let him embarrass or degrade us with these interruptions and when I finally did what I needed to to make it stop (because you didn’t) why are you choosing to chastise me while you’ve never chosen to address his behaviour?”

miyuki_m − *Your coworker treated you like you weren't competent, and you defended yourself because your boss failed to do so.*NTA. Tell him you want an apology from the coworker for embarrassing you by interrupting you and mansplaining at you in front of the rest of the team. Maybe you need to go over his head since he doesn't even seem to recognize the problem.

In fact, I’d arrange to have a sit down with the boss and all the other women to have this conversation. I’d tell him you get it it’s a start up and we can all be bound to certain behaviours but you think this incident is the perfect opportunity for all of you to discuss this very real problem that is absolutely a top down problem.. NTA 

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miyuki_m − *Your coworker treated you like you weren't competent, and you defended yourself because your boss failed to do so.*NTA. Tell him you want an apology from the coworker for embarrassing you by interrupting you and mansplaining at you in front of the rest of the team. Maybe you need to go over his head since he doesn't even seem to recognize the problem.

SuggestionMedical736 − Next time, say, keep comments and questions for the end of the presentation. Then they have no choice but to shut the f**k up. NTA.

SuggestionMedical736 − Next time, say, keep comments and questions for the end of the presentation. Then they have no choice but to shut the f**k up. NTA.

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TararaBoomDA − Next time you present anything, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do start that talley. And encourage all your female colleagues to do exactly the same thing.. Because I think it's exactly what is called for when faced with this kind of masculine sabotage.

TararaBoomDA − Next time you present anything, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do start that talley. And encourage all your female colleagues to do exactly the same thing.. Because I think it's exactly what is called for when faced with this kind of masculine sabotage.

whattheheckOO − NTA, but you should go to HR to cover your ass. It doesn't sound like your supervisor is handling this well, and I don't want this to impact your career. Try to encourage your female colleagues to back you up.

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whattheheckOO − NTA, but you should go to HR to cover your ass. It doesn't sound like your supervisor is handling this well, and I don't want this to impact your career. Try to encourage your female colleagues to back you up.

kilgirlie − If you do apologize make sure it's something appropriate like I'm sorry my reaction to your rude behavior made you uncomfortable. NTA

kilgirlie − If you do apologize make sure it's something appropriate like I'm sorry my reaction to your rude behavior made you uncomfortable. NTA

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big_bob_c − NTA. I would tell your boss 'I have attempted to handle this privately, he was unwilling or unable to refrain from interrupting me. Since he stopped after I called him out in public, he obviously is able to refrain, and was unwilling to do so. You may want to discuss this with him privately, and determine exactly why he has always felt this behavior was acceptable in the past.'

big_bob_c − NTA. I would tell your boss 'I have attempted to handle this privately, he was unwilling or unable to refrain from interrupting me. Since he stopped after I called him out in public, he obviously is able to refrain, and was unwilling to do so. You may want to discuss this with him privately, and determine exactly why he has always felt this behavior was acceptable in the past.'

wacky_spaz − God I love a good mansplainer. I work with one or more specifically his boss reports to me. Last time he tried to ‘explain’ how systems I manage operate when one of the girls I just hired who’s literally a graduate nervous AF and stressed was presenting I kinda did what you did but ruder … ‘mate, I don’t need you explaining how a system I own and manage works. She wrote the pack, I approved it and if you got feedback send it direct to me and kindly dial it down’

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Ginger630 − NTA! And tell the boss you DID speak to him privately. TWICE. What does he suggest now?. Do you have an HR? I’d start documenting all of this.

wacky_spaz − God I love a good mansplainer. I work with one or more specifically his boss reports to me. Last time he tried to ‘explain’ how systems I manage operate when one of the girls I just hired who’s literally a graduate nervous AF and stressed was presenting I kinda did what you did but ruder … ‘mate, I don’t need you explaining how a system I own and manage works. She wrote the pack, I approved it and if you got feedback send it direct to me and kindly dial it down’

Ginger630 − NTA! And tell the boss you DID speak to him privately. TWICE. What does he suggest now?. Do you have an HR? I’d start documenting all of this.

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Grouchyscorpio − So, it's okay for him to ridicule you? But not for you to stand up for yourself? Time to look for another job where you are valued.

Grouchyscorpio − So, it's okay for him to ridicule you? But not for you to stand up for yourself? Time to look for another job where you are valued.

These Redditors bring the heat, but do their cheers for the call-out hold water? Is public confrontation the way, or is there a smoother path?

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This story crackles with the tension of standing up to workplace disrespect. The woman’s bold move silenced a mansplainer but stirred office drama, raising questions about gender, power, and professionalism. Was her public stand a necessary line in the sand, or could a quieter approach have worked? What would you do if faced with relentless interruptions? Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s unpack this tech-world tussle!

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