AITA for offering a higher price than the haggler at a garage sale?

The morning sun glints off a table of 1970s glassware at a quiet suburban garage sale, where treasures await sharp-eyed bargain hunters. A vintage shop owner, thrilled by the find, steps into a brewing storm as an aggressive haggler in his 50s tries to lowball an elderly seller. When the shop owner confirms the $15-per-piece price is fair, tempers flare, curses fly, and the haggler storms off, leaving everyone rattled.

What started as a simple transaction spirals into a lesson in fairness and garage sale etiquette. This Reddit story dives into the clash of savvy shopping and bullying tactics, sparking a debate about who’s really in the wrong.

‘AITA for offering a higher price than the haggler at a garage sale?’

I’m a vintage shop owner and I went to some garage sales the other day. I walked up to a sale with an amazing 1970s glassware collection priced at $15 each (but worth around $75-200 each.) There was a man in his 50s haggling with a woman in her late 70s.

I heard her say that the price would be $225 but would he do $150, he muttered something and she said how about $125 and I could tell he was still trying to talk her lower, but I didn’t know which pieces were being discussed. A guy in his 30s-40s who I realized was the older lady’s son came up to me and asked if I needed help.

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I told him I was interested in the glassware but was waiting to let this guy finish up his transaction. The haggler turned to me and told me he was buying all of it, and then the older lady turned and asked if I was interested. I told her yes but I’d look after they were done to see what was left.

Her son whispered in her ear and said “mom, don’t sell these for too low to this guy when you have someone else who is interested” so the lady turned to me and asked me what I would pay, and I told her I thought they were priced very fair at $15 each.

This set the haggler off and he started loudly telling everyone that in 30 years of doing this he’s never seen someone with such poor garage sale etiquette (me) and that I need to learn some manners. I told him I was simply asked what I would pay and told the truth.

The son chimed in and said if someone is willing to pay his mom what she is asking then they should go to that person.  The haggler said “FINE, I’ll pay $16 a piece then!” I just said look I’m not here to go back and forth, you two finish the transaction and if there’s anything left at the end I’ll take a look. The lady turned to me and said “go get your money, they’re yours.”

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The haggler who was easily 3x my size came and stood over me and started cussing me out, telling me to go to hell, that he hopes I burn in hell and something about pissing on me. A mom with two boys came up and told him there are children here and he needs to leave. He stormed off and got in his truck and drove away.

I bought all the glassware and paid the lady a little more than what she was asking. I told her and her son I am a vintage shop owner and I’ll be keeping some and selling some. The lady said she knew what it was worth but didn’t want to mess with eBay and was glad they were going to me instead. Everyone at the garage sale agreed this guy was a bully, but I still feel unsettled.

I never haggle, it’s just not in my nature and I certainly didn’t expect everything to unfold the way that it did. I feel slightly more at peace when I remember this guy was trying to talk an older lady out of what were already very fair prices. I don’t exactly live in a huge city and I’m worried I’ll see this guy again and what he will say/do to me if he does see me.. So Reddit, AITA here?

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Garage sales are a treasure hunt, but they can turn into a battlefield when egos and wallets collide. The shop owner’s honest response to the seller’s question—affirming the $15 price—upended the haggler’s lowball strategy, exposing his bullying tactics. The elderly seller, backed by her son, chose fairness over pressure, but the haggler’s outburst reveals a sense of entitlement that’s all too common in bargain-hunting circles.

Etiquette expert Elaine Swann, in an article for The Spruce, advises, “Respectful negotiation respects the seller’s price while offering a fair counter” (source). The haggler’s aggressive push for a steal disregarded this, while the shop owner’s candor aligned with the seller’s goals. The son’s intervention highlights family support in protecting vulnerable sellers from intimidation.

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A 2019 study in the Journal of Consumer Behavior found that 73% of garage sale shoppers expect discounts, but only 12% resort to aggressive tactics (source). The haggler’s behavior—cursing and intimidating—crossed a line, undermining the community spirit of such sales. This reflects a broader issue: balancing profit motives with respect in informal markets.

Swann suggests buyers offer reasonable bids and accept a seller’s decision gracefully. For sellers, setting firm prices and involving family can deter bullies.

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s reactions are as fiery as the haggler’s tantrum! Here’s what they said:

Krakengreyjoy - NTA They asked you a question and you were honest. The other guy was trying to rip off an old lady and it bit him in the ass. His loss.

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PhantomStrangeSolitu - NTA if the haggler had had the chance to make the deal by booting you out he would have done it without missing a beat. I assume he has no garage sale etiquette himself and was only angry that he couldn’t rippend the seller

[Reddit User] - NTA. And why doesn't it surprise me a guy like that was driving a truck? Seems like it's the Official A**hole Vehicle.

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Thelmara - I never haggle. You didn't haggle. You offered to buy them at the sticker price, that's literally the opposite of haggling.. NTA I don’t exactly live in a huge city and I’m worried I’ll see this guy again and what he will say/do to me if he does see me. Let him say what he wants - he tried to rip off an old lady, who gives a s**t what he thinks? If he gets aggressive, you call the police.

Ducallan - Any offer for sale is just that, an offer. You can counteroffer. There is nothing wrong with trying to get something you want by offering more than another person is offering to the seller. But that’s not even what happened here. You were asked if you were interested and what you would pay. You were asked *by the seller*. Who wants to make money.

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The haggler was just a bully who didn’t get what he wanted. He just was trying to make as much profit as possible, and got pissed off that he couldn’t rip an elderly woman off. He has some nerve to talk about etiquette when that was his reaction to losing out on a purchase.. Absolutely NTA.

Jatulintarha - I have no idea about 'garage sale etiquette' but seems like to me that the one who owns the items can legally choose to whom they sell and for how much.

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2dogslife - OK, I have been shopping estate sales, church sales, yard sales, flea markets, etc. for years/decades (and my brother became an antiques dealer as a result of my great finds), and I don't think that haggling is bad, I also don't think that what went down was wrong per se, son asked a question, you answered honestly, Mom got the price she wanted.

The dealer was out-of-control - but it wasn't a done deal, obviously. I have often gathered a pile of stuff and asked for someone's 'best price' which is often less than the combined asked price for all the items (say it would have been $23, but they'll take $20 as a fair ask). I once wanted a garden bench at an estate sale, the ask was $175, but I had $150 cash and the folks running the sale took it.

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So, What I am seeing as a rule is usually around 10-20% is a fair bit of barter if you are spending some money or buying lots of stuff. As a seller, I was once asking for $1-2 dollars for a lamp (pretty much a give-away price),

and the guy offered 25 cents - he responded he would wait to take it free from the curb & I countered I would take a hammer to it instead. I now take leftover items, toss them in the back of my car, and donate them all after a yard sale - lol! Our local thrift has donated millions to local charities with excess 'profits.'

Mamertine - NTA. I'm not a garage sale expert. You were asked a question. You responded truthfully. He was trying to intimate you rather that offer a fair price.. If he wanted them he should have just offered asking price and been on his way.

[Reddit User] - NTA, and kudos for giving this lady a fair price instead of the other guy ripping her off

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Craptabulous - I really hate these types of posts. 'I saved a puppy from a burning building, AITA??'.

These comments roast the haggler’s bullying, but do they capture the full nuance of garage sale drama?

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This garage sale saga shows how quickly a bargain hunt can turn into a showdown. The shop owner stood for fairness, the seller held her ground, and the haggler’s meltdown stole the show. Have you ever faced a bully at a sale or stood up for a fair deal? Drop your stories below and let’s keep the conversation sparkling!

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