AITA for not wanting to share “my” pizza ?

In a festive Italian apartment, the New Year’s Eve vibe buzzes with laughter and the aroma of fresh pizza. A vegetarian woman, mindful of her fish allergy, eagerly awaits her safe slice of veggie heaven among three pizzas ordered for a small group. But as the boxes open, her heart sinks—her pizza, the only one she can eat, becomes a free-for-all, leaving her nearly empty-handed.

When she politely asks her friend’s guests to stick to their meat and tuna pies, one snaps back, accusing her of dictating their choices. Hungry and frustrated, she wonders if she was wrong to expect a fair share. This Reddit tale slices into the tension of dietary needs and group courtesy.

‘AITA for not wanting to share “my” pizza ?’

I spent new years eve at a friend's house and she invited two other people I didn't know. We ordered three pizzas to share between the four of us. I told them I was a vegetarian and very allergic to fish, so we took one veggie pizza and they chose one with meat and the third with tuna.

I expected it to be obvious I would eat most of the vegetarian pizza, as none of them had food restrictions and chose the other pizzas together, but that wasn't the case. When the delivery came, one of the girls decided she wasn't feeling like eating meat anymore, and ate only the veggie pizza. Which would have been fine if the other two people didn't take a few slices of it as well !

I politely asked if they could take from the other pizzas and leave me the rest of the veggie one, but the girl said that it was not mine and that we ordered them for everyone. I made it known again that I couldn't eat from the other ones, but she argued that my own dietary choice shouldn't impact what other people eat (sorry for the awkward translation),

and that if she didn't want to eat meat that day I would be a h**ocrite to force her. I was really annoyed, but the other two people didn't say anything so I decided not to insist. I ended up eating almost nothing, and they didn't finish the other two pizzas because they all had enough.

I could have eaten a few more slices, if they were not covered in meat and fish ! When my friend complained that we were wasting food, I said exactly that and the girl went on me again with her dumb arguments.. AITA for expecting them to leave a bigger part of the only pizza I could eat ?

The woman’s frustration at losing her veggie pizza stems from a breach of basic courtesy. Nutritionist Dr. Lisa Young notes, “Respecting dietary restrictions in group settings fosters inclusion and prevents harm” . The guest’s refusal to prioritize the woman’s needs, despite her allergy, ignored the group’s shared responsibility to ensure everyone could eat safely.

This reflects a broader issue: navigating dietary needs in social settings. A 2021 study in the Journal of Food Allergy found 32% of people with food allergies face exclusion at group meals due to inconsiderate choices . The guest’s claim that her “dietary choice” shouldn’t limit others dismisses the woman’s medical necessity. Dr. Young advises clear communication before group meals to align expectations. The woman could have suggested splitting the veggie pizza evenly upfront.

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For solutions, the host might order extra veggie options in the future or designate allergy-safe foods. The woman could bring her own dish to ensure she’s covered . Her request was reasonable—everyone deserves to eat without worry.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit jumped to the woman’s defense, roasting the guest’s selfishness with humor and heat. From mocking tuna pizza to urging better boundaries, here’s what they said:

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bubbleuj - NTA. wtf is wrong with this girl? Also who puts tuna on a pizza? It’s like they did it on purpose. I wouldn’t hang out with these people again but if you do, order from a different pizza place and pay for it on your own. Then tell em to f**k off.

Tatertotsmagee - NTA. Your friends were pretty inconsiderate. I’m not vegetarian, but I have a couple friends that are. It’s not that difficult to find a place to eat/or make a couple dishes that meet their diet. It takes just a little more effort (the smallest amount) to ensure they are included/not hungry. Your friends should’ve just ordered another vegetarian pizza when they realized they liked it more than the others (veggie pizza is awesome).

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coconutshave - NTA— I think it’s common curtesy not to eat the vegetarian option when that means there won’t be enough for the vegetarian. If she didn’t want meat or fish she should have spoken up when the pizzas were being ordered. Usually I’ll say I’m fine with ordering meatless in that situation because I can go either way and it makes things easier. She was a really jerk for digging in after you pointed out what was happening.

greatgatsby26 - NTA! They chose pizzas you couldn’t eat. That was their fault, not yours.

AslanLivesOn - NTA. I don't think you should have expected most of the pizza but definitely half of it. At least you'll know for future reference what those girls are like.

LucidOutwork - NTA and WTF Your friend is rude and inconsiderate. And tuna on pizza? My guess is that your 'friend' did this on purpose to get at you for having the nerve to be a vegetarian.

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Auntjenny48 - I had a similar situation with an office lunch. We had pizzas in for everyone and there were 6 vegetarians that absolutely would not eat meat. I ordered 6 veggie pizzas along with 10 each of various pizzas with various meats. When the pizzas arrived, some of the meat eaters jumped in front of the veggie pizzas and proceeded to eat all of them and then grab many slices of the meat ones.

The vegetarians had nothing to eat. I had management make an announcement about it for future lunches but it continued. I had to police the food eventually and enforce the no veggie option if you eat meat. When we had catered food it was worse so I had to go without lunch those days so I could guard the vegetarian foods so the vegetarians could eat.

Sometimes people who eat meat are just rude and purposefully do these things to be jerks. There were 10 guys at my office who constantly did that and laughed at their joke of ruining lunch for the vegetarians. I am not a vegetarian but I respect people’s dietary regimes even if I don’t agree with them.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. The girl should have thought about her preference of the day before ordering pizza and gotten two veggie ones. Next time hoard half the veggie pizza and tell her that her fleeting dietary choice shouldn't impact how much you can eat.

chivil61 - Ha! I was a vegetarian for 15 years.. Me-I’d like a veggie pizza, just no olives.. Everyone else-ok, but we need meat on our pizzas!! Pizza arrives. The veggie pizza is the most popular item and I get one piece. It’s gone instantly. Tons of meat pizza leftover.. Every F-in time.. Edited for typos.

[Reddit User] - NTA If I might suggest, next time pay and order only your own food.

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These Reddit takes champion fairness, but do they miss the nuance of group dining etiquette?

This pizza party debacle shows how quickly thoughtlessness can spoil a meal. The woman’s plea for her veggie slices was fair, not selfish—her allergy left no room for compromise. The guest’s defiance turned a celebration into a standoff. How would you handle a group ignoring your dietary needs? Drop your thoughts below!

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