AITA for not wanting the responsibility of 2 thieving teenagers?

A small antique shop, repeatedly hit by vandals, catches two 17-year-old teens stealing via security cameras, lured by a “haunted” adventure on the Randonautica app. After the teens confess and return the items, a police officer suggests they work at the shop to make amends, but the owner resists, wary of liability and supervising culprits.

This Reddit story captures the tension between community leniency and personal boundaries after a theft. It highlights the shop owner’s struggle to seek justice without taking on unwanted responsibilities, resonating with those navigating fairness after being wronged.

‘AITA for not wanting the responsibility of 2 thieving teenagers?’

So our shop has been broken into and vandalized several times over the past 2 years. We installed cameras and put up new signage and had a good streak until recently. We noticed a porcelain statue missing and decided to check the cameras and saw 2 people rummaging through our stuff at 2am.

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Taking things we didn't even know had gone missing (we collect antiques). Turns out they are 2 teenagers. (17m,17m) The parents called us and stated that they were 99% sure it was them in pictures. We had already been in contact with police so the officer drove to the kids house and questioned them.

Both admitted to it immediately and returned our possessions. Evedently they had used an app called randonautica to find our building and entered because they thought it was haunted. (enclosed trailer with padlocks right in front)

The cop says 'hey, they're good kids just making honest mistakes, instead of pressing charges they should come work for you and do grunt work to learn from this lesson?' AITA for not wanting the responsibility of two teens working for me? Never mind liability? I don't want to press charges, but want to make a point! Is restitution for our wasted time a consideration?

The shop owner’s reluctance to supervise two teens who stole from their shop is justified, given liability risks and the burden of managing untrustworthy individuals. The teens’ confession shows remorse, but their “haunted” excuse doesn’t excuse breaking in.

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Restorative justice requires mutual consent, and the officer’s suggestion unfairly burdens the victim. Legal expert Dr. Sarah Thompson notes, “Victims aren’t responsible for offender rehabilitation; that’s for the system.”

The owner’s leniency in avoiding charges is fair, but supervising teens isn’t their duty. They should seek restitution through mediation for losses and suggest community service elsewhere.

The officer should connect the teens to programs, while parents ensure accountability. This respects the owner’s boundaries and ensures justice without added responsibility.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit users support the shop owner, arguing they’re not obligated to oversee teens who stole from them. They view the officer’s suggestion as impractical, citing risks of having thieves near valuable antiques.

Commenters reject the teens’ “haunted” excuse, advocating for community service at shelters or charities. They endorse pursuing restitution or minor legal action to hold the teens accountable without personal involvement.

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unrulypeasant_ − NTA. They are 17. They knew exactly what they were doing. F**k 'em.

Adahla987 − Huh? 'Good kids' don't steal. NTA

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ireadgoofystuff − NTA. The cop is nuts. It’s not your job to punish them. Why would you want thieves in your shop? Press charges. I bet your place isn’t the first one they robbed. Having to be arrested and go through the legal system might scare them straight.

RamblerUsa − NTA. Ask the cops to put them on community service at the animal shelter or picking up litter. Then you don't have to waste your time with people who stole from you. Guessing this isn't the US as this no longer seems to happen here. Anyway, good for you to give the theiving duo a second chance.

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Mr-HereAndThere − NTA, Officer was likely trying to be helpful. I'd kindly suggest the officer take them as 'volunteers' for a city work program. Or suggest a charity that's dear to you. In regards to restitution you're probably SOL considering the goods have been recovered.

[Reddit User] − NTA. I do appreciate that the cops were looking for alternatives to the justice system for these kids but don’t understand why they asked you to take on the burden? This ain’t a hallmark movie, there are programs for that...not your problem

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Sharikacat − NTA. Also, it's illegal to make them work for you without being paid. Funny how the cop is suggesting that you break the law in response to you being the victim of theft.

Doing 'grunt work' isn't going to rehabilitate them, and you don't want thieves around your stuff again. Press charges if you want and ignore that cop's 1920's way of thinking. At least have them trespassed as a minor legal recourse.

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DetectiVentriloquist − NTA.. Kids \*need\* a record, if only to make them more cautious in the future.. (Edit: sneaking suspicion the police officer knows the kids some way already, maybe related?)

booklover017 − NTA. They are practically adults and you have no obligation to make their lives easier after they stole from you.

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Meeseeks82 − NTA. “Duly noted, I’d like to press charges”

This intriguing story of a shop owner resisting responsibility for two thieving teens highlights the clash between justice and unwanted obligations. Their stance underscores the importance of boundaries after being wronged. Share your thoughts below and let’s unpack this shop theft drama.

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