AITA for not telling the new employee that most of the others have criminal records?

The hum of machinery filled the air as a 30-year-old shop owner leaned against her office desk, facing a fuming young admin. The new hire, barely 23, had just uncovered a coworker’s criminal past and expected swift action—only to learn her boss, with three felonies of her own, saw things differently. Running a machine shop built on second chances, this woman’s mission to help ex-convicts clashed with her employee’s shock, sparking a fiery debate about trust and transparency.

For this boss, giving former inmates a shot at redemption is personal, rooted in her own journey. But when her admin quit, claiming she deserved a warning about working alongside ex-felons, the owner stood firm. Was she wrong to keep her team’s pasts private? Readers might feel the tension of balancing compassion with workplace expectations.

‘AITA for not telling the new employee that most of the others have criminal records?’

So I ( 30f) run a small machine shop, I inherited it. My dad left it to me because I couldn't get another job with my record, and I return the favor by recruiting from the local halfway house at times. I do look into their cases, these are people that served their time and are transitioning into the community.

So paperwork keeps piling up because I'm busy on the floor, so I hire an admin, 23 F. All is good for a few months, until she approaches me in th er smoking area one day and says she has something to tell me. So we go in my office.

She proceeds to tell me that one of the machinists has a check writing charge, she googled him because she was pretty sure he was a guy her aunt dated and went to prison. I basically said oh? Interesting. Mostly because I didn't want to confirm or deny. She said that she figured that I would want to know so I could fire him.

I said ' I have 3 felonies myself, so I don't have a no felon policy because that would be a bit hypocritical, don't ya think?' She got all upset and said I should have told her, and I told her I had no obligation to. She says I should have warned her. She put in her 2 weeks .

My friends think I'm right, but her friends sure don't. She and her friends tried to blast me on a local FB page, but the admins took it down, so there is that. So reddit, AITA? ETA : I'm a 30 year old woman. Just saying because lots of comments seem to assume I am a man.. 2. Also no predators are hired.

This shop owner’s standoff with her employee is a raw look at the clash between personal values and workplace norms. By hiring ex-convicts, she’s championing rehabilitation, but her admin’s reaction reveals society’s lingering stigma. Her refusal to disclose coworkers’ records was both principled and practical, though it left the young hire feeling blindsided.

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Dr. Michelle Alexander, author of The New Jim Crow, notes, “Once released, former prisoners face a second-class status, often denied jobs and opportunities” (The New Press, 2010). The owner’s hiring practice counters this, aligning with studies showing that stable employment reduces recidivism by 20% (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 2019). Yet, the admin’s discomfort reflects a common fear of the unknown, especially for a young woman in a male-dominated shop.

The broader issue is workplace transparency versus privacy. Legally, employers aren’t obligated to disclose employees’ criminal histories, and doing so could violate privacy laws. The owner’s stance protects her team’s fresh start, but a general hiring policy statement could set expectations for future hires.

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To move forward, the owner might consider a brief disclosure during onboarding, like, “We hire from diverse backgrounds, including those with past convictions, to support second chances.” This respects privacy while fostering openness. For the admin, exploring workplaces with different cultures might suit her better, but reflecting on her biases could bridge understanding.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit brought the heat, with users dishing out praise and practical tips for the shop owner’s bold stance. Here’s what they had to say:

Freakin_Merida88 − NTA. I will say, turning a business into an opportunity for ex-cons to reenter the community is a wonderful venture, and I hope you are successful in it.

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FigSufficient − NTA. Personally I believe in prisoner reform when possible. This wouldn't be possible in society if we basically marked each ex-convict with a big red X. These people should have an opportunity to find their place in society and move on from their past lives and honour the second chance they've been given.

My-Cousin-Bobby − NTA... pretty sure it would be illegal for you to do so as well

daudadruparsprungur − NTA. Her recourse upon discovering that she worked with rehabilitating felons was to quit, which she did. You get a big smile for helping to get people who *have already paid their debt to society* (because that is what finishing prison and/or probation means) get back on their feet.

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Catfiche1970 − NTA. She also way overstepped in saying 'I'm telling you SO YOU CAN FIRE HIM.' She needed to go even if she didn't put in her 2 weeks. If she even attempts to collect unemployment, you better fight it.

[Reddit User] − NTA You may consider making it more known about your hiring practices so that you attract employees with more compassion like yourself. There’s a coffee company near me that actively recruits ex-convicts and has incorporated it into their business strategy.

MikeNoble91 − NTA, what a great thing you're doing. Many people say that the transition from prison to society should be easier, but few are actually willing to put their money where their mouth is. That said, you should tell people that you hire felons before they start.

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Not to 'warn' them, but to make sure you aren't hiring people who will abuse or harass your other employees. If someone has a problem with you giving people a second chance then you don't want them working for you anyways.

bloodyyuno − NAH. I understand where she is coming from; a 23 year old young woman surrounded by people with a criminal record would be a scary experience if that's all she knows about them, especially depending on what kind of crimes they had committed. Even so, the people you've hired have served their time, and you're helping them re-integrate into society.

They shouldn't be punished for their past actions forever, and they deserve to be able to keep moving forward. There are plenty of places where she could work that doesn't allow felons to be employed, so she could find somewhere else to be (and probably be no more safe for it).

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Also you are not obligated by law to tell anyone anything about the employees you hired, and they are not obligated to wear a sign on their chest that says 'ex-felon'. At some point she has to realize that she has to take people as people, because she doesn't know anyone's full story.

That doesn't make her an a**hole for wanting to be informed, because she's been taught her whole life probably how to try to keep herself safe which probably included staying away from felons. Thats not her fault that she has some learning to do, its more society's fault.

fizzbangwhiz − You definitely don’t need to and shouldn’t disclose your specific employees’ histories. However you might want to consider making more of a general statement to potential new hires in the future so that people don’t think you’re lying or so they don’t hassle your employees. Something like “I believe strongly in second chances,

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and there may be employees here now or in the future who have past criminal records and who are just here working an honest job, so if you’re uncomfortable working in this type of environment, this isn’t a good fit for you.” (After checking with your other guys to make sure they’re ok with it.) That way you know you will only be bringing on other people who are decent, compassionate humans.

FireLaCroix − NTA, you are under no obligation to tell her about your record, and I am sure you are PROHIBITED from telling her about other people's records. She has a hang-up, and that is her problem. She didn't like working with people with records, so she left. Problem solved!

These spicy takes cheer the owner’s mission but nudge her toward clearer communication. Do they nail the balance between compassion and practicality, or is there more to unpack?

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This story sparks a thorny question: where’s the line between transparency and privacy when second chances are at stake? The shop owner’s commitment to redemption shines, but her admin’s exit highlights society’s unease with ex-convicts. What would you do as a boss or employee in this situation? Have you worked alongside someone with a past—or been given a second chance yourself? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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