AITA for not paying my nephews hospital bill?

In a cozy suburban home, a routine playdate turned into a family crisis when a 12-year-old boy’s curiosity about medication led to a hospital dash. A mother, already juggling her teenage daughter’s complex medical needs, faced a shocking discovery: her nephew had tampered with her daughter’s blood thinner, landing himself in the ER. Now, her sister’s demand for her to cover the hospital bill has ignited a fiery dispute, with threats of lawsuits looming.

This Reddit saga dives into the murky waters of family responsibility and child safety. The mother’s refusal to pay, citing her nephew’s reckless choice, has split opinions. Was she right to stand her ground, or should she shoulder the cost of a child’s mistake? Let’s unpack this tense tale of misplaced medicine and family fallout.

‘AITA for not paying my nephews hospital bill?’

I have 4 kids, Alexis (15), Lucas (12), Ronnie (11), and Allie (8). Alexis has a lot of health issues. We’ve been in and out of the hospital for months. Something important to know is that Alexis has a picc line (big take home iv) and is getting blood thinner injections every day so we do have needles and vials around the house.

She also occasionally gets pain meds through her picc line. My sister has 2 kids, Andrew (12) and Alyssa (9). She brought them to the house to play with my kids not too long ago. Alexis had a minor procedure a couple days before they came. I was showing my sister a video of Alexis at the house right after the procedure.

She was still very high and it was hilarious (she’s fine with me showing family these videos). Andrew came into the kitchen, heard the video, and asked what it was. I said that I was just showing his mom a video of alexis after she got some pain meds. A few hours later the kids were grabbing a snack and Andrew took the container with needles and vials of the blood thinner out of the pantry.

He asked what it is and I said it’s Alexis’s medicine. My sister and I left to take our dogs for a walk and I wanted to get a snack out of the pantry when we came back. I noticed Alexis’s medicine box was moved so I looked at it and one of the blood thinner vials was a lot more empty than before and a needle/syringe was missing.

Sister and I interrogated all of the kids and we found out Andrew gave himself a high dose of the blood thinner because he thought it was her pain meds and he wanted to get high. My sister rushed Andrew to the hospital and he stayed overnight. Now she’s sending me the hospital bill because I was the one that left the medicine where he could get it.

I’m refusing to pay because if my 11 and 12 year old boys and 8 year old girl know not to touch other peoples medicines, her 12 year old should be able to see a vial and syringe and not d**g himself. She’s threatening to sue and I really don’t want to go the legal route with this. AITA for not paying the hospital bills?

Edit: I would like to clear this up. This is an injection, not an infusion. All you need to do is inject it into the subcutaneous tissue and I don’t even know if he did that correctly.

When a child’s mistake leads to a hospital visit, family tensions can skyrocket. The mother’s refusal to pay her nephew’s bill stems from her belief that her sister should teach her son not to touch others’ medications. Andrew’s decision to inject an unknown substance reflects a dangerous lapse in judgment, raising questions about supervision and responsibility.

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Dr. David Fassler, a child psychiatrist, notes, “By age 12, children should understand the risks of handling medications, especially prescriptions”. A 2023 CDC report highlights that 15% of pediatric ER visits involve accidental medication exposure, often due to inadequate storage or education. While the mother could have secured the medication more safely, Andrew’s intentional act shifts much of the responsibility to his parents.

Locking medications in a safe box could prevent future incidents, and the sister should address Andrew’s behavior through counseling. Both families need open communication to avoid legal escalation.

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Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit’s response to this family drama was a mix of shock and sharp takes, with a pinch of humor thrown in. Here’s what the community said:

North_Badger6101 - NTA. 'I’m refusing to pay because if my 11 and 12 year old boys and 8 year old girl know not to touch other peoples medicines, her 12 year old should be able to see a vial and syringe and not d**g himself.' Yes, exactly. Your sister has a huge problem and it has nothing to do with a 12 year old who doesn't know not to touch other people's medicine.

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No, it's worse than that. Andrew knew what he was doing was wrong, but was motivated to do it anyway, to get high. That tells me this is not Andrew's first experiment with illegal drugs or prescription d**g abuse. His experimentation is totally fearless,

which indicates he has an addiction problem which could have started years ago. The blood thinner he took is the least of that kid's problems. It's time to start testing the boy's blood for all drugs on a regular basis. He's got issues.

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CatahoulaBubble - NTA your nephew committed a crime. He stole your child's medication with the intent to get high. He's old enough to know better than to steal someone's medication and your sister needs to get in front of this quickly before she ends up with an addict on her hands.

Squeakhound - NTA. Your nephew did something extremely foolish, and he should have known better. He’s not toddler playing with sharp objects left laying around. He’s a 12 year old budding addict. Your sister has a lot more to be concerned with than hospital bills. Also blaming you is missing the point—her son has problems.

[Reddit User] - Her 12 year old wants to get high?!?! And she’s mad at YOU?! What in the holy Heights of deflection! NTA.

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GodsGirl64 - “Hey sis, if you wanna talk legal, why don’t I just call the police and report the theft of my daughter’s medication by your son who admitted he wanted to get high. That admission strongly suggests that he’s been high before and somehow you never noticed that your 12 year old son was doing drugs. I’m sure CPS would be very interested in this as well.”

FeralBaby7 - NTA I think this post is going to be a contentious one. People don't operate in much grey area when it comes to kids, there's a lot of absolute thinking and nuance gets lost. But, IMO, the kid is 12, he stole and made a s**tty decision. He's not four drinking drano that you left out, he's 12. In the future I'd lock it up anything/everything now that you're more aware of what type of person he/your sister is.

Dizzy_Emotion7381 - NTA. The blood thinners are a prescription. Tell your sister that you will have to file charges on your nephew for theft of prescription drugs because that's what he did. His emergency room records can be subpoenaed in a criminal case. You may want to go that route anyway. That boy needs help!! I don't know anyone who stole needles and meds at 12 to shoot up. Yikes!!

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Live-Mail-7142 - Sister and I interrogated all of the kids and we found out Andrew gave himself a high dose of the blood thinner because he thought it was her pain meds and he wanted to get high. Ok her 12 year old kid wanted to get high and stole medicine to do this. He used a needle to inject himself. I think your sister has a bigger issue than the hospital bill

Devils_LittleSister - I'm 43 and I'm still jittery when I have to inject myself with 2mm baby needles. How does a 12yo know how to inject a proper needle and has no fear/preoccupation about it? Maybe he's done it before? or seen someone do it at home?. NTA and your sister needs to talk to her kid.

SessionOk919 - NTA but your sister needs to know, she has a bigger problem than a hospital bill. Her son! He needs to be put in therapy straight away, to get to the bottom of why he wanted to 1. Get high & 2. Get attention.

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These Redditors didn’t mince words, but do their judgments on responsibility and parenting hold up in this tricky situation?

This story of a medication mix-up reveals the delicate balance of trust and responsibility in family homes. The mother’s stand against paying the hospital bill defends her belief that kids should know better, but it risks fracturing family ties. How would you handle a situation where a child’s mistake leads to a costly consequence? Share your thoughts or experiences—where do you draw the line on family accountability?

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