AITA for not making sure my godson sleep during an overnight flight?

A man traveling to a friend’s wedding with his best friend and his 15-year-old godson faced criticism after the teenager stayed up all night reading a book during an overnight economy flight. The godfather had bought the engaging mystery novel to help the boy relax and possibly doze off, gave him a gentle suggestion to sleep soon after takeoff, then fell asleep himself. Upon waking near landing, he discovered the teen had read the entire flight without closing his eyes.

What makes the situation more complicated is that the boy’s father upgraded to first class using his travel points and left his son in economy with the godfather. After landing, the father expressed frustration, calling the godfather irresponsible for not enforcing sleep, which sparked a debate about whose duty it really was to manage the teenager’s rest.

‘AITA for not making sure my godson sleep during an overnight flight?’

The trip began with excitement and a thoughtful gift to help pass the time.

My best friend ‘Nick’(35m) and I(35m) live in the same city. We decided to travel together to our other friend ‘Toby’(35m)’s wedding.

All three of us went to school together. Nick’s son ‘Albert’(15) is my godson and he was also invited. Toby is another honorary uncle for him.

Anyways, the day before we left I bought Albert a copy of ‘Death On The Nile’ to read at the airport and on the flight, figuring it will help him...

During the overnight flight, seating arrangements changed unexpectedly.

The day of the flight, Nick who travelled extensively for work and had many miles and points got an upgrade to first class.

I stayed with Albert in economy. It was an overnight flight. I told him ‘You should go to sleep in the next hour’ and dozed off soon after take off.

The outcome led to tension after everyone reunited upon landing.

Woke up an hour before landing to find that he hasn’t gotten any sleep at all and has been reading the book I got him the entire time. Told me...

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When we landed, Nick was upset that I didn’t make sure Albert got some sleep. He said it would have been nice of me to do so and even called...

The core issue revolves around who bears primary accountability for a 15-year-old’s sleep on an overnight flight. The godfather acted reasonably by providing an entertaining, low-screen alternative to phones, offering a clear suggestion to rest, and then allowing the teen space to make his own choice. At 15, Albert is old enough to decide whether to follow advice or lose himself in a gripping story—something many book-loving teens have done for generations.

Forcing sleep on a teenager, especially one wide awake and engaged, is rarely effective and can create unnecessary conflict. Opposing views emphasize that the father, as the legal parent, should have checked in or sacrificed his upgrade to stay closer and monitor his son directly. Blaming the godfather feels misplaced when the parent enjoyed first-class perks while delegating supervision. The godfather fulfilled a supportive role without overstepping into parental territory.

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In the wider context, this reflects common tensions in shared travel with friends and family. Upgrades and personal comfort can unintentionally shift burdens onto others, and teenagers’ independence means adults must balance guidance with respect for their decisions. The godfather handled the situation appropriately, prioritizing enjoyment over strict enforcement.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The vast majority of readers sided firmly with the godfather, pointing out that parental responsibility doesn’t disappear just because someone else is nearby.

Ok_Paint_4308 − NTA. If Nick was so concerned about that he should've given his seat to Albert, it's much easier to sleep in first than economy lol. But either way...

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medium_buffalo_wings − NTA He's the dad. Why didn't he make sure his kid was getting sleep? That's his responsibility, not yours.

Poesy-WordHoard − NAH. I get why Nick's irritated that Albert didn't sleep. But then again, Albert is 15! I was such a bookworm as a kid.

Stayed up all night with a flashlight under the covers since 8.. .because I'm reading the latest Stephen King. (Heck, I've got his latest right now).

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My parents could only police my reading so much. ..until their wilfull child decides differently. Hopefully Albert could get a small nap pre-wedding. Or at least not be too miserable...

neverthelessidissent − NTA. He’s 15. He can make his own choices about when to sleep, and staying up reading is great.

Laines_Ecossaises − NTA If Nick was that concerned that his son slept then maybe he should have walked his ass out of first class to check on him. He gets...

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Rare-Selection2348 − He's not your son. He left you with him in economy. You told the young man he should get some sleep. The young man chose to read the...

A smaller group took a more neutral or understanding stance, acknowledging both sides without assigning blame.

Far_Dependent_8975 − NTA But using Hercule Poirot to sleep was not the best bet 😅 If is father was so worried about his sleeping time he could have checked himself,...

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Spiritual-Bridge3027 − Nick got an upgrade and chose to use it himself (apparently) without even offering it to his son.

And then, he chastises you for not playing the proxy parent (to a teen who is anyway not going to be really obedient to everything you say/suggest). You are NTA...

A couple of comments added humorous or practical observations to lighten the mood while reinforcing the main point.

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Excellent-Count4009 − NTA ​ His parent was RIGHT THERE. So this is ridiculous: "Nick was upset that I didn’t make sure Albert got some sleep. ". ​ Nickl was an...

Kooky_Protection_334 − NTA you can't force people to sleep. I have a 13 yo and we do overnight flights regularly. When we leave from Dallas at 4 pm it is...

If we get an hour of sleep we count ourselves lucky. And if he was so worried about it he should've sat with his son and given you first class...

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This lighthearted travel mishap shows how quickly a fun gesture—like gifting an absorbing book—can turn into an unexpected parenting debate when sleep schedules and upgrades get involved. The community overwhelmingly agreed the godfather wasn’t at fault, placing the onus back on the father who chose first-class comfort over supervising his own teenager.

Have you ever been in a group trip where someone expected you to handle their family member’s routine? Do you think parents should always stay close to their kids on flights, or is it fair to delegate to a trusted friend or relative? Would upgrading and leaving a teen in economy change your view? Let us know your take in the comments!

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