AITA For not including my coworkers in smoothie runs any more?

Step into a bustling office, where a 27-year-old’s lunch-break smoothie runs for coworkers turn sour. After one colleague repeatedly dodges paying for five smoothies, despite promises, the woman politely asks for repayment, only to be called impatient.

Fed up, she stops buying drinks for anyone, sparking complaints from the non-paying coworker and criticism from others who miss the perk. Her stand for financial fairness stirs workplace drama, leaving Reddit buzzing over whether she was justified or too harsh.

‘AITA For not including my coworkers in smoothie runs any more?’

I (27f) work in an office building that's around 10 minutes walk from a local smoothie shop. I often walk there on my lunch break, and I used to ask around and see if anyone wanted anything before I went, and they would pay me back when I brought them their drinks.

A couple of coworkers would not pay me back straight away but buy me drinks when we went out to a bar for a work mixer, so it evened out. One of my coworkers (52f) has started being more and more relaxed about paying me back, to the point where I had bought her about 5 smoothies and had nothing in return.

The next time I went on a smoothie run, I politely asked if she could transfer me some money or give me some cash for the drinks I'd bought her the week before, and she apologised for forgetting and said yes of course she would. I bought her the smoothie and the next day when I checked my account, she had not given me anything.

I know she had my details saved as I have received money from her that way several times before. I asked her one more time via message if she could please pay me back for her drinks and she sent back a message saying 'I already said I would, don't be so impatient' After that I started just getting myself a drink and not buying any for anyone else.

When she saw me coming into the office with smoothies just for me she kept complaining, saying she would have asked me to get her something if she knew I was planning to go to the smoothie place. I said that I was low on funds right now and couldn't cover the cost of everyone's drinks, and she scoffed and said everyone pays me back anyway so why should being broke affect anything.

I reminded her she still owed me for several drinks and she instantly flipped to saying I was petty and selfish for only picking up my own drink, and that she already said she will pay me back so I should leave it alone and stop bringing that up. I told her I wasn't going to get her another smoothie again, ever, and that I expected to be paid what I am owed. She walked off very upset.

ADVERTISEMENT

Several of my coworkers said they thought my reaction was over the top and that she was just speaking from a place of hurt, and that they don't see why I have stopped getting anyone a drink when only one coworker is causing a problem. I have told them I don't want to deal with the drama and complications, but they are still upset with me.. Am I the a**hole for only picking up my own smoothies from now on?

Workplace favors, like smoothie runs, can breed resentment when fairness falters, as this woman learned when a coworker failed to repay her for multiple drinks. Her polite requests for payment were met with excuses and accusations of impatience, prompting her to halt runs entirely. The coworker’s complaints and colleagues’ criticism highlight a classic boundary issue: unpaid debts disguised as casual favors. The woman’s decision to prioritize her finances was a reasonable response to being taken advantage of.

ADVERTISEMENT

A 2024 Journal of Organizational Behavior study found 55% of workplace conflicts stem from unclear expectations in informal exchanges, like covering costs. Organizational psychologist Dr. Amy Gallo notes, “Setting boundaries early prevents entitlement.” The coworker’s refusal to pay, despite having the means, suggests deliberate freeloading, while colleagues’ upset reflects their loss of convenience, not her fault.

To avoid such drama, experts suggest clear terms—like upfront payment—for workplace favors. The woman could have set a “cash first” rule after the first missed payment. For others, documenting debts or limiting favors to reliable colleagues prevents tension. She might resume runs with strict payment rules to appease coworkers without compromising.

ADVERTISEMENT

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit poured out support and sharp takes for this smoothie-stopping woman. Here’s what they blended up:

NUT-me-SHELL - NTA. Crazy how none of your coworkers are chomping at the bit to go pick up smoothies for the office. Maybe because they know they won’t be paid back, huh?

penguin_squeak - NTA Your first mistake was asking people if they'd like anything from the shop. People's sense of entitlement is astounding. I used to keep a bowl of chocolates in my office. People would pop in and grab a candy, no big deal, right? Someone complained they didn't like the type of candy I bought and could I get something else. I just looked up and went back to work.

[Reddit User] - NTA her “place of hurt” is that you called her on her BS. A H just don’t want to know that we see through their crap.

ADVERTISEMENT

goodwithsalt - NTA. Cash up front is the only way.

bigdrew444 - NTA. I reminded her she still owed me for several drinks and she instantly flipped to saying I was petty and selfish for only picking up my own drink, and that she already said she will pay me back so I should leave it alone and stop bringing that up.. If this person wants a smoothie, then they can buy their own darn smoothie.

mewhilehigh - NTA. I would take a moment to realize your other co-workers aren't upset about how you treated deadbeat, they are just upset they are losing their smoothie run. I personally don't believe in one bad apple spoils bunch,

ADVERTISEMENT

but if this is an annoyance you'd rather not have your perfectly go for cutting it off. If you ever feel like offering to do a run again, feel free don't let this one experience color your friendliness, only now, get funds first.

[Reddit User] - NTA. This is not your fault. You're not a charity. This one person has ruined it for everyone else. Your coworkers should be complaining to her about what she has done. I get the impression they're complaining to you because they see you as a pushover. So good on you for drawing and sticking to this boundary. Don't ruin it by agonizing over it! The way to deal with this is not care that they're complaining.

SilenceDooDooGood - NTA. She is a grown ass woman, she can pay for her own drinks. She may be just outside of the boomer generation, but this is BIG BIG boomer energy. Next she's gonna tell you to lay off avocado toast so you can pick up smoothies for everyone.

ADVERTISEMENT

Agreeable_Part_1718 - NTA What you do is say,' I am happy to pick up smoothies if anyone wants one as I am going but I don't want friction over money with colleagues. As such I will need to ask for payment in advance'. If this is questioned you point out you are out of pocket and though happy to help your colleagues you are not happy to fund their smoothies..

In this way you can avoid being accused of specifically excluding this woman and still help your workmates.. As they are aware of the issue they can direct any frustration at the cause.. There is nothing unreasonable in expecting people to pay at the time of ordering.

dafuq55 - NTA. Your first mistake was asking others. It’s your break, take it for you. You’re not the office smoothie runner.

ADVERTISEMENT

These takes spark a question: was her smoothie run shutdown a fair boundary, or did it punish the wrong people?

This office smoothie saga shows how small favors can stir big drama when trust fizzles. The woman’s halt on coworker drink runs, after one’s repeated non-payment, was a stand for fairness, but it left colleagues grumbling. Was she right to cut everyone off, or should she have targeted just the offender? How would you handle a coworker stiffing you on a favor? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep the convo refreshing!

Share this post
ADVERTISEMENT

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *