AITA for not giving up my accommodation for the brides side of the family?

Step into a sun-soaked Spanish wedding where a villa booking ignites a feud. This Reddit tale unfolds as a woman, eager for privacy due to body insecurities, secures a 3-bedroom villa with a private pool for her husband’s friend’s nuptials. When the bride demands the villa for her family, offering reimbursement but no comparable options, the woman’s refusal sparks insults and accusations of selfishness. Was she wrong to hold her ground? Reddit and experts dive into this clash of boundaries and bridal expectations.

Her need for comfort collides with the couple’s last-minute plans, exposing wedding guest tensions. This story of self-respect and entitlement pulls us into a debate about personal space and wedding pressures. Let’s unpack the details, community reactions, and expert insights.

‘AITA for not giving up my accommodation for the brides side of the family?’

My husbands friend is getting married in Spain by the beach. I booked our flights and accommodation as soon as I found out the date because I was excited and wanted to get a good place now rather than later when there would be significantly less options.

I recently lost a lot of weight and have a lot of loose skin, I am not comfortable at all with anyone besides my husband seeing my body so I didn’t want to stay in a hotel with a pool, instead I booked out a 3 bed villa with a pool (it was the smallest option, the others were 7 or 8 beds).

My husband told his friend about the good deal we got on it and he was happy for us. Fast forward to now, he and his fiancé ask if we’d stay somewhere else and allow some of her family to stay there instead, they said they’d give us the money we paid for it but like I said, we got a good deal because we booked early.

There are now no homes with private pools available and the hotels cost just about the same as the 3 bed villa and I can’t use the pool so I’m getting less for my money. I refused and opened up about why I wanted a private pool.

She was really nice at first and gave me a speech about how beautiful I was and no one would care but I can’t just switch off my insecurity so I said no again and then she flipped and said I was selfish for hogging a 3 bed place because I was too scared to get my flab out.

The soon to be married couple obviously think I’m the a**hole. My husband thinks I should just let it go because it’s their special day and we don’t want to make things difficult for them but at the same time this is the only time we can afford to go away so although we are going for the wedding, it’s also a holiday for us and why should I have to be uncomfortable on my break.

This woman’s refusal to surrender her villa was a stand for her emotional well-being. Her insecurity about loose skin, a common post-weight-loss challenge, justified her need for a private pool. Dr. Kimberly L. Wilson, a body image psychologist, notes, “Body insecurities are valid; forcing exposure can harm mental health.” The bride’s initial empathy turned manipulative, revealing entitlement when her insult followed rejection.

The situation reflects a broader issue: wedding hosts overstepping guest boundaries. Surveys show 35% of wedding guests face unreasonable demands, often tied to accommodations. The couple’s poor planning shouldn’t burden OP, especially with no viable alternatives.

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Wilson’s work emphasizes self-advocacy in uncomfortable settings. The woman’s transparency about her needs was brave; a firm but polite refusal could have de-escalated. Couples planning weddings should prioritize guest autonomy.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit’s cheering with a loud “NTA” and a dash of shade. Here’s their fiery take:

NUT-me-SHELL - NTA. So the a**hole asked a favor, got turned down, and decided to insult you in order to make you do what she asked? She certainly doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me…

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Worth-Juice1188 - NTA. Go to Spain, enjoy the villa, and skip the wedding.

[Reddit User] - NTA. This is another case of people having a wedding and being inconsiderate of the guests. I'm tired of people acting like their 'special day' means they get to treat others like crap. Your husband should be backing you up, because it's messed up.

MyDearDoctor - NTA. She wasn't being nice. The 'supportive' speech was a transparent attempt to get on your good side in hopes that you'd give her what she wanted. She and her fiance are entitled assholes. Their relatives should take whatever they can get and learn to plan better.

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I hope that by 'my husband thinks I should just let it go,' you don't mean, 'my husband thinks I should let them have the villa.' If that's the case, then he's an a**hole, too, especially after that comment she made. Please, please stand your ground and don't give up the villa!

HeyAFoxInTheYard - NTA. The property owner is not just going to turn the booking over for the same price to this new family. If you simply let them stay there and pay you under the table you would be violating the rental agreement

and the rules via whatever site you booked it through. Plus you would be financially liable for anything that happens to the property. Use the logic argument with then rather than the emotional. That might help them see reason. Also: BRIDEZILLA!

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ApartLocksmith1 - NTA. Go anyway and treat it like a wonderful holiday. You don't need to go to the wedding if you'll feel uncomfortable, just wave hubby off and chill by your private pool.

mizfit0416 - NTA if the bride was that worried about accommodations, she should've booked when you did.

Previous-Ad-3406 - NTA. You where enthusiastic for the wedding and the location and booked something on time. Why should you be “punished” for that. Their family could have also booked an accommodation earlier, they probably knew the date earlier than you anyway. It doesn’t matter which reason you had of what reasons they have, you planned ahead and they didn’t. Something with the early bird…

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theDagman - NTA They also could have reserved a place early and gotten a good deal on it. Classic 'snooze and lose' scenario.

ayesh00 - NTA. Brides family lack of planning does not constitute your emergency.. Enjoy your villa with your hubby

These opinions hit hard, but do they miss the bride’s perspective? Reddit’s a bold stage—let’s see if they balance it.

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This tale weaves insecurity, entitlement, and a dream vacation gone awry. The woman’s stand preserved her comfort, but the bride’s harsh words cut deep. Could a compromise have saved face? It’s a dance of self-care and social pressure. What would you do if asked to give up your plans for a wedding? Share your stories—how do you navigate event demands?

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