AITA for not giving my neighbors back their dog after they left him with me?

The hallway outside a young man’s apartment became an unexpected battleground when his neighbors left their dog tied to his doorknob, ignoring his clear refusal to dogsit. For this 22-year-old, already juggling his elderly lab’s anxiety amid fireworks and earthquakes, the audacity of their actions lit a fuse. Instead of playing along, he took the dog to a vet, found it unchipped, and handed it to a friend eager to adopt, setting off a firestorm with the returning neighbors.

Their outrage—complete with threats and pleas—clashed with his lack of sympathy for their negligence. Now, he’s questioning if his harsh stance went too far. Readers can feel the tension: a young man protecting his space and a dog’s well-being, pitted against a family’s claims of a broken heart. Was he right to draw such a hard line?

‘AITA for not giving my neighbors back their dog after they left him with me?’

So, three days ago, mine (22m) neighbors rang on my doorbell to talk. Odd, since it usually never happens. It as the wife, asking me if I'd dogsit for them while they went to visit someone. (Idk where. Presumably out of town.) It was supposed to last two days, and they know I have a dog, so thought I'd agree.

I did not agree. Recently, fireworks and firecrackers are been driving my dog up the wall. She's an 11-year-old granny lab, and was completely out of it while the festivities were taking place, refusing to leave my side, panicking in the middle of the night, flinching at the slightest noise etc. It got worse when the earthquakes hit Croatia.

She full on started howling when the biggest one hit. As a result of all this, she sticks to my side as long as I'm home, and has gotten moody with everyone else - dogs included. No strangers are allowed near her. I even walk her only shortly outside the building, 'cause she keeps rushing back inside, scared of the firecrackers.

When I said no, the woman said aight, fine, then went back into her apartment. The morning after, I get outside my apartment to walk my dog, and find theirs leashed to the doorknob of my apartment. The two dogs got into a barking match instantly, and I had to postpone walking mine until I read the note from theirs.

(it was to tell me to walk her three times, and that she doesn't eat chicken). I took the dog to the vet prompto, and told him it was a stray. Woopty-da, no chip. And I have a friend (23m) who's been looking for a dog for a month now. This one was a good fit. 8 months old, so still a puppy-adult mix, and easy to train.

It's a mutt of somekind, but that doesn't matter to my friend, who took her in immediately. The family was outraged upon returning, threatening to call the cops. I said to go ahead. They didn't, since they know there's no documentation for their dog (which probably means no shots, either. my friend's taking care of that.)

They screamed about how I broke their daughter's heart etc, and to give the dog back, even offering to pay. I told them to p**s off. Honestly, they left their dog with a man they barely know even after he said not to, not even leaving me the food for her.

I really, really lack any sympathy for negligence and incompetence when it comes to raising pets and children, so it's possible I am being too harsh. (Normally, whenever one of my parents tries defending something they did, they end up in tears, so I know I can get too cruel when someone decides to poke that particular rash I have.). AITA?

ADVERTISEMENT

This story bristles with the sting of crossed boundaries and neglected responsibility. The man’s decision to rehome the dog reflects his frustration with neighbors who dumped their pet on him, disregarding his clear refusal and his own dog’s fragile state. While the neighbors cry foul, their lack of documentation and care—leaving no food or plan—paints them as grossly negligent. His swift action, though legally murky, prioritized the dog’s safety.

Pet abandonment is a growing issue. A 2024 ASPCA report (ASPCA) states that 6.3 million pets enter U.S. shelters annually, often due to owner irresponsibility. The neighbors’ stunt fits this pattern, risking the dog’s well-being. Dr. Emily Blackwell, an animal behaviorist, notes in a 2023 article (The Guardian), “Pets thrive on stability; sudden abandonment can cause severe stress.” The man’s choice to rehome the dog with a prepared friend likely spared it further harm.

ADVERTISEMENT

Still, his approach—bypassing authorities—carries risks. Legal experts, per the American Bar Association (ABA), note that pets are property, and rehoming without due process can invite disputes. He should have contacted animal control to document the abandonment. Moving forward, he can stand firm but should consult local laws via resources like the Humane Society (Humane Society) to avoid backlash.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

The Reddit gang rolled up with a mix of high-fives and raised eyebrows for this guy’s bold play. From cheering his no-nonsense stance to questioning his quick rehoming, their takes are a lively blend of support and debate. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

ADVERTISEMENT

Its_a_Mara-thon − Nta, the dog could have gotten loose, and what if you had left in the middle of the night and not come home?! Not your responsibility but you did the right thing.

LynnChat − NTA - they tied their dog to someone’s and basically abandoned it. They should not own a pet rock. And they broke their daughter’s heart.

ADVERTISEMENT

Nanyangosaurus − NTA. They abandoned their dog to your home and you found this dog a good owner. One that's not too cheap to get him his shots, vet care and I'm guessing a damn dog sitter if they have to go away for a while.

These people shouldn't own pets. Also idk where you're from but there's quite a few countries where you can be fined for getting rid of a pet in such a way so they're lucky you didn't call the cops on them.

Saxon_man − And what if you also left your home for a few days? Dog would have been stuck there, hungry and scared.. F**k your neighbors, they don't deserve the pup. NTA.

ADVERTISEMENT

Mydadlefttheserver − NTA, inherently I dont believe your course of action was the right one but I do believe that it was still warranted, you already had refused these complete and utter strangers and they threw their responsibility onto you.

Boys2Ramen − NTA. They abandoned their dog with a stranger. I personally would of told them there wasn't a dog leashed to my door and idk what they're talking about. 'Someone must have taken him.'

[Reddit User] − Wow. NTA I think. You were a bit quick to give the dog away but then again, you took it to the vet first and made sure it wasn't chipped etc. You also made it very clear you couldn't look after the dog, and they are certainly TA for just dropping it off.

ADVERTISEMENT

IMO they shouldn't be pet owners if they pull stunts like that. Your actions were harsh, but harsh actions were necessary in this situation. Sorry this happened to you, but I'm glad the dog is safe with your friend!

typicalaquarius − ESH - them for very obvious reasons. You’re mildly TA for giving the dog away instead of going through the proper channels. You should’ve called animal control,

and let them remove the animal so that the owners would have the abandonment on their record. Some shelters will refuse adoptions to folks that have a history of that sort of thing. Chances are, these folks will have a new dog by the end of the week.

ADVERTISEMENT

Drag0nqueen − NTA. The minute they abandoned it, it was a stray. You found a home for an abandoned dog.

Lacroix24601 − ESH. am I reading correctly that the offending family was gone for 3 days and in that time you took it to the vet, lied and said it was homeless and re-homed it. In three days? The offending family certainly sucks for leaving the dog tied to your door knob.

What you should have done was contact the authorities in charge of animals and tell them exactly what happened and then let them deal with it. “Abandonment” is a legal term with legal specifications that vary from state to state, country to country, even city to city within the same state.

ADVERTISEMENT

Dogs are considered property and, at least where I live, rules must be followed in order to re-home a dog legally.. Honestly I think the dog is probably better off with your friend but you still did the wrong thing.

These Redditors largely backed the man’s refusal to coddle negligence, praising his care for the dog’s future while some flagged his hasty move as a legal misstep. But do their fiery opinions capture the full stakes of this pet drama, or are they just fanning the flames?

This saga lays bare the mess of human negligence and one man’s uncompromising stand for a dog’s welfare. His neighbors’ reckless abandonment pushed him to act fast, but his choice to rehome without authorities sparks questions about justice versus caution. The dog’s in a better home, but the fallout lingers. What would you do if someone dumped their pet on you, ignoring your boundaries? Share your thoughts below.

ADVERTISEMENT
Share this post
ADVERTISEMENT

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *