AITA for not giving my Amazon Prime password to my husband’s new wife?

Two years after a 13-year marriage ended on good terms, a 42-year-old mom navigates co-parenting and shared streaming accounts with her ex, Jason, who lives 40 minutes away. Their kids, bridging the gap, chat about his new partner, Susanna—a kind woman of 41, dating Jason for over a year. The family’s Amazon Prime setup, paid for by Mom, hums along, with Jason enjoying his own profile for late-night binges.

Last week, Jason tossed a curveball: could Susanna get her own profile on Mom’s account? A polite “no” followed—sharing with kids and an ex felt fine, but a new face tapping into her paid service stirred unease. Jason’s temper flared, calling her immature. A cozy co-parenting vibe now simmers with a dash of boundary tension.

‘AITA for not giving my Amazon Prime password to my husband’s new wife?’

Me (42F) and my ex-husband (43M) have been separated for 2 years after 13 years of marriage. My ex-husband, Jason, went on dating apps after we separated and has been with his new partner, Susanna, (41F) for over a year. They live separately.

I have yet to meet Susanna but my kids tell me she’s normal and kind. Jason and I separated on relatively good terms, a mutual agreement now that our kids are older. We still talk regularly, because of our kids and because we are friends, but he lives around 40 minutes away. We also still share various accounts like music and video streaming.

I pay for my own Amazon Prime account and share it with my kids and Jason. Jason has his own profile on the Prime account so he can watch his own things. Last week he asked me if Susanna could also use my account at her house, and just add her own profile. I declined.

As nice as Susanna is, and as happy I am for Jason that he was a partner, it feels weird. My ex-husband’s new girlfriend having a profile on my streaming account that I pay for? I told him I’m okay if she uses it on his account, but I’d rather she not have her own profile.

He told me it’ll mix their watching preferences up and it makes no difference, I’m just being an AH. But truly I feel uncomfortable with Susanna having a profile. I mean, we’re not all buddy-buddy. It just crosses a line for me. However, Jason, who tends to have a bit of a more sensitive temper than me, is saying I’m being immature. AITA?

Declining to add an ex’s partner to a personal Amazon Prime account stirred a small storm. This 42-year-old mom, footing the bill, felt comfy sharing with kids and Jason, but a profile for Susanna tipped the scales to awkward. Jason’s pushback labeling her immature adds a pinch of heat to a once-smooth setup. A light laugh fits: streaming wars aren’t quite a rom-com plot.

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Post-divorce ties often tangle over shared resources. A 2022 study from the Journal of Divorce & Remarriage notes 60% of separated couples share accounts early on, but boundaries shift with new partners. Dr. Susan Winter, a relationship expert, says, “Personal accounts reflect autonomy; extending them to new ties can blur lines.”. Her view nods to Mom’s unease her space, her rules.

The rub’s clear: Mom guards a paid perk, tied to kids and a past bond, while Jason sees no harm in a profile add-on. Her okay for Susanna to use his profile shows flex, but a separate slot feels too close. Not flagging the boundary early sparked his huff open chats could’ve cooled it.

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Going forward, set the line gently. Suggest Jason split his own Prime account $120 a year’s a fair ask for him and Susanna. Keep kids on yours, talk it out calmly, and hold your ground with a smile. Boundaries brew respect, keeping co-parenting sweet and streaming smooth.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit rallied with NTA, backing the mom for holding her Prime account close. Users called Jason’s ask bold, even freeloading, urging him to grab his own subscription for Susanna. Sharing with kids makes sense, they said, but a new partner crosses a line.

A few flagged risks—account access could glitch beyond streaming. With a chuckle, the crowd agreed: time to cut the cord, let exes fund their own binge nights!

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Fine_Following_2559 − NTA, Susanna can pay for her own Prime if she wants her own profile. Hell, Jason can, too. You are much nicer than I would have been about it, honestly.

NUT-me-SHELL − NTa. Jason needs to get his own damn Amazon prime account if he wants to share it with his new girlfriend.

TrainingLittle4117 − NTA. And honestly, I'd take him off, too. That information can be used to access your actual Amazon acct. Suppose they break up and she decides to s**ew with your acct in retaliation?

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Intelligent_Stop5564 − Nta. He's moving on and it's time to disentangle your accounts.

beachgoer2395 − Make your ex get his own prime account. You're divorced.

al3jandraxD − NTA, tell him either they share his profile or he and his girlfriend can go and pay their own account, how entitled from him to even ask for a thing that'd have access to buy things on Amazon too (even if it's just renting a movie)

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it doesn't matter if you can have x amount of screens at the same time, it's yours and you don't have to share with her or any adult actually... Just gotta share with your kids if he keeps pushing it

cookiequeen724 − NTA. He's the AH for asking, it's super weird and overstepping a boundary and it's totally freeloading. If this girlfriend can afford to live in her own house she can afford her own amazon prime account.

jimrow83 − NTA I'm sure they can afford $120/yr between the two of them

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Laines_Ecossaises − NTA but it's time to stop sharing the accounts.. He and his new girlfriend can split the cost if he can't swing the cost on his own.

Agreeable_Guard_7229 − Why are you still giving someone you broke up with 2 years ago access to your prime account?

A mom’s Amazon Prime account, a lifeline for kids and an ex, hit a snag when a new partner wanted in. Reddit and experts cheer her boundary, nudging Jason to step up. A friendly split finds peace with clear lines and a laugh. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences below! What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation?

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