AITA for not boarding my dog for Thanksgiving?

Picture a cozy cabin tucked in the woods, a crackling fire warming the air, and a loyal Doberman curled up by the hearth, tail thumping softly. For a 27-year-old man, this is home—his sanctuary, inherited from his grandfather, shared with his gentle giant of a dog. But as Thanksgiving looms, family from afar descend, stirring tension with a bold demand: banish the dog to a kennel for their visit. His refusal sparks a fiery clash, pitting pet love against family ties.

This Reddit tale captures a classic dilemma: whose comfort comes first in your own home? The man’s stand for his cuddly Doberman, unfairly judged by its breed, resonates with anyone who’s faced family pressure to sideline what matters most. It’s a story of loyalty, boundaries, and the courage to hold your ground.

‘AITA for not boarding my dog for Thanksgiving?’

I(27M) have a 2 year old doberman pincher that is super sweet and just loves to snuggle with anyone that he meets. I adopted him as a puppy and some of my family was not thrilled that he was a doberman. The first time my parents, sister and brother met him was at a barbecue.

My sister and brother made comments about how he was going to grow up aggressive and not be good around kids. He is not aggressive at all and is a huge baby that loves to lick people to death. Thanksgiving is next week and some family members are coming in from other states.

They are flying in on Monday and depart on Saturday. I currently am living in my grandfather's cabin that he left to me when he passed. It has 3 bedrooms that are unoccupied. My Uncle and Aunt want to stay in the cabin, but do not want my dog in the house.

They suggested boarding him at the local pet lodge from Monday until Saturday. I did call and asked for pricing and they told me that it would be very expensive. I also don't want my dog to be gone for almost an entire week and in a place he's never been.

I called my Aunt and told her that I was not going to board my dog in the pet lodge. This is his home and he has every right to stay. I offered to pay a few nights for a hotel room and my Aunt was not happy.

She starts yelling at me that he is just a dog and family is more important. My parents got involved and are on my Aunts side. My sister and brother think I should board him to prevent more problems.. AITA for not boarding my dog for Thanksgiving?

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This Thanksgiving tussle is less about a dog and more about respecting personal boundaries. The man’s refusal to board his Doberman reflects a deeper issue: navigating family expectations in one’s own space. A 2023 survey by the American Pet Products Association found 66% of U.S. households own pets, often viewed as family (APPA). The aunt and uncle’s demand dismisses this bond, prioritizing their comfort over the homeowner’s.

Dr. Stanley Coren, a canine behavior expert, states, “Dogs thrive on routine and familiarity; disrupting this can cause stress” (Psychology Today). Boarding a dog in an unfamiliar kennel, especially for nearly a week, risks anxiety—something the man rightly avoids. His offer to fund a hotel was a fair compromise, yet the family’s insistence, calling the dog “just” an animal, reveals a lack of empathy.

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The family’s push, backed by stereotypes about Dobermans, ignores the dog’s proven gentleness. Experts suggest clear communication to resolve such conflicts: the man could calmly explain his dog’s needs and his home’s rules (Family Psychology). This approach reinforces boundaries without escalating drama.

See what others had to share with OP:

The Reddit squad didn’t hold back, dishing out support with a side of sass. Here’s the unfiltered take from the crowd:

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Brain_Dead_mom − NTA - Your home your decision. I can't see how they get to demand anything when it is your house. DO NOT offer to pay for a hotel. I'm not even sure at this point I'd offer to let them stay at my house even with my dog. The entitlement of people amazes me.

There are ONLY way 3 reasons I'd say to board your dog: if someone has an allergy (which would be hard even because he lives there all the other time), a huge fear of dogs, OR your dog wasn't good with company. Do not 'keep the peace' because this will then be expected of you every time someone wants to stay and doesn't like your dog. Again your house and your dog!

Momster404 − NTA. I can’t stand my MIL’s dog. I don’t live in her house, the dog does. I suck it up and deal with it. That’s your dog’s home. They can suck it up and deal with it. Or not.

Megmca − NTA. He not *just* a dog.. He is *family.* Edit to add: This is one of the reasons we rarely had big family gatherings at our house. We always had between two and three big dogs and while they were always well trained,

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and well behaved it would be much too hard to do a big winter feast with them underfoot. But it was understood that if family was coming to our house our dogs would be there because they were part of the family.

WubsDuh420 − NTA. It’s your home. Puppers home. Not your Aunties home.. Edit: call the whole thing off and leave them scrambling for rooms.

Imaginary_Being1949 − NTA, I went into this thinking you were bringing your dog to someone else's house, but that isn't the case. People can't expect you to board your dog when they are staying with you, this is just insane to me. First off, you are right.

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Some dogs just get a bad rep, but even if he tended to be a bit more aggressive, it's still his house! Second, your family is being manipulative and controlling saying you don't care. You shouldn't even have to pay. If they don't like to be around dogs then they should stay somewhere where there aren't any. That's not on you to have to pay for a hotel.

9okm − NTA. They sound fun.

youvepuremadethatup − NTA. Your home, your dog.. Also can I just say I really hate it when certain dog breeds get bad reputations.

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ZeldLurr − NTA. Especially since you even offered a hotel.. Family doesn’t trump anything. Family that uses that line are s**t.

sonicANIME2019 − NTA, first off, your house, your rules. Secondly it isn't safe to board your pet for an extended period of time without properly vetting the place or even doin trial run boards to make sure your dog would be comfortable there.

Thirdly, I'm sorry but preconceived assumptions alone aren't reason enough of your relatives to make this demand, if they had some form of dog allergies then that would be more of a leg to stand on. The lack of mention of that is telling me your family just doesn't like your dog in general. Final point: I hereby charge you with pet tax. One cannot make a cute puppy post and escape this. So pix please!

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WavesnMountains − NTA clearly there’s a reason why your grandfather skipped a generation to leave the cabin to you

Redditors rallied behind the man’s choice, slamming the family’s entitlement and cheering his loyalty to his pup. Some called out the unfair stigma on Dobermans; others urged him to stand firm. But do these fiery opinions capture the whole story, or are they just barking up the right tree?

This cabin clash reminds us that home is where the heart—and the dog—is. The man’s stand for his Doberman shows that loyalty to a pet can outweigh family pressure, especially when it’s your own turf. While his family pushes for compliance, his refusal sparks a broader question about respect and boundaries. How would you handle a family demanding you sideline your furry friend for their comfort? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep the conversation wagging!

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