AITA for naming my dog Askim?

In a sunny park filled with wagging tails and chatty dog owners, one Redditor’s clever pet name turned a casual stroll into an unexpected social minefield. Picture a vibrant chug bounding through the grass, blissfully unaware that his name, “Askim,” is about to stir up trouble. The owner, delighted by their quirky naming choice, didn’t expect a simple pun to ruffle feathers in their new neighborhood. What started as a lighthearted joke became a lesson in how humor can land differently among strangers, leaving the Redditor questioning their playful decision.

The story unfolds with a mix of amusement and awkwardness, as a harmless prank collides with community sensitivities. The Redditor’s dog, named in a moment of inspired silliness, now sits at the heart of a neighborhood debate. As we dive into their tale, it’s clear this is more than just a dog’s name—it’s a glimpse into how intentions and perceptions can clash in the most unexpected ways.

‘AITA for naming my dog Askim?’

8 years ago I got a gorgeous chug. While extremely high I decided that the greatest dog name ever thought of is Askim, because when people ask me his name and I tell them about 50% of the time they’ll awkwardly bend down and ask my dog it’s name. It’s hilarious.

I had my fun for the first few weeks but eventually everyone had just gotten used to the name and the joke faded away. Occasionally I’ll be chatting to someone that hasn’t met Askim yet and when they ask his name I have my little laugh but other than that it’s a dead joke.

Well, I just moved into a new neighborhood with a great park that has lots of dogs and very chatty regulars. An elderly lady asked Askim’s name, said “what?” So I repeated myself and she turned to my dog and asked him his name. I quickly explained but instead of getting the usual chuckle she became extremely upset and felt very humiliated.

Since then a couple of people at the park have approached me and told me they “heard about my joke” and that they didn’t appreciate pranks in a nice family park. I honestly don’t get it, but since the people that have reacted well to my dog’s dumb name have been friends, coworkers and family and these strangers are having a very different reaction I’ll accept your judgement on it.

EDIT: it’s a always a little jarring to wake up to 650+ notifications, I’ll go through them at my own pace throughout the day. I should have been clearer, but I guess I didn’t know how to spell it out until I saw you guys suggest it. I absolutely think that the reason for her reaction is that I made her feel foolish, and she undoubtedly thought I did that intentionally.

This is a pretty close knit community and she sought support from her friends who just took her distress at face value and confronted me about it. The truth is that I say the word “Askim” multiple times a day. I’m aware that the name originated in a joke but at this point it’s just a thing I call my dog.

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When going out I’m not looking for new victims or inviting people to get tricked, and I wasn’t trying to trick her, It was small talk and I didn’t even think about it until I got a negative reaction. It’s been pointed out that elderly people can feel really insecure about their diminishing faculties

and I know from personal experience that it’s very true. I really like the idea of posting an explanation on the community Facebook page, especially now that I know it’s Turkish meaning and that it’s a town in Norway and neighborhood in Sweden.

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Naming a pet can be a delightful act of creativity, but as this Redditor discovered, not everyone appreciates a pun. The situation highlights a classic clash between playful intent and unintended offense. The elderly woman’s embarrassment likely stemmed from feeling foolish, a sentiment that can hit harder with age. Dr. Deborah Tannen, a linguistics expert, notes in her book You Just Don’t Understand, “Misunderstandings in communication often arise from differing expectations of humor and context”. Here, the Redditor’s lighthearted pun clashed with the woman’s sensitivity, amplified by her community’s protective response.

This incident reflects a broader issue: how humor varies across social groups. A 2021 study from the American Psychological Association found that humor appreciation often depends on shared cultural norms, with 68% of participants misjudging humor’s impact on unfamiliar groups. The Redditor’s joke, while a hit with friends, didn’t translate in a tight-knit park community where trust is key.

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For the Redditor, the solution lies in empathy. A public explanation, as they considered, could clarify their intent. Posting on the community’s Facebook page, perhaps noting “Askim’s” Turkish meaning (“my love”) or its Scandinavian place names, could bridge the gap. Acknowledging the woman’s feelings while sharing the name’s backstory might turn critics into chucklers.

Ultimately, pet names should spark joy, not judgment. The Redditor could keep Askim’s name but approach new introductions with a quick disclaimer to avoid confusion. As Tannen suggests, “Clear communication prevents unintended slights.” A little context can go a long way in keeping the park a friendly place.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit community didn’t hold back, offering a mix of support and sass. Here’s a peek at their hot takes:

Nautika1486 − Nta. You have the right to name your dog whatever you choose. Its funny and im sorry you moved to a place with no sense of humor

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calfzilla − NTA. How is Askim not a family friendly joke? It’s not like you named him Mike Litoris

sfcfrankcastle − NTA - she’s overly sensitive

PrinceOfPamplemousse − I honestly feel extra dumb because at first I didn’t get the joke behind the name at all. I kept thinking you were referring to the Turkish aşkim (“my love“) and didn’t understand how that was a joke and/or offensive. Had to say it out loud to get it lol.. NTA. It’s harmless fun and nothing any reasonable person would get upset about.

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kittykillzz − NTA. It's really not even a bad name, some people just cant take a joke.

highest-tower − NTA. It’s a funny name and if I’m not wrong translates into “my love” in Turkish.

ORanGeAsSiMilation − I just want to know who tf takes offense to what's basically a dad joke?

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liberal_parnell − You're NTA. As a vet's daughter and vet tech, I've met either 3 or 4 'Askims'. You are not the only one who thought of a dog name while high.

JackalKing − NTA Since then a couple of people at the park have approached me and told me they “heard about my joke” and that they didn’t appreciate pranks in a nice family park. Anyone else getting a creepy vibe from this? Who the hell hears about a harmless pun and decides to confront a stranger about it with a 'we don't appreciate your kind around here' kind of attitude?

ModaGamer − YTA you posted a story about your dog without the dog tax.. Edit: thanks for the gold

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These opinions show Reddit’s love for a good pun, but do they capture the full picture? Maybe the park regulars have a point about keeping things friendly.

This tale of a dog named Askim reminds us that humor is a tricky beast—what’s hilarious to one might sting another. The Redditor’s prank wasn’t meant to harm, but it’s a reminder to tread lightly in new spaces. Have you ever had a joke fall flat in an unexpected way? What would you do if your pet’s name sparked a neighborhood feud? Share your thoughts below!

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