AITA for making my teacher uncomfortable during a zoom meeting?

In a hospital room buzzing with monitors, a 16-year-old girl fights to keep up with school while hooked to an IV. Facing a Zoom class, she pleads to keep her camera off, hiding the central line in her chest and the blood transfusion bag swaying on its pole. But her history teacher demands the lens stay on, thrusting her medical reality into the virtual classroom. What unfolds is a clash of compliance and discomfort that leaves us questioning: who’s really at fault here?

The student’s choice to follow orders sparks a firestorm. Her teacher, rattled by the sight of medical gear, calls her “unprofessional,” while classmates barely blink. It’s a story of resilience, privacy, and the unexpected consequences of rigid rules. Should she have fought harder to protect her dignity, or was her teacher’s demand a misstep? Dive into this tale of virtual school woes.

‘AITA for making my teacher uncomfortable during a zoom meeting?’

Throwaway because my parents know my Reddit and they’re mad at me for this This happened a few hours ago and I really wanna know if I was the a**hole. Yesterday I (F16) emailed my teachers and I told them I’ll be in the hospital getting an infusion for a chronic illness that I have and a blood transfusion and I asked if they would mind if I had my camera off for the meetings.

All of them said yes except for my history teacher. She said she needs to know I’m actually in the class. I tried to explain my situation and that I was uncomfortable with the class seeing me in the infusion clinic with my central line (I usually wear sweaters to cover it at home but it feels weird when I wear a sweater over it during an infusion) and all my monitors.

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She basically said tough s**t and that I need to show up for class. So the class starts and I log on to the meeting and you can very clearly see the central line in my chest, the iv pole with the unit of blood, the monitors that go on my chest (I forgot what they’re called).

My teacher looked visibly uncomfortable the entire time and emailed me after class saying I made her uncomfortable and what I did was completely unprofessional. I reminded her that she said I had to have my camera on the whole time. Nobody else seemed to have a problem with any of it.. So AITA for following my teachers directions?

Edit: I could’ve missed school if I wanted to because of my appointment but I’ve already missed a lot of school this year so I didn’t want to take the day off unless it was absolutely necessary.

Navigating school with a chronic illness is like juggling flaming torches—one wrong move, and everything burns. The OP’s Zoom ordeal, where her teacher forced her to reveal medical equipment, exposes a clash between educational policy and personal privacy. The teacher’s insistence on a camera, despite knowing OP’s hospital setting, suggests a power play, while OP’s compliance highlights her dedication to learning despite physical and emotional strain.

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This reflects a broader issue: students with disabilities face inconsistent accommodations. A 2020 report by the National Center for Learning Disabilities notes that 1 in 5 students with chronic conditions lack proper school support, often due to rigid policies. The OP’s central line and monitors, visible on Zoom, weren’t just medical tools—they were private markers of her struggle, exposed without consent.

Dr. Amy McCart, an education expert, states, “Teachers must balance accountability with empathy. Forcing a student to display medical treatment on camera risks violating their dignity and trust” (Understood.org). Here, the teacher’s demand ignored OP’s vulnerability, and her discomfort afterward shifts blame unfairly. A 504 Plan, as some Redditors suggested, could formalize camera-off accommodations for OP.

For solutions, OP should forward the teacher’s emails to school administrators, citing her medical privacy. Schools often have policies protecting students under the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA). Meanwhile, teachers need training on virtual classroom sensitivity.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving up spicy takes like a virtual potluck. Here’s what the community thought:

LadanaExi − NTA - Wtf did your teacher expect? I swear, this entire pandemic is putting a spotlight on s**t head professors who are more concerned about having power than actually teaching.

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MorganAndMerlin − Uhhh you need to talk to your principle and school consoler about your teachers behavior. I assume the school is well aware of your condition and this teachers behavior is unacceptable

Veridical_Perception − NTA.. She played chicken with you...and swerved first. If she was uncomfortable, she has only herself to blame. Frankly, I'd report HER for being unprofessional for insisting you use the camera, then having the audacity to blame you for making her uncomfortable by using the very camera she demanded that you use.. Report her for making YOU uncomfortable.

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Foreign_Astronaut − NTA. Your teacher was out of line for telling you to have your camera on during your medical appointment. She called *you* unprofessional, yet the fact is, she could get fired for making you do this. Violating a student's medical privacy is something school districts take seriously.

babsiegirl70 − NTA. Why would your parents not be angry at the teacher?

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lunarlandscapes − NTA. Forward the emails to the higher ups at school. What were you supposed to do, not have what I can only assume is a necessary medical procedure? You told her what was going on. She told you you had to have the camera on. Tell her next time then the camera stays off or you actually ditch class then

bamf1701 − NTA. You followed directions to the letter. If the teacher was uncomfortable, they have only themselves to blame. One thing : KEEP ALL YOUR COMMUNICATIONS! If you do get some blowback, you will need the evidence. Also, there is no reason why your parents should be mad at you, unless you were later asked to turn the video off and you did not.

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Sweetcilantro − Nta. Malicious compliance by you. The teacher needed to be taken down a peg.. Maybe next time they will listen to you now.

Isgrumberinos − NTA. What the actual f**k? You explicitly told the teacher the reason why you wouldn't turn the camera on, the teacher asks you to do it anyway - and then he/she gets uncomfortable and blames you? Report them, hope they get disciplined.

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bell_biv_DEVO − NTA. Do you have a 504? If so, your teacher could get in a ton of trouble. If not, maybe you should discuss it with your parents and administration.

These comments range from fiery outrage to practical advice, but do they miss the deeper issue of medical privacy? One thing’s clear: the teacher’s misstep lit a match.

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The OP’s story is a stark reminder that empathy should trump rigidity, especially in virtual classrooms. She followed orders, yet faced blame for her teacher’s discomfort—a twist that feels grossly unfair. Should she have skipped class or defied the rule? What would you do if forced to choose between privacy and compliance? Share your thoughts—have you faced a similar clash with authority, and how did you navigate it?

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