AITA for making my father kick out SIL and brother?

In a bustling household in an Islamic country, the aroma of success from a thriving restaurant franchise mingles with the tension of family expectations. A 30-year-old woman, who poured her heart into building the business alongside her father, stands at the helm as he prepares to retire. But her sister-in-law, backed by her mother, insists her brother deserves the crown simply for being the only son. A fiery confrontation erupts, ending with her father’s ultimatum: leave or lose everything.

This story simmers with the heat of tradition clashing with merit, as the woman’s hard-earned leadership is challenged by outdated notions of “birthright.” The fallout—her brother and SIL’s eviction—stirs a pot of guilt and doubt, spiced by relentless family criticism. Readers are drawn into this spicy family drama, wondering if she’s the hero of her own story or a greedy villain in their eyes.

 

‘AITA for making my father kick out SIL and brother?’

I(30f) am currently in a leading position of a restaurant franchise started by me and my father. We live in a Islamic country so me being one of the owners is very rare. I have three siblings one brother(29m) and two sisters (twins 13f). The business started by me , my father and his friend son became extremely successful.

My brother was never interested in it but after it grew my father provided him a position in IT department (he did his degree in software engineering) apart from that because we were not that well off , my father also provides every family member with a set allowance separate from our salaries.

My brother got married a year ago and his wife also receives it. My father now plans to retire and my SIL thinks it's now brother's turn to be the man of the house. She has been making alot remarks lately (we all live together), in any normal situation this would have been the case but I own this business too and have been the one putting in most work.

I ignored her in the beginning. My mom has been asking to think about marriage as well as she was talking to me my SIL told me that I really should since my father will retire and my brother will be the one in charge. So i told her these are all her delusions since after my father it is me who is the candidate (my father wishes as well) and I already own part of the business.

Upon hearing this she became quiet but has been making my mom to turn against me. My mom was always against me working but because of my father she couldn't do anything. Three days ago my father announced that he was retiring and have decided to let me take the lead now. He acknowledged my hardwork and said i was most suited.

My sister in law and my mother both opposed it very very strongly. According to them it's the birthright of my brother the only son to take the business. My father shut it down then but my sister in law in the moment pointed at me and told me I was a thief and i will burn in hell and said alot of things.

My father than told both of my brother and sister to get out of his house and if they don't leave now my brother can say goodbye to his job and allowance too. They have left but i have been getting messages from relatives and even my own mother about how greedy i am and for stealing something that belong to my brother.

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I was very convinced in the beginning but now actually hearing these things and knowing my religion, i think what they are saying is true and wanted judgment of internet strangers to finally decide something.. So reddit aita?

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Stepping into a leadership role in a family business is never just about business—it’s a recipe for drama when tradition gets in the way. The woman’s sister-in-law and mother cling to the idea that her brother, as the only son, should inherit the helm, despite his disinterest and her own sweat equity. Her father’s decision to back her sparked a showdown, with accusations of theft and divine punishment flying.

This clash boils down to gender expectations. Dr. Amina Wadud, a scholar of Islamic gender studies, notes, “Cultural norms often prioritize male inheritance, but merit-based leadership aligns with fairness and competence” . The woman’s ownership stake and dedication make her the logical successor, yet her SIL’s outburst reveals a deeper resistance to women in power, rooted in patriarchal traditions.

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Family businesses often face succession disputes. A 2023 study in the Family Business Review found that 60% of family firms struggle with gender-based succession conflicts in patriarchal cultures . The SIL’s alliance with the mother to undermine the woman mirrors this, amplifying family tension over cultural norms.

To move forward, the woman should lean on her father’s support and document her contributions to solidify her position. Open dialogue with her brother, separate from his wife, might clarify his stance—Reddit users questioned his role, noting he seems passive. Setting boundaries with her mother and relatives, perhaps with her father’s mediation, can reduce harassment. This approach secures her leadership while keeping family ties from burning to a crisp.

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit dove into this family saga like it was a five-star dish, dishing out fiery support with a side of shade for the SIL’s audacity. The community rallied behind the woman, roasting the notion of “birthright” in a business she built. Here’s the sizzling scoop from the crowd:

jwess01 − NTA at all. There is no reason you should be forced to let your brother take over anything especially since he hasn't cared about the business from the start and you're part owner.

If he was to be the new head, he would be the thief and if anyone is stealing its her taking your dads money which he has no requirement to give her since she's not even directly related to u. Also, u should post this in r/entitledpeople too

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Chuckfrommars − NTA. You put in the hard work building the business, and now you're weeping the reward. Your brother didn't do the work to take over the business. Your father has faith in you to keep the business going.

[Reddit User] − NTA your SIL is trying to steal the business from you. You're the victim here, not them.

teresajs − NTA. You and your father built this business. It's YOUR business. You stole nothing.. Your SIL is trying to steal your business. She's greedy.

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Seeker131313 − NTA. I am so happy that your father is such an honorable man to acknowledge and reward your intelligence skills, and hard work. He stood behind you and backed you up professionally and personally. Your father sounds awesome. And he chose you as his business heir, because you've been his partner this whole time.

Your SIL sucks, and she and your mother are probably uncomfortable because you are not conforming to the traditional sexist and misogynistic stereotypes, but their feelings have no bearing on this situation.

You have merit and a right to the business, but because you don't have a penis, they will likely never acknowledge your right to be in charge. You deserve it. Don't let them convince you that you don't.

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I(30f) am currently in a leading position of a restaurant franchise started by me and my father. We live in a Islamic country so me being one of the owners is very rare. I have three siblings one brother(29m) and two sisters (twins 13f).

The business started by me , my father and his friend son became extremely successful. My brother was never interested in it but after it grew my father provided him a position in IT department (he did his degree in software engineering) apart from that because we were not that well off , my father also provides every family member with a set allowance separate from our salaries.

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My brother got married a year ago and his wife also receives it. My father now plans to retire and my SIL thinks it's now brother's turn to be the man of the house. She has been making alot remarks lately (we all live together), in any normal situation this would have been the case but I own this business too and have been the one putting in most work.

I ignored her in the beginning. My mom has been asking to think about marriage as well as she was talking to me my SIL told me that I really should since my father will retire and my brother will be the one in charge.

So i told her these are all her delusions since after my father it is me who is the candidate (my father wishes as well) and I already own part of the business. Upon hearing this she became quiet but has been making my mom to turn against me.

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My mom was always against me working but because of my father she couldn't do anything. Three days ago my father announced that he was retiring and have decided to let me take the lead now. He acknowledged my hardwork and said i was most suited.

My sister in law and my mother both opposed it very very strongly. According to them it's the birthright of my brother the only son to take the business. My father shut it down then but my sister in law in the moment pointed at me and told me I was a thief and i will burn in hell and said alot of things.

My father than told both of my brother and sister to get out of his house and if they don't leave now my brother can say goodbye to his job and allowance too. They have left but i have been getting messages from relatives and even my own mother about how greedy i am and for stealing something that belong to my brother.

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I was very convinced in the beginning but now actually hearing these things and knowing my religion, i think what they are saying is true and wanted judgment of internet strangers to finally decide something.. So reddit aita?

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laura0585 − NTA!!! Don’t let them take credit for your hard work and efforts you deserve to take control no matter what its lonely at the top!!!

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THE_IRISHMAN_35 − INFO: this entire time you are talking about how your SIL is in all of this what about your brother? Is he fine just being IT or is he also demanding your fathers part of the business? Also you didn’t make your father do anything he chose to kick them out you did not tell him to do it or force him to.

He came to that choice on his own. You also didn’t make him give you his part of the business either he decided to give it to you. It sounds like your father is more progressive in his way of thinking than your mother is and your SIL sounds like she is greedy.

MamaC2011 − NTA. You put in the work, and your father has acknowledged it. As my grandpa's always said, your role as a parent comes before anything else. Your father appears to see this the same way, and he's ready to protect you from anyone who would take this from you (even family). Trust his love for you, and your own strength.

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[Reddit User] − Your father seems to be a wonderful man who respects his daughter's work and accomplishments in a cultural environment that tells him he shouldn't. Your SIL seems to be acting out because she isn't getting what she thought she would out of marrying an only son.

I don't share your cultural background, and I know some nuance is lost on me, but every woman who owns a business makes it just a tiny bit easier for another woman to do the same. Good luck, and definitely NTA.

These Redditors brought the heat, praising the father’s backbone and slamming the SIL’s greed. But do their spicy takes capture the full flavor of this family feud, or are they just stirring the pot? One thing’s clear: this drama’s got everyone hungry for more.

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This tale of a woman defending her place in a family empire cuts through cultural norms like a sharp knife, exposing the clash between merit and tradition. Her father’s bold stand and her own resolve shine, but the family’s backlash leaves a bitter aftertaste. As she navigates this storm, the question lingers: how do you balance family loyalty with hard-earned success? What would you do if tradition tried to steal your spotlight? Share your thoughts and stories below!

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