AITA for making my brothers family homeless specially because he has a small child and a soon to be born baby?

A family haven turned into a battleground when a cruel taunt pushed a homeowner past his breaking point. OP and his wife opened their doors to his struggling brother’s family—a pregnant sister-in-law (SIL) and their 6-year-old son—only to face relentless disrespect. SIL, known for her blunt cruelty, targeted OP’s sensitive wife, mocking her inability to safely give birth, a wound deepened by her family’s tragic history. Each plea for peace was ignored, and tensions simmered like a pot ready to boil over.

The final straw came when OP found his wife sobbing, locked away after SIL staged a heartless “intervention” with friends to pressure her into pregnancy. Rage took over, and OP evicted the family that night, packing their bags himself. Now homeless, they struggle, and guilt gnaws at OP for his nephew’s plight. Reddit’s weighing in, and this saga of loyalty, boundaries, and regret is as raw as it gets. Let’s unpack the chaos.

‘AITA for making my brothers family homeless specially because he has a small child and a soon to be born baby?’

Ok so my sil and brother will be staying at me and my wife's house for a few months as they are both out of jobs and sil is 7 months pregnant.they also have a 6 year old child and our house was enough to accommodate all of us . The problem is that my sil is a not so nice person and is the type who says she unforgivingly true and that if she sees something that doesn't please her , she will make sure it nows.

I didn't know the extent of it until know when she had started to torment my wife. My wife is a very sensitive person and is also unable to have kids not because she is infertile but as birthing process can prove to be extremely dangerous for her . My sil found out about it and has made it her life mission ti remind my wife how joyful motherhood is

and that giving birth is something that completes Every one and that Evey pregnancy is a danger but a risk Worth taking ( let me remind you my wife's mother has died at childbirth and her aunt has had multiple miscarriages). My wife has asked her to stop but she says that she is also a resident at our home and while she is here she can go what she wants.

I have also asked her to not to my wife about it but she won't listen to reason. But she toned it down after my brother asked her. A few days ago I had come home early for work only to find out that my sil had held a intervention for my wife with All her mother friends to encourage her to get pregnant.

My wife had locked her self in our room and had been crying. I saw red and immediately called my brother and told him I wanted his family out of my house by 10 tonight and went ahead and packed their stuff around the house myself. I didn't talk to my sil while she screamed at me and I just have her son noise cancelling headphones and left him in the corner room .

Brother begged me to let them say as his part-time job was not profitable enough to support all three of then plus the new baby. I told him that I had given sil many chances and that my wife will not be disrespected at her own home.

They left and I have found out that they are currently homeless and can barely afford to get a motel for a night. My mother is on my side but has told me to think about my nephew who is also suffering alot as he can't even attend online school .

After knowing all this both me and my wife feel a little guilty as the child was blameless and the soon to be born one Will also have to suffer. So aita for making my nephew suffer and problem cause him trauma. I am not at all Regretful for kicking my sil but I am worried about nephew as he has anxiety as well.

OP’s eviction of his brother’s family was a drastic but defensible stand for his wife’s mental health. Dr. Harriet Lerner, a family therapist, states, “Boundaries protect relationships; unchecked disrespect destroys them” (Psychology Today). SIL’s relentless mockery of OP’s wife’s medical condition, especially knowing her mother’s death during childbirth, wasn’t just insensitive—it was abusive. The “intervention” was a calculated violation, pushing OP’s wife into distress.

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Family hospitality comes with mutual respect. A Pew Research study shows 71% of adults prioritize spousal loyalty over extended family obligations. OP’s warnings to SIL, backed by his brother’s plea, went unheeded, justifying his response. However, the abrupt eviction, while emotionally driven, left a vulnerable child in the crossfire. Dr. Lerner advises, “Protect your home, but consider alternatives for innocents.” Offering temporary shelter for the nephew, as Reddit suggests, could ease OP’s guilt without excusing SIL.

OP and his wife need a united front. Therapy could help process their guilt and reinforce boundaries. SIL’s behavior stems from her own issues, but that’s her burden, not OP’s. This saga shows protecting loved ones sometimes means tough calls.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit stormed in like a family feud at Thanksgiving, slinging support and shade with equal heat. From cheers for OP’s wife-first stance to jabs at SIL’s cruelty, here’s the crowd’s unfiltered take, sizzling with passion:

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ghostcraft33 − NTA - You'd majorly be TA if you allowed your horrible SIL in the house and let her most definitely harass and bully your wife. Protecting your wife comes first. SIL should've thought of that before she acted so horrible.. You gave her so many chances. Its her fault they're now f**ked.

LaNutria265 − NTA. Your mom can house your nephew?? Your brother must find a better job and provide for his family. Or… they can go live with that lovely MIL of his that thinks that a woman is only complete if she is a mother… she can act like one!!!

[Reddit User] − NTA. Maybe they should have gotten their life together before starting a family. That’s not your problem. SIL disrespected your wife. Your wife is your immediate family. She comes first. Sucks for your brother but again, his life choices are NOT your problem.

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DisneyAddict2021 − NTA. Your sister in law is awful. Offer to keep your nephew, but do not allow your SIL back into your home. She is cruel and toxic and will not change.

MotherOfCrotchFruit − NTA. Your SIL is a cuNextTuesday She took a gamble at biting the hand that feeds her and now she and your brother can figure their own s**t out. If your mom is so concerned your brother and his witch of a wife can go stay with her

[Reddit User] − NTA. Your wife mental health comes first. It is up to your brother and SIL to provide for their children. If SIL cared about your nephew having a place to stay she would keep her mouth shut.

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Majestic-Meringue-40 − NTA Why bite the hand that feeds you? All their problems are the sil fault. You reap what you sow.

ch0k3 − NTA. you gave that woman more than enough chances to correct her behavior, the final straw was the 'intervention' she used to harass your wife. how vile. if your mother doesn't want to see her grandson homeless then maybe she should take him in.

ashleymcbride27 − NTA. Offer to let your nephew come stay at your house. Depending on previous relationships with your brother, pay for a hotel for 1 night. You are standing up for your wife and supporting her in something that is extremely personal. You're helping them by letting them stay with you - they don't get to be AH and continue to gain from you if they cannot respect your home, wife, and wishes.

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Haunting-Row-3961 − NTA NTA NTA Play stupid games win stupid prizes- your SIL had been warned several times she chose to ignore the pleas and was insensitive and mean to your wife let her bear the consequences of her actions. Let them stay with your mom or maybe loan your brother money to tide him over this phase but no sil chose to ignore boundaries and will have to face the result

These Redditors backed OP’s eviction, slamming SIL’s toxic antics and suggesting kid-focused solutions. But do their fiery takes nail the whole story, or just fan the flames?

OP’s story is a gut-wrenching clash of loyalty and limits, where protecting his wife meant upending his brother’s family. SIL’s cruelty left no choice, but a nephew’s suffering stings. It’s a raw reminder that family ties don’t trump respect, yet kids shouldn’t pay the price. Can OP find a lifeline for his nephew without reopening his home to chaos? What would you do when family aid turns toxic? Drop your thoughts below.

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