AITA for making a secret snack cabinet after my mom banned sugar from our house?

Step into a tense household where a sugar ban sparks a sneaky rebellion. A 16-year-old girl, frustrated by her mother’s blanket ban on snacks due to her 14-year-old sister’s type 2 diabetes, sets up a secret snack cabinet under her desk. Her sister’s binging habits led to the ban, but when the stash is raided, the girl faces her mother’s wrath—grounded and forced to quit her job.

This clash of fairness, health, and boundaries has Reddit buzzing over whether her covert snack haven was justified or a step too far.

‘AITA for making a secret snack cabinet after my mom banned sugar from our house?’

My (f16) sister (14) was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes a few months ago. My mom tried adjusting our diets but if my mom bought a box of cocoa pebbles, she'd eat half of it the day she bought it or when my mom occasionally came home with oreos, she'd eat the whole thing.

Every time my sister did that, my mom would yell at both of us to 'not single my sister out'. Last month she banned all sugar and unhealthy snacks from our house. I got really frustrated because I felt like I was being punished for her lack of self control. A little less than a week later I found a small cabinet with a lock, mini fridge with a freezer, and a microwave and put them under my desk.

My sister found out I had a snack cabinet and stole most of the snacks in my room while I was at work. After that, my mom found out I had a snack cabinet and she yelled at me for breaking the rules and for letting my sister have sugar.. She grounded me and made me quit my job so I wanted to know if I was the a**hole

Family rules can feel like a straitjacket when they punish everyone for one person’s actions, as this teen learned when her mother banned sugar to manage her sister’s type 2 diabetes. The girl’s secret snack cabinet was a bid for autonomy, but her sister’s theft and their mother’s harsh punishment—grounding and forcing her to quit her job—escalated the conflict. The mother’s approach, while aimed at protecting her diabetic daughter, unfairly restricted the older teen, ignoring her need for fairness.

Type 2 diabetes in teens often requires dietary overhaul, with a 2024 ADA report noting 30% of young patients struggle with binge eating due to emotional triggers. Dietitian Dr. Susan Weiner advises, “Families must balance health needs with individual autonomy to avoid resentment.” The sister’s binging suggests unmet psychological needs, warranting therapy alongside medical care. The mother’s blanket ban risks fostering unhealthy food relationships for both girls, as restrictions can heighten cravings.

The teen’s cabinet was a reasonable rebellion, but a locked door or open talk might have prevented the theft. Experts suggest families set clear boundaries, like designated snack allowances, and involve teens in health discussions. The mother’s job-quitting punishment was excessive; a better approach would be family counseling to address the sister’s binging and the teen’s frustration.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit served up a feast of support and advice for this snack-stashing teen. Here’s what they dished out:

FangDangDingo - NTA You mother is going over board and needs to hold your sister accountable for her own actions or she'll grow up with no self control if she even makes it that far.

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chubby-wench - NTA, your mom needs to wake up before your sisters lack of self control eats herself into a coma. Banning sugar isn’t going to help her manage her condition in the long run. Has your sister always eaten that way? How did she find the keys to your locked cabinet?

Her dr needs to be notified ASAP. I’m sorry but you’re going to have to give up sugary snacks for a while until your mom can get her head straight. She should NOT have made you quit your job over this. Maybe a sit down conversation when you both have cooled down will help.

RhubarbSilly5734 - NTA. If your sister is tearing apart the house to binge on sweets and snacks, she should be in therapy and working with a dietitian. Your mom taking away sweets and snacks in the house will make them even more desirable for both of you, and possibly mess up your relationship with food.

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There needs to be boundaries in the house and sweets should be something had in moderation. I'm sorry you are being put through this! Maybe explain to your mom how you are feeling and try to make a compromise: you can have some extra spending money for a treat but you need to leave the house to get it, like get ice cream with friends or something?

[Reddit User] - Good lord what was the point of making you quit your job? What does that teach you? Anyway, eat your sugar out of the house while your sister adjusts. She sounds like she needs therapy to deal with this.

jennasoukey - you are definitely NTA… what you feel about this is totally valid! your little sister needs to learn she has a health issue and act 14 not 6- imo regardless of what the situation was she took something out of your room, which isn’t cool. end of story lol

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NotThisAgain21 - Your sister is almost certainly just as capable of getting her hands on snacks as you are. So I don't get what the point of punishing you is.. Anywhere, good case for going NC later.

Kissconcrete6995 - INFO : is your sister in therapy for her very clear issues with food? She is binging and over eating for a reason and it's not 'she has no self control'. There is something going on with your sister

and while it might suck you should try to be more supportive and speak up for her mental health needs being just as important as her physical health. Your mom is an AH for demanding you quit your job though. I'm not sure about my judgment for you yet.

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I_exist_damn_you - NTA. You're allowed to have your own stuff and to expect that other people not take what's yours. It's good that your mom is trying to help your sister and all but there's no reason you shouldn't have a treat once in awhile just because your sister has no self control. Sincerely, a T2 diabetic who lives with a man that likes to buy himself candy that I simply don't eat without begrudging him for having it

darklinghate - NtA. Your mom is for making you quit your job and your sister is for going through your room and stealing your stuff. I hate thrives. You need a lock on your door and tell your sister to keep her inconsiderate selfish A** out of your room and away from your stuff. My advice is get another job and save up to get out of that house. Quitting your job is not an appropriate punishment for this situation. Your sister needs punished, not you.

irmonsturr - NTA. Just because she can't have sugar and can't control herself doesn't mean that you can't control yourself and enjoy snacks. I'd be pissed.

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These takes spark a question: was the secret cabinet a clever workaround, or did it fuel family tension?

This saga of a hidden snack stash reveals how health-driven rules can stir family unrest. The teen’s bid for fairness clashed with her sister’s struggles and their mother’s overreach, leaving her grounded and jobless. Was her secret cabinet a justified rebellion, or did it cross a line? How would you balance personal freedom with family health needs? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep the convo cooking!

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