AITA for making a game out of my partner’s parents religious decor?

A secret game called “Peekaboo Jesus” between a couple turned awkward when it was overheard by the partner’s mother in her own home, filled with religious decor. What started as lighthearted fun led to hurt feelings and a strained family lunch, leaving the OP wondering if they crossed a line.

This story explores the clash between private humor and religious sensitivity in a family setting. Was the game just harmless fun, or did it disrespect the host’s beliefs? Let’s dive into the details and see what the online community thinks.

‘AITA for making a game out of my partner’s parents religious decor?’

It all began during visits to the partner’s parents’ home, overflowing with religious decorations:

My partner and I visit his parents often. Despite a rocky start given our relationship, they’ve become very accepting and welcoming. They are also very, very religious, and have many...

Sometimes these show up in odd places. Behind a towel rack. In a kitchen cupboard. Inside the garage door panel. Literally everywhere.

To make the visits more fun, OP and their partner invented a secret game:

For a few months now, whenever we visit, my partner and I have a secret game we call “Peekaboo Jesus”. Basically, whenever we find a new Jesus statue poking out...

Trouble brewed when OP accidentally revealed the game in front of the partner’s mother:

This past weekend we visited for lunch. While we were helping set the table, a new Jesus appeared, his long-haired halo-crested head peeping out from within the china cabinet. Without...

It turns out my partners mom was in the doorway behind me. She was NOT impressed and pretty upset. My partner tried to talk to her, and tell her we...

The dinner was awkward and I’ve been thinking about what happened ever since. Am I the a__hole for creating and playing Peekaboo Jesus?

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This story highlights the delicate balance between personal humor and religious sensitivity in a family setting. OP and their partner created “Peekaboo Jesus” to cope with the overwhelming religious decor in the parents’ home. However, when the game was exposed, it struck a nerve with the partner’s mother, touching on her deeply held beliefs.

Dr. Susan Heitler, a family dynamics expert, notes that “jokes about religion or personal values can easily be misinterpreted if not shared in the right context” (Psychology Today). Here, the game wasn’t meant to offend, but playing it in the mother’s home, where religion is central, inadvertently disrespected her space.

The mother’s hurt likely stems from feeling her beliefs were mocked, especially given the rocky history with the couple’s relationship. OP’s lack of an immediate apology may have worsened the situation. A sincere apology, explaining the game as a way to feel comfortable without mocking her faith, could help mend things.

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OP should offer a heartfelt apology to the mother and keep the game more discreet in the future, perhaps by silently noting statues and discussing later. This preserves their humor while respecting the family’s space. The mother could also be encouraged to share her feelings, fostering mutual understanding and respect.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The online community offered a mix of support and gentle criticism, reflecting varied perspectives. Below are all cited comments, grouped by theme.

Many users saw the game as harmless but urged OP to apologize for upsetting the mother:

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Straight-Singer-2912 − NAH I also have a very religious MIL, so I know the urge to want to make a joke out of what seems overwhelming and so far out...

Been there. Saying "you didn't mean any offence" may be true, but it doesn't address her hurt feelings. My husband once explained it to me as "Straight Singer, you take...

Now imagine my mother said, thinking you weren't around, what you do is no big deal, your responsibilities are laughable and your whole career a joke. Now she tell you...

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In the interest of family harmony, I would offer an apology (and maybe a new Jesus something from a special church or cathedral? ) and say it won’t happen again.

Maybe even offer to go to church with her one Sunday or over Easter. At the end of the day, she is the one who raised your partner... so she...

StarVenger40 − I am very religious also, and I’m trying to imagine being upset by this… and I just can’t. It isn’t disrespectful in any way that I can see....

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AceOfGargoyes17 − NAH - You accidentally played the game in front of your MIL. That's a mistake, and not a major AH one. - Your MIL was upset, which is...

- Was the whole game an AH move? I don't think so - you weren't doing it (deliberately) in front of your MIL, it’s more teasing/poking fun rather than being...

(I'm assuming that the amount of Jesus decor is an individual choice rather than a common cultural practice), you weren't using it as a form of ridicule. You might be...

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Electronic_Paper_03 − NAH. I’m a Christian and joke around about church people culture all the time, I wouldn’t take this as mocking religion. It’s just being amused by a quirky...

But also it’s understandable for her to be upset by someone poking fun at her home, and if religion has been a source of conflict between you in the past...

Some found the game funny and saw no issue with OP’s actions:

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RedheadedTati19 − NTA Jesus totally giggled whenever you found him

heysoulmakossa − NTA. Being devout in your faith doesn’t make collecting little statues and hiding them all over your house any less eccentric. People need to grow a sense of...

[Reddit User] − NTA, and I am going to play this the next time I visit my aunt’s home.

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sneakysammy89 − NTA. I kind of understand it sticking in the mom’s craw a bit, but it wasn’t like you were really making fun of her religious decorations.

If she just heard peek-a-boo Jesus, it probably just rubbed her the wrong way a little or made her feel insecure. But like you said, it was harmless and not...

[Reddit User] − NTA. You were just playing spot the Jesus. I’ve just googled and there’s a book called ‘Finding Jesus’ which is basically a Where’s Wally, with Jesus.

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There’s also a book called ‘Where is Jesus hidden? ’ on a Catholic book website - and it about spotting Jesus hiding behind furniture. I don’t get why she was...

Others felt OP was wrong for joking in the mother’s home:

SingleAlfredoFemale − You don’t have to agree with her being hurt. But you should accept that she is. As a woman of faith, I actually think your game is funny,...

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But she doesn’t, and I think it’s perfectly reasonable for her to be offended that someone is mocking her beliefs and decor. Where you become YTA is that when you...

instead of apologizing and stop doing the thing that offended her, you’re trying to get us to say she’s wrong for being upset. She’s not being unreasonable, and I think...

[Reddit User] − YTA. Don't get me wrong, I think it's hilarious, and I don't think you're a bad person in any way, but the fact is you were in...

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This is a situation for a simple apology and then move on. Don't stop playing the game, just be more aware of your surroundings.

Substantial-Wrap8634 − YTA - but only a little bit. After reading about your “rocky start” and and you specifically mentioning that “they had to reckon with their religious beliefs and...

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They came a long way to be able to welcome you, and I think poking fun at their religion (even silly, tangential fun) while at their home is a little...

That being said, it is harmless fun and was genuinely about the iconography more than the religion, with no intention to offend, which is why you’re only the AH a...

mlmarte − It’s not necessarily about the Jesus, it’s about mocking her home decor while you’re in her home. My MIL loves decorations that involve chickens. No, she does not...

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My husband and I have joked about the chickens before, but you know where we’ve never joked about it? In her house, where she could hear us. That’s just rude.

Your peek-a-boo Jesus game is hilarious, but it should have stayed between the two of you, and should never have been uttered in her house, where you have now clearly...

One user shared a personal perspective, relating the game to their own experiences:

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[Reddit User] − I'm gonna say NTA because I would probably do the same thing. Now to be fair, my 3rd grade teacher had a picture of the Virgin Mary...

And for a period when I was 9/10 I hated bathing cuz I didn't want God to see me n__ed and he sees everything. So yeah, suffice it to say...

This story shows how a lighthearted joke can unintentionally hurt someone’s deeply held beliefs. OP didn’t mean to offend, but the “Peekaboo Jesus” game made their partner’s mother feel disrespected in her own home. Should OP apologize and stop the game, or just be more careful in the future? What’s your take on this situation? Share your thoughts!

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