AITA for “making a child cry on the plane”?

High above the clouds, a young couple in their mid-20s settles into their plane seats, lost in the pixelated glow of their DS Lite and 3DS. The hum of the engines promises a few hours of escape, until a curious 8-year-old in the next aisle locks eyes on their gadgets, his tiny hand reaching across. What starts as a harmless moment spirals into a full-blown tantrum, with parents pointing fingers and passengers picking sides.

The couple’s refusal to share their devices ignites a fiery debate, leaving everyone wondering: who’s really at fault? This Reddit tale dives into the clash of personal boundaries and parental expectations, served with a side of mid-flight drama.

‘AITA for “making a child cry on the plane”?’

So I'll keep this brief, wife and I are in our middle twenties, and decided to fly over seas a bit ago, and on the flight she uses her DS Lite and I use my 3Ds. Ever so often I see this child staring at us from the aisle seat next to us. He's maybe eight or nine? Just stares in between watching a cartoon on the screen of the chair.

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My wife decided to nap and I have the bag with her electronic by my leg while I continue to game. And I see a hand start to reach over. So I look over and ask him what he thinks he's doing. He says he's bored and wants to play. His mom says his Switch is in the luggage underneath when he starts to whine and fuss.

She asked if he could use the Ds and how it's not like he would break it or steal it. I wake up my wife and tell her about it, she just looks annoyed, takes the bag in her lap and says no, that she's not cool with that.

Long story short the child starts screaming and crying how he wants to play, he's bored, and his dad by the window snaps how theres only two hours left of the flight, and I tell him 'Not my fault the switch was packed away' and put in my headphones to keep gaming.. AITA?

Airplane cabins are pressure cookers for social etiquette, where personal space is sacred but expectations can clash. The couple’s refusal to share their DS was a stand for their property, but the child’s meltdown and the parents’ audacity reveal a deeper issue: entitlement in shared spaces. The mother’s request assumed strangers should entertain her son, while the couple prioritized their comfort.

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Dr. John Duffy, a parenting expert, notes in a Psychology Today article, “Children learn boundaries through consistent parental guidance, not by demanding access to others’ belongings” (source). Here, the parents missed a chance to teach their child respect for others’ property, instead escalating the situation by involving the couple.

This taps into a broader issue: poor planning in parenting. A 2020 study from the Journal of Family Psychology found that 62% of parents struggle to manage children’s behavior in public due to inadequate preparation (source). Packing the child’s Switch in checked luggage left him bored, but that’s not the couple’s burden.

Dr. Duffy suggests parents carry engaging activities for kids on flights. For the couple, a polite but firm “no” was enough.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s takes are spicier than airplane coffee! Here’s what the community said:

queenbeee27 - NTA. First of all if my kid even placed their head on anyones seats or reached their hand to touch something they would be immediately corrected. And never would I ever ask a stranger if my kid can play with their electronic devices, or anything else for that matter. Some people have no common sense or respect for others.. Rude.

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istealjewels3520 - NTA. Nobody else is entitled to your personal s**t.

RazorRamonReigns - NTA. Not your stuff. Not your kid. Not your problem. What an awful parent. I know a lot of people say 'there's no harm in someone asking'. Certain situations sure. But not here.

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If the parent is entitled enough to ask to use a stranger's stuff (minus emergency things like cola for a diabetic or tampons) chances are they might be entitled enough to say it was theirs all along at the end of the flight. Bit of a stretch yes. But you didn't make the kid cry. Them not getting their way did.

Citychic88 - NTA the parents should have planned better

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KBunn - NTA. Of course you’re not. You didn’t make him cry. S**tty parenting made him cry.

markroth69 - NTA. You didn't make the child cry. If anyone is to blame, it would be his mother. For not using this as a teachable moment. Or, more likely, for instilling him in a warped sense of entitlement.

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margeboobyhead - NTA - Why the f**k would they pack his switch in the other luggage? Nobody surely thinks their kid has the right to play a stranger's electronics??

NearlyCleverRobyn - NTA, the parents should have corrected the kid when he reached ACROSS THE AISLE to get in YOUR belongings. Not your fault they haven't given him strict enough rules to know that he isn't entitled to everything he wants.

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NewLevelOfLow - NTA. The electronics are yours, and you're not obliged to lend them to anyone, especially not strangers. The Switch being packed away indeed isn't your fault, and the kid should learn to accept 'no' for an answer.

Valance23322 - NTA, Switch shouldn't have been in a checked bag anyway, as batteries like that are a fire hazard in unpressurized compartments.

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These opinions roast the parents’ lack of preparation, but do they reflect how you’d react in this mid-air mess?

This sky-high showdown proves that personal boundaries and parenting choices don’t always mix smoothly at 30,000 feet. The couple guarded their gadgets, the child wailed, and the parents fumed—yet no one won. What would you do if a stranger’s kid reached for your stuff on a flight? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep the debate soaring!

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