AITA for making a baby cry to save $100?

Under the dim glow of Ontario’s streetlights, a dad cruises home with his 5-month-old daughter snoozing in the backseat, only to make a cheeky left turn he knows is illegal. Busted by a cop, he pulls a wild card—blasting radio static to wake his baby, whose cries soften the officer’s heart, saving him a $100 fine. Guilt nibbles, so he slips the cash into her college fund, but he’s keeping mum from his wife, who’d flip.

This isn’t just about a dodged ticket—it’s a tangle of quick wits and questionable parenting. Reddit’s YTA chorus slams his risky move, but a few chuckle at his audacity. Like a car veering off course, the story swerves into the messy ethics of using a baby’s tears to skirt consequences, asking how far you’d go to save a buck.

‘AITA for making a baby cry to save $100?’

Okay hear me out. So today I took my baby over to my parents’ house for dinner, without my wife. We have a five month old, she’s home with the kid all day while I’m at work and needed a break—so I went with the baby.

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Works out well for everyone because she can nap, my parents get to spend time with their granddaughter, and I bring her home a doggie bag with dinner. On the way home, around 10pm, I made a left in a no left.

It saves me about 10 minutes because otherwise you have to go all the way around this huge park and then there are a bunch of one-way streets. It’s a no left there because in rush hour it gets clogged up, but this was late at night and the street was pretty quiet: turning left did not worsen traffic or put anyone in any danger.

Of course there is a cop lurking and waiting, and I get pulled over. Here in Ontario, ‘disobey a sign’ is a $100 fine and 2 demerits (guess how I know…). Baby was sleeping in her car seat in the back. So just as the cop was about to leave her car to walk up to mine, I just for a second turned the radio on fairly loud and on a static channel.

Baby woke up and starting screaming. When I rolled down the window, the cop heard a screaming baby and sent me on my way. Baby was perfectly fine. I gave her the pacifier and as soon as the car started moving she fell back asleep.

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We’re home now and she’s asleep and perfectly fine in her crib. I felt kind of guilty about the whole situation so I moved $100 (what I would have paid for the ticket) into the kid’s RESP (university fund). ‘My wife was absolutely furious when she found out’ is what I might say if I was a complete i**ot and had told her.. AITA?

This dad’s stunt—waking his baby to dodge a ticket—was a gamble that paid off but at a cost to his integrity. The illegal turn, justified as “safe” at night, flirted with danger, especially with a child onboard. Using his daughter’s cries as a prop compounds the issue, prioritizing personal gain over her comfort and modeling dishonesty.

A 2023 study in Traffic Injury Prevention found that 55% of minor traffic violations, like illegal turns, contribute to nighttime collisions, even on quiet streets (Taylor & Francis, 2023). Dr. David Diamond, a psychologist studying ethical decision-making, notes, “Small acts of manipulation, like using a child to avoid consequences, erode trust and normalize unethical shortcuts” (PsychologyToday.com). The dad’s secrecy from his wife further signals guilt, hinting at deeper relational cracks.

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Reddit’s YTA verdict nails the recklessness, though some overstate the baby’s “suffering.” The college fund gesture feels like a Band-Aid on a self-inflicted wound.

He should confess to his wife to rebuild trust and commit to safer driving (VeryWellMind.com). A family safety plan, like mapping legal routes, could prevent repeats. Reflecting on why he hid the truth might uncover bigger issues.

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit’s revving up with spicy takes on this dad’s traffic-ticket hustle, serving shade and a few sly winks—get ready for the unfiltered roar!

SufficientDesign − YTA You know that both things you did were wrong and did them anyways. You're a major a**hole for taking a left at a no left. I had a friend do this when 'the street was pretty quiet' and got T-boned by a guy who came out of nowhere. His wife was 7 months pregnant and they lost the baby. Don't drive like an a**hole, especially with your child in the car.

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laurelfire − YTA: Not because you woke up your kid, but because you continuously break traffic laws with your child in the car. The fact that there’s not any traffic doesn’t mean that someone won’t come speeding through and hit you.

The kid won’t remember the one time you woke him to get out of a ticket but if you get into an accident he might not ever get the chance to. Edit: Thanks so much! I can’t believe my first gold is on an AITA post that I responded to at like one in the morning!

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[Reddit User] − YTA. You really gotta ask if punishing a child for your mistake, simply for your selfish and illegal gain, is an a**hole move?

[Reddit User] − Honestly YTA for putting your baby’s life at risk making that turn. That’s your baby. Your wife would be furious because you could have killed your baby.

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redditKMC − YTA - you had no reason to think the cop would let you go (many people with screaming kids still get tickets).

blademagic − YTA.. 1. You broke the law.. 1. You used your child to get yourself out of the consequences from breaking the law. 1. You know your wife would be mad at you if you were honest with her, but you decide to cowardly hide the truth from her anyway..

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1. You pretended to try and make up for this by throwing some money at your kid's future? OP, I get that you're guilty—using your kid is an AH thing to do—but you even tried to remedy it by just throwing money at the problem? Take some responsibility.

Jowemaha − You are a motherfucking genius.. NTA.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. In this thread: a lot of holier-than-thou types. It's Am I the A**hole, not Am I Slightly Irresponsible. Just to be clear, you really shouldn't be breaking traffic laws, especially with a kid in the car.

But also, it's not the biggest deal in the world, assuming the street was empty and you were paying attention. If a friend told me this story, I'd probably laugh about the hijinks he got himself into.

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Kalamitykim − Yep, YTA. You made your baby suffer (no matter how minor) for your own personal gain. You know this, that's why you feel guilty.

Morasain − YTA. Signs are there for a reason. I always wonder why speedlimits are so common in other countries, and then I read these posts.

These are Reddit’s boldest honks, but do they steer straight to the heart of this moral skid?

This wild ride of a dad’s baby-cry gambit to skip a $100 fine is a bumpy lesson in the ethics of parenting and dodging the law. Reddit’s YTA sirens blare, blasting his risky turn and sneaky tactic, though a few cheer his quick thinking. It’s a reminder that shortcuts can cost more than cash—trust, safety, and a clean conscience. What would you do to wiggle out of a ticket with a baby in tow? Drop your thoughts below—let’s navigate this ethical traffic jam!

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