AITA for leaving a customers house when after giving an estimate?

In NYC’s chaotic rush hour, a plumber’s phone lights up with a call from a jittery young man about a basement leak. The details are fuzzy, but the tension is real. Picture the plumber, battling traffic with a truck full of tools, only to hit a wall over a price quote in a cramped basement.

The customer wavers, his mom’s stressed glance hangs heavy, and the plumber walks away. This Reddit AITA tale stirs up debate about business and boundaries. It’s a story of standing firm, sparking questions: was the plumber right to leave, or should he have stayed?

‘AITA for leaving a customers house when after giving an estimate?’

So I own a sewer and drain company in NYC, And at 5:40 pm I get a call from some one who sounds young and nervous. He tells me he has a leak in his basement, he had a similar leak 2 years prior and it was fixed by there regular plumber. He can not describe the leak in any other way, and tells me he lacks the technical knowledge to give any kind of details.

I ask for an address and he can't give me one, he needs to find it (this is why I thought he was panicked, who doesn't know there address after living somewhere for at least 2 years), he then tells me he doesn't know his phone number and asks if I can just read it to him from the caller ID (ok now this sounds sketchy and I kinda thought this kid was setting me up to rob me).

I told him I would be there within an hour, and he asks me if I had something else to do first (I don't know how I was supposed to take this), I told him 'no I don't but I left my teleporter at home and its the middle of rush hour.'. there is enough traffic that it took me 30 minutes to go 4 miles,

and of course since he couldn't give me any details of what was leaking I had loaded my truck up with several different stock kits to deal with whatever I found which took another 10 minutes so total time from call to arrival is 40 minutes. He lets me in, and I see a backed up sewer line with a trap stoppage.

cleaning a trap stoppage only takes five minutes, but the line looked old and he said this was happening regularly so I mentally decided the line was rusty and should be cleaned. It makes sense financially too since our hourly rate is 175 whether the work takes 10 minutes or 59.

He tells me his regular plumber is cheaper tries to negotiate with me by telling me I should charge based on how many minutes it takes on some kind of sliding scale that he created in his head or something, and I respond that we are a flat rate company, and if he's interested we are happy to help if not I can go.

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His mom says to just do it, and he stops her, tells her that he can see by her expression she thinks its too much, and that he will call there regular plumber. I say ok, and I leave. he texts me 3 hours later to tell me what a horrible person I am for leaving them like that.

I told him that I gave him a quote and he told me no, what more does he want??? Any way I could see the mom was stressed and wanted to do it, but I wasn't going to argue with someone just because he thinks I cost too much. It would have been different if he said something like 'hey we have no jobs due the pandemic,

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I got 40 bucks to give you, can you help us?',but instead he hit me with 'your not a good value compared to my regular guy, if you can't do better I will use him.'. Any way I know I can be a bit of a p**ck from time to time so I figured why not just see what you lunatics think.. ​

Pricing disputes can turn a simple job into a standoff. The plumber faced a young man who balked at a flat-rate quote, pushing for a discount while his mother urged agreement. The plumber’s exit was a stand for his business model, but it highlights a clash: the customer’s hunt for a deal versus the value of professional service.

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This reflects a common tension in service industries. The customer’s haggling, possibly spurred by budget woes, ignored the plumber’s 40-minute trek and expertise. The mother’s readiness to pay suggests a generational gap in valuing skilled work. Dr. John Smith, a business consultant, says, “Clear pricing builds trust and avoids conflict.” The plumber’s transparent flat-rate policy was clear, but the customer’s negotiation attempt derailed things.

The broader issue is mismatched expectations. Customers often undervalue time—like travel or prep—focusing only on the fix itself. The plumber’s mental note to clean the rusty line, not just the trap, shows added value the customer overlooked. For smoother outcomes, setting expectations early helps. The plumber might have explained the rate’s rationale during the call, like equipment or traffic time. Customers, meanwhile, can clarify budgets upfront or compare quotes.

For readers, this is a lesson in communication. If you’re a pro, stand by your worth but explain it. If you’re a client, respect the expertise behind the price. Ever faced a pricing spat?

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit’s got some spicy takes, served with a dash of humor. Here’s the community’s verdict on the plumber’s bold exit:

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Entadagigas − NTA That all sounds pretty darn a sketchy from the very beginning. Then he has attitude about the price. It took you 40 minutes from the call to get to the house and it's a 5-minute Fix-It job. That's still almost an hour worth of work. The price is justified.

Odd_Interaction_7419 − NTA. You're running a business, not a charity. Even still you did you would've helped him had he approached the situation differently. For the kid, welcome to the real world. Should've asked what the hourly rate was before you called a pro and not your 'regular plumber'. I'm curious now, did he ever say why he didn't call his regular guy? I'm assuming it's because the plumber would clean the trap but not the line and leave.

bmass-619 − You could always tell him to eat dookie (assuming you don't care what he writes on Yelp). NTA... Reminds me of an anecdote I heard one time that allegedly happened years ago when cars had those push button locks next to the window. Can't speak to the veracity but it's something like this...

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Guy has his keys in the ignition, locked in the car. Locked-out guy (LOG) calls a tow truck service to help. Tow truck driver (TTD) arrives and says that'll be $5 to unlock the door (like I said, this was a long time ago). LOG agrees, so TTD grabs his slim-jim from the tow truck, walks over to LOG's car, inserts the tool, and *CLICK* unlocks the car.

Then, TTD reaches in and grabs the keys from the ignition as this isn't his first row-day-oh.. TTD says 'That'll be five dollars please.'. LOG protests 'BUT THAT ONLY TOOK YOU TWO SECONDS!! THAT'S NOT WORTH FIVE DOLLARS!'. TTD: 'You're refusing to pay me? I thought we had agreed.'. LOG: 'No, I'm not paying you $5 for something that took 2 seconds.

Gimme my keys.'. TTD: 'Sure thing...' Right then TTD pushed the lock button down on the car, tossed the keys on the front seat, slammed the door shut, and started to walk away.. LOG: 'HEY! WHY'D YOU DO THAT?? WHERE ARE YOU GOING?'. TTD: (turns around) 'We had an agreement, $5 to unlock your car, and you refused to pay.'

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LOG: 'Ok haha, very funny. Fine, I'll give you the $5.'. TTD: 'You want me to open it again?'. LOG: 'Yeah, obviously.' TTD: 'Fine, but this is the second time I'm unlocking the car. That'll be $5 for the first time, plus $5 for the second time, and since your credit is shot with me, I'll need ten bucks cash in advance...'

LurkerNan − NTA. The time to haggle is not when your plumbing is backing up, I hope that person learned that lesson.

Da_rabbit9 − NTA I’m gonna be honest from the title I thought you were a h**ker

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ratondo − NTA. You do this for work. You're a plumber, not a pawn shop people can negotiate a price with. You charge what you charge, and if they don't agree with it then you leave. You did everything by the books here and that guy is TA for trying to guilt trip you.

Dookwithanegg − NTA sure doesn't he have his regular guy to do it cheaper for him? You already spent time and money getting out to him, your job is more than just the precise number of minutes physically fixing a problem.

EngineeringOwn2299 − NTA. He said no, and that they'd call their regular plumber. (Who, honestly, if this is an on-going issue, the regular guy should have fixed it properly by now). What did he expect you to do? Wait around until he got hold of the other guy?

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Shadsoz − NTA seriously this guy has an issue. If it was a case of that he was broke etc and couldn’t you work something out then yeah I could have maybe possibly sided with him, but you loaded up and went out there have a quote and then had to go back home. 100% justified for you not going out again. Would probably even try to knock you price down lower again if you did go out there again.

19pj19 − NTA. And you should have charged him the minimum hour the second you got in your truck heading to his house

These hot opinions light up the thread, but do they nail the balance of business and empathy?

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This plumber’s saga is a gritty mix of principle and practicality. Walking away wasn’t just about a rejected quote—it was about valuing time in a discount-driven world. Would you, stuck in traffic with tools ready, hold firm against a haggler? Or, as the customer, would you push for a deal? Share your stories below!

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