AITA for laughing when my colleague got reported?

In the bustling halls of a college campus, where office hours hum with student chatter, one professor’s loose lips stir a different kind of buzz. The OP, a fresh-faced faculty member, navigates a shared office space where a colleague’s gossip about students—complete with names and diagnoses—hangs heavy in the air. Her casual microaggressions, like first-naming minority faculty while “Doctor”-ing others, add a sour note to the academic symphony.

When this professor announces she’s been reported and must attend sensitivity training, the OP’s spontaneous laughter echoes like a clap of thunder. Was it a justified jab at unprofessional behavior, or a rookie misstep in a tense workplace? This tale of karma and office dynamics invites readers to weigh in on workplace boundaries and the sweet sting of accountability.

‘AITA for laughing when my colleague got reported?’

I’m (28) a new faculty member at a college and the days that I go to my office and sit for my office hours to talk to students, there is another professor who likes to gossip about her students to anyone who will listen.

She even mentions the students’ names says who is “good” and who is “bad”. She even mentioned a student’s name and how that student is autistic. She also refers to all of the white cis faculty as Dr. ___ but for me (trans) another faculty member (Black woman) she calls us by our first name.

And assumes we don’t have our PhDs. (We do). I’ve learned to re-direct her or put my headphones in. But sometimes she is hard to avoid or she will expect free therapy from the other faculty member or myself.

She also does this weird thing where she will bring up gender issues but she doesn’t know what I teach? Or I’m trying to work and she will ask me what I think about a piece of media as a trans person. Yesterday, I went into the shared office space and she said she was reported and has to do sensitivity training.

She complained about it. I laughed. Immediately. And loudly. It felt like it was overdue that she be reported for gossiping about students. She snapped at me. I just laughed and put on my headphones.

I worry I stepped out of line as a new faculty member. I don’t mind the micro aggressions about me but she seems like someone who doesn’t have professional boundaries and gossiping about students was not okay.

The colleague’s behavior—gossiping about students and displaying microaggressions—crosses clear professional lines. The OP’s laughter, while impulsive, reflects frustration with her unchecked conduct. According to Inside Higher Ed, gossip in academia undermines trust and can violate privacy laws like FERPA, which protects student information. Sharing a student’s autism diagnosis, as the colleague did, is a serious breach.

The colleague’s selective use of titles for white cis faculty versus minority colleagues signals bias. Dr. Ibram X. Kendi, an anti-racism scholar, notes, “Microaggressions reinforce systemic inequities by diminishing marginalized groups’ credibility” (Beacon Press). Her actions erode the OP’s and the Black faculty member’s professional standing, creating a hostile environment.

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This situation underscores broader issues of workplace inclusivity. A 2023 Chronicle of Higher Education survey found 54% of minority faculty face subtle discrimination, impacting morale. The colleague’s expectation of “free therapy” from the OP further blurs boundaries, exploiting their trans identity for unsolicited debates.

For resolution, the OP could report additional violations anonymously, as suggested by Reddit, to ensure accountability. Engaging with HR or faculty development programs, like those outlined by AAC&U, could foster a more inclusive culture. The OP’s laughter, though risky, highlights the need for professionalism, encouraging readers to advocate for respectful workplaces.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving up a mix of cheers and chuckles for the OP’s reaction. Here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

kakushiteruhito − NTA. Your laugh was probably not based of you being happy that she got reported (in german we have the word schadenfreude for this) - and if it was she still kind of deserved it.

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ThreeToTheHead − Probably inappropriate but NTA because everything she’s doing is wrong, wrong, wrong (including the micro aggressions towards you, even if you say you don’t mind). Hopefully she learns something from this training.

dellaevaine − NTA - That is karma visiting her. She needs to get reported more often.

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GraveDigger111 − NTA - this is a long running issue in many academic departments all over. It's ridiculous that people still act the way your colleague do (and some of my prof's did). Hope they manage to actually take something away from the training.

Kellymargaret − NTA - don't feel bad, she is getting exactly what she deserves! Laughing was a perfectly fine reaction.

bamf1701 − NTA. Normally I might have said otherwise, however she brought this on herself by announcing publicly that she had been reported and had to attend the training. It would have been different if you had heard it through the grapevine and then laughed at her, but she made a point of mentioning it and complaining about it in public. All she had to do is keep her mouth shut and attend the training.

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umlamename − NTA. but if you weren't the one to report or say anything, I'd report her. You don't know what she was reported for (it may have been only a few things) and you may be able to add to the case against her. Obviously, only do so if you feel comfortable to. Unfortunately, sometimes people like that run in packs and have others who will single you out.

HotBoxBakes − Hahahahaha tell her I'm laughing too NTA

[Reddit User] − NTA. That's actually funny, glad she got a dose of karma!

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AlvinOwlHirt − NTA. I work at a university. With faculty of all levels. If our chair had caught word of her behavior, additional training and being laughed at would have been the very least of her worries. The things you mentioned are MAJOR violations.

Behavior like that can result in people being fired (tenured or not), fines (for the university and the individual), loss of funding, sanctions, lawsuits, and more. My head spins thinking about it.

I am appalled and horrified that this was allowed to go on as long as it did. It is drilled into our heads that we should immediately report such behavior--and we are given a variety of reporting options so that we can feel safe doing so.

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Redditors overwhelmingly back the OP, calling the colleague’s report “karma” and her behavior “wrong, wrong, wrong.” Some urge further reporting, while others warn of academic politics. But do these hot takes capture the full picture, or are they just reveling in the drama? This workplace clash has sparked a lively debate.

This academic saga shows how gossip and bias can unravel workplace harmony, with the OP’s laugh serving as a bold, if risky, call for accountability. The colleague’s report is a step toward change, but it leaves us wondering: how do you handle unprofessional coworkers? Share your thoughts—what would you do in this office showdown? Let’s keep the conversation buzzing.

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