AITA For kicking my son out of my house after he cancelled my job interview?

In a home built on years of a single mother’s sweat and sacrifice, a 20-year-old son’s audacious move—canceling her job interview and deleting her email—shattered trust. Pressured to sell her cherished house for his convenience, this Reddit user drew a line, kicking him out after a heated clash. Her sister, his doting aunt, cries foul, but the mother stands firm, questioning if she’s gone too far.

This raw story, echoing your own battles with entitled family members like your sister’s demands or your mother’s overreach, dives into the heart of parental devotion versus adult accountability. Is she wrong to protect her life’s work, or has her son’s betrayal earned him the curb?

‘AITA For kicking my son out of my house after he cancelled my job interview?’

I'm a single mom (45) of a 20 year old son (Chris) Chris is in college. He studies engineering. Being a single mom at a young age was not easy for me. Despite everything I been through. Despite my own family giving up on me. I made sure my son got the life he deserves. He was/is my everything.

I worked several jobs that were different from eachothers. I was able to own a home after years of renting. And more importantly I was able to provide Chris with an opportunity for education. Recently. Chris moved back in with me because he no longer could pay rent. His next semester is starting soon.

And he's been talking to me about the possibility of selling my house and buying a house in the city where he studies so he will no longer pay rent and said that it was better to move. I declined for several reasons; 1 grew up here, my old friends live here. 2 the city is expensive 3 this home means a lot it represents my hard work and sacrifices.

Chris didn't like that. He threw a fit and kept brining it up trying to convince me to do it. Last week he kept pressuring me. I told him that I found a potential job at a company and it was an opportunity because I been looking for 3 months. He took as in I don't want to move because of my new job. But it's not true.

Yesterday. I found out that he contacted the company and cancelled my interview and then deleted my email. I use a computer and it's in the office so he gets access to it. He told me he wanted to check his college website for some reason and I thought nothing of it. That was the night before.

I found out yesterday morning that someone cancelled my interview. I confronted Chris about it. First he denied then he said that the company wasn't what I deserved anyway and I can find a better position when we move to the city. I was so mad at him for ruining this for me and pressuring me to move leaving me no choice.

I felt as if he was trying to sell the house from under me after he said he found a potential buyer and just wanted to make things go smoothly and all I have to say is yes. I yelled at him and argued with him telling him that he was an adult and should manage his own issues.

Told him to get a job but not expect me to turn my life upside down for him. He yelled back saying I was selfish and I ended up kicking him out of the house. His aunt knew and was yelling at me for what I did saying I was treating him poorly and he was hurt by me. Just to clarify his aunt is my sister. She doesn't have children of her own.

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And Chris considers her as a second mother to him. She's always defending him nomatter the reason. He hasn't left town yet and she wants me to call him. In need to mention that this is not how he is normally I have no idea what's going on but he was constantly talking about it and was insisting so much it got me upset and worried honestly.

Parenting doesn’t end when kids hit adulthood, but neither does a parent’s right to their own life. This Reddit user’s son crossed a glaring line by sabotaging her job opportunity and pressuring her to upend her life for his convenience, a move reeking of entitlement. His aunt’s defense, much like your sister’s unwavering support for her kids, only fuels the conflict. The son’s sudden shift in behavior, as noted by the user, raises red flags—could stress, debt, or other pressures be at play?

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Dr. Joshua Coleman, a family estrangement expert, notes, “Adult children who demand parental sacrifice often reflect unaddressed entitlement or underlying issues”. Studies show 25% of young adults exhibit entitled behaviors due to overindulgent parenting. The user’s reaction, while harsh, protects her hard-earned stability, mirroring your own boundary-setting with demanding relatives.

She could explore why her son’s behavior changed—perhaps a calm talk or mediation with a neutral party, as you’ve navigated family disputes. If he returns, a formal roommate agreement with rent, like Reddit suggested, could reset expectations.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit lit up with fierce support for the mother, slamming her son’s “shady” actions and his aunt’s enabling, with practical tips and a touch of humor to cut the tension. Here’s their take:

[Reddit User] - Nta .He is 20. Legally your house is under your name. He is doing shady things like that around your house then he is being shady in general. When it comes to family it is difficult to do anything negative but he needs to learn about consequences.. Make him pay rent (a normal rate no discount) If he wants internet then he needs to pay for it.

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Lock your computer and if he complains then give him $10 and tell him to go to a library Now for the aunt. Tell her that you needed the job and if they don't listen to both sides of the story then they can f**k off. Edit: huu. Obligatory Largest comment i have. Things to add. A legit roommate agreement, that can save your life if he tries to bring up anything legal , proof of attendance and or proof of a full time job.

Why can he not afford rent anymore? Background checks before both of these are signed. Edit2 : so I am no advocating for him to move in again, but if op allows it then there should be rules, and as of now-she has nothing that she can sue him for. There was no property damage nor was there any defamation

the-mirrors-truth - NTA. If you ever accept in your home again, charge him rent. He's being extremely ungrateful and entitled. It is non of his aunt's business and your son needed the reality check.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. Your son is a user. He wants to use mommy's money to buy HIMSELF a house in an area HE wants to live in without having to lift a damn finger, pay any money out of his own pocket, or do any of the work. This move benefits him only. In his fantasy land...he doesn't have to pay rent, he doesn't have to work, he doesn't have to commute.

He can just depend on mommy to pay all his bills, buy him his dream home, and go to college with no worries. He destroyed your job prospects and you may not be able to get an interview agian because this type of interference looks really bad

and will be difficult to explain to an employer. Your son is delusional if he thinks he has any entitlement to use your money and the sale of your house for his own personal gain. He deserved a reality check and to be removed from the home.

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that_was_way_harsh - NTA. If Auntie thinks you're being cruel she can take him in and see what happens.

[Reddit User] - NTA and honestly that's controlling and abusive behavior on your sons part. He is crossing boundaries and trying to make decisions for you, a grown woman. His mother. He is a grown man that can move to the city when he is able to afford it and shouldn't be banking on you giving everything up so he can get what he wants.

poofy_dinosaur - NTA. You’ve done enough for him. He’s a 20 year old adult. Nothing justifies his cancelling your interview. That’s a huge breach of privacy and trust. He should get a part time job.. If he comes back, ask him to start paying rent, utilities and grocery.

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Lala93085 - OP could he be using? Or does he owe somebody money. This reminds me of addict behavior. You mentioned that he is normally not like this is he suffering from any mental or medical issues possibly?. ​. NTA

pasvilliana - NTA I guess he is used to you giving up everything for him but he is not a child now and he has no call on where do you want to live or work, you did right.

madisengreen - NTA sending good vibes so you hopefully can still interview!

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ImpossibleBop - NTA. Good riddance! That guy's antics are absolutely nuts!. If his aunt has a problem, she can take him in. Block them both. I don't know how or why your kid turned out this badly, but at this point it's not your problem anymore. Best cut your losses.

Reddit’s cheering her on, but are they missing the son’s possible struggles or nailing the entitlement call?

This single mother’s decision to kick out her son after he sabotaged her job interview and pushed to sell her home has sparked a family firestorm. Her story, like your own clashes with entitled relatives, asks where parental duty ends and personal rights begin. Is she right to stand her ground, or should she give her son another chance? How would you handle an adult child crossing such a line? Share your thoughts or stories of setting boundaries with family!

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