AITA for kicking my parents out of the house after they make mean comments about my work?

Picture a single woman, thriving in her own three-bedroom home, earned through years of grit in freelance work, OnlyFans, and escorting. Her success is a testament to her hustle, but when her financially strapped parents needed a place to stay, she opened her doors despite their past judgments. What should have been a temporary haven turned sour when they mocked her career and violated her private office space.

Their cruel remarks, laced with disdain for the very work that funded their shelter, pushed her to a breaking point. With a sharp retort and an open door, she asked them to leave, sparking a family feud. Her Reddit post lays bare the sting of disrespect and the struggle to maintain boundaries, even with those closest to you.

‘AITA for kicking my parents out of the house after they make mean comments about my work?’

I have a freelance job. I also work with OnlyFans and escort (which is my biggest source of income). Don't worry community moderators, I won't say anything NSFW, my audience is very specific and they are not for that. And I'm not American.

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After 3 years working like this, I bought a 3bd/2ba house with my own effort and it's great for me as I'm single and I don't have kids. My parents, after several irresponsible and financially dumb decisions, were no longer able to pay the rent on the house they lived in.

My parents and I aren't close, as they disagreed and were very judgmental about my life decisions, as were my brothers. But I welcomed them at home until they were able to stabilize, since my brothers couldn't receive them because they didn't have space.

They've been living with me for 3 months. My work is inside my office and it has always been said that no one could enter that place, even to clean.. My brothers came to visit us on Wednesday and started talking.

In one of the conversations that was taking place, my brother talked about being facing financial difficulties and my mother said the following sentence. 'Oh, do like your sister, take b**ch pictures and post them on the internet, she got a house because she's pretty. You're pretty too, maybe you can' and laughed.

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She also started to say that she was afraid of my office, as it was frighteningly creepy. I asked how she knew what my office was like and she said she peeked in after seeing I accidentally left the door unlocked one day.

After this, My parents made some salty comments and I, angry, said in a not too serious tone 'Oh, at least I don't live at my kids' house.' My parents were embarrassed and I confirmed it again, seriously this time 'I'm serious, the door is open for you to leave'.

Dinner is obviously over and again when my brothers were leaving, I with the door open still asked if my parents weren't leaving too.. My parents packed their things and went to a hotel. They sent a message saying that I shouldn't be so sensitive with comments about my work and that I shouldn't be surprised that people think so.

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And that I had overreacted by kicking them out of my house for silly comments. My whole family is on their side and that at the very least I should help pay for the hotel they are staying in, because they are there because of me.. I don't know if I overreacted and went too far, but I don't tolerate being disrespected.. AITA?

This woman’s decision to evict her parents after their disrespectful comments highlights the complex interplay of family obligations and personal boundaries. By mocking her career, which directly funded their shelter, her parents breached trust and respect. Dr. Nedra Glover Tawwab, a boundary expert, notes, “Setting boundaries with family is tough but necessary to protect your peace” . Their actions justified her response, as respect is non-negotiable in shared spaces.

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The parents’ behavior—deriding her work while benefiting from it—reflects a sense of entitlement often seen in strained family dynamics. Their invasion of her private office further violated her autonomy, a critical boundary in her home. A 2021 study from the Journal of Family Psychology found that 40% of adults report family conflicts over differing values . Here, the parents’ judgment of her career choices escalated tensions.

This situation underscores a broader issue: societal stigma around non-traditional careers like OnlyFans and escorting. Despite their legality and her success, such work often faces unfair criticism, even from family. The parents’ comments may stem from discomfort with her profession, but their reliance on her income reveals their hypocrisy. This dynamic can erode familial trust, especially when gratitude is replaced with scorn.

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To move forward, she should maintain firm boundaries, perhaps offering limited financial help for their hotel stay if feasible, but only with clear expectations of respect. Exploring family therapy with a neutral mediator could address underlying tensions, though her priority should be protecting her mental and financial well-being. Online platforms like Psychology Today can help find a suitable therapist to navigate this rift.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Redditors rallied behind the woman, affirming that her parents’ disrespect was unacceptable, especially while living in her home. They praised her for standing up for herself, noting that those who benefit from her success have no right to mock it.

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Many pointed out the hypocrisy of her parents’ actions and suggested reminding family members who side with them that they could offer their own homes. The community agreed: biting the hand that feeds you has consequences, and she was right to prioritize her dignity.

NesssMonster − NTA, sounds like you are the only one with your s**t together. You are absolutely right, they need to leave if they can't handle how you make the money to keep a roof over THEIR heads. My parents were embarrassed and I confirmed it again, seriously this time 'I'm serious, the door is open for you to leave'.. You are a goddess for standing up for yourself like this.

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samnewc − NTA.. If they are happy to live off your earnings, they have no right to judge or make sparky comments.. Well done for what you have achieved for yourself.

JBagginsKK − NTA Your parents feel like they are entitled to both talk down about your work **and** the fruits of your labor. In no world to they get to talk s**t about what you do while reaping the benefits of your work. They can either accept your profession and the support that can come along with it or neither, but they can't reject what you do with their hands out for the money you make doing it

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spiritfiend − NTA. Your parents aren't in a hotel because of you. They are in a hotel because they lost their home due to their own financial missteps. They were also bad guests when you offered them shelter. If any of your family blame you for their situation, remind them that they could take your parents in to solve their problems. It can't be only your fault if no one else is helping them.

PearlLo − Don't bite the hand that feeds you..

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[Reddit User] − If they're so hostile and embarrassed about your work, they shouldn't get to live in the house that was paid for by your work. NTA.

Euphoric-Round-5182 − NTA. Imagine shaming someone’s job when that job is providing the safe, clean roof over their heads. You don’t owe them a cent.

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3113dm − NTA. They aren’t in the hotel bc of you. They are there bc they didn’t handle their finances

sarusagi − NTA. S**ew what other People might say about how you reacted 'cause they're your parents. If they're happy to move in with you in a house you funded with your earnings then they should respect you in your home. People might say 'well if you're on OnlyFans and an escort then you should take this stuff on a chin'

No, you don't. It's a job. Escorting doesn't always result in s** and OnlyFans is a voyeuristic venture and the people who pay for those things know exactly what they're paying for. If there wasn't a demand, you wouldn't have gotten enough money to buy your own house.

Take the fact that they're your parents out of it. If it was a partner or a friend it would still be unacceptable. You don't owe them the money for their hotel room. This is exactly a situation of people biting the hand that feeds them and in this case thinking it's fine cause they're your parents/family.

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OtherRepresentative2 − NTA, I wouldn’t have waited for dinner to be over. I would’ve made them pack their bags right then.

This story reveals the pain of family judgment and the strength it takes to enforce boundaries. Her success funded a home her parents relied on, yet their disrespect forced a tough stand. Have you ever had to draw a line with family over their hurtful words? How would you balance compassion and self-respect in her shoes?

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