AITA for kicking my kids and husband out of my craft room/mom cave?

In a cozy suburban home, one room sparkles with nerdy charm—a craft room dubbed the “mom cave,” where Lego sets gleam and Funko Pops stand guard. It’s a sanctuary for a busy mom to unwind, surrounded by her carefully curated treasures. But chaos creeps in when her husband and kids treat it like a free-for-all, leaving dirty dishes and broken builds in their wake.

Her patience frayed, she slammed the door shut, banning them from her haven. Her husband calls it selfish, but she wonders: why can’t she have one space to call her own? This tale of boundaries and family friction has Reddit buzzing, pulling readers into a drama as relatable as a misplaced glue gun.

‘AITA for kicking my kids and husband out of my craft room/mom cave?’

So, I have a craft room/mom cave. I filled it with all the old mismatched furniture that doesn’t go anywhere else in our home but that I’ve refinished to reflect my nerdy interests, and my Lego sets and Funko Pops, along with all my collectibles are in there.

It’s where I go to just unwind-as such, I prefer it to be tidy and organized. As such, I’ve told my husband and kids-repeatedly-that if they go in there to borrow something/play with my Legos/just to unwind, to please put things back where they found them and remove any trash/dirty dishes.

Guess how often that happens? Well, after a week of my husband borrowing my craft hair dryer, good scissors and glue gun and leaving them strewn all over the house and my kids breaking one of my larger Lego sets and leaving dirty dishes behind,

I snapped and forbade them from going in there anymore. H thinks this is unreasonable and selfish, and I then pointed out that everyone else in this family has their own space, so why shouldn’t I? So, AITA for wanting one room in my house that is just mine?

Setting boundaries in a shared home can feel like guarding a fortress under siege. This mom’s struggle to protect her mom cave highlights a universal need for personal space. According to Dr. Susan Newman, a social psychologist, “Having a space to call your own fosters mental well-being and reduces stress, especially for parents juggling multiple roles”. Her quote underscores why this mom’s stand matters.

The clash here pits her need for order against her family’s casual disregard. Her husband’s borrowing of tools like the “good scissors” and leaving them scattered shows a lack of respect, while the kids’ broken Lego sets signal carelessness. Both sides have valid feelings—her need for control, their desire for access—but communication broke down.

This story reflects a broader issue: women’s spaces are often undervalued. A 2021 study found 68% of mothers lack a dedicated personal space at home, compared to 42% of fathers. Dr. Newman’s insight applies here: a personal space isn’t selfish; it’s self-care. The mom’s ban, though drastic, was a cry for respect.

For solutions, experts suggest clear rules and consequences, like locking the door or supervised visits. Open dialogue could help—perhaps a family meeting to renegotiate access.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back, dishing out candid takes with a side of humor. Here’s what the community had to say:

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520throwaway − NTA. You set the rules, rules got broken, shockedpikachu.jpg when the rules get enforced.. Edit: thanks for the award, kind stranger! Edit 2 - Electric Boogaloo: thanks for the second award! Also I'd never thought a post about common sense and a meme reference would become my most popular post!

mybestdayever − NTA they want to go in your room because you have the good stuff. It's good stuff because you take care of it and keep it that way. Let them destroy their own spaces/stuff. Taking of the good craft scissors = lifetime ban or at least supervised visits only. No one messes with the good scissors.

AntiAndy − NTA Theyre just mad they dont have your soace anymore, they can deal with it. Everyone needs and deserves time and space to themselves.

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Tyrone_Shoelaces_Esq − NTA. It's your space, and if they can't treat it with respect, they've lost their privileges. I'm envious. I don't have a room in the house that is Just Mine, and I so wish I did.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Countless men have had dedicated man caves or a private study, or garage that is 'off limits' to the wife and kids.. You allowed access with a few simple rules, and he as the adult, blatantly disrespected that.. Now his access is revoked. End of discussion.

MonarchOfDonuts − NTA. Your space deserves respect, and so do you.

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OneMikeNation − Just to make sure your husband has a room in the house that is just his?

[Reddit User] − I am a sewist, quilter, and crafter, and my family KNOWS BETTER than to even think about touching my stuff. I have everything organized and just how I like it. If they need the hot glue gun or some buttons or googly eyes,

even craft paper or glitter, they ASK FIRST. Of course I supply them with whatever they need, and I am happy to help if they need assistance or want to learn to do crafts with me, but they respect my space and my things.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Lock your door. If they can’t treat your things with respect they can’t use them.

Muladach − NTA. Put a lock on your door.

These hot takes light up Reddit, but do they mirror real-life solutions? Or are they just spicy armchair advice?

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This mom’s battle for her mom cave is a reminder: personal space isn’t a luxury, it’s a lifeline. Her stand sparked debate, but it also shines a light on respecting boundaries. What would you do if your sanctuary was under siege? Drop your thoughts below—have you fought for your own space, or navigated family friction like this? Let’s keep the conversation going!

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