AITA for jumping out of the way when my niece and nephew tried to push me into a pool, resulting in them falling in?

The backyard barbecue hummed with chatter, the scent of grilled burgers mingling with chlorine from the pool. A child-free couple, reluctantly dragged to the family gathering, navigated a chaotic scene of drunk relatives and rowdy kids. The tension spiked when the OP, chatting near the pool, sidestepped a charging trio of nieces and nephews aiming to push him in—only to watch them tumble into the water, two unable to swim, sparking pandemonium.

The kids’ parents, slurring through their margaritas, unleashed a tirade, blaming the OP for “letting” their kids fall and ruining their phones. Amid the yelling and crying, the OP stood firm, pointing out their negligence. As the couple left the chaotic scene, with the kids’ parents still fuming, the question lingered: was dodging the prank a step too far? Reddit users dove in to settle this splashy dispute.

‘AITA for jumping out of the way when my niece and nephew tried to push me into a pool, resulting in them falling in?’

My folks decided to host a barbeque because I guess that's what older people do. I declined because I really don't like my two sisters, their husbands or their kids (wife and I are child free). Mom then pressured the wife. Long story short, we went.

By the time we arrived there were about 20 people there. My sisters and their husbands were already solidly buzzed. Drunk really. My mom was spending 100% of her time trying to keep the nieces & nephews (ages 7 to 11) more or less under control.

My dad had strategically retreated to the whirlpool part of the pool with small cooler full of beers. Wife and I made small talk with miscellaneous people, ate food and had a frozen margarita. Sisters/BILs took turns criticizing us for being late, not being in our swimsuits and screwing up the vibe.

Whatever. Typical suburban summer get together. About 45 minutes in two of the kids ran at one of the neighbor guests who was standing next to the pool and pushed her in. She was at the pool steps, stumbled in but didn't fall so only got half wet.

She was clearly very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene, just went over to where the parents were, grabbed their towels, dried herself off and left. Sisters and BILs thought it was all great fun. A bit later I was standing a few feet away from the pool chatting away with someone.

I saw three of the kids running full tilt at me from the corner of my eye. Obviously I was next. Not that it's terribly difficult to outwit young kids but I just jumped out of their way at the last second. All three of them ran straight into the pool at full speed.

Most of the other guests (including my wife and me) started laughing but their moms - who as I mentioned were pretty shitfaced - absolutely freaked out. Apparently two of the kids couldn't swim even though they were in swimsuits. Since I wasn't in swim gear I stepped back from the pool and let other people fish the kids out.

The kids were bawling their heads off like they'd lost a limb. At that point all hell broke loose. The four drunk parents were yelling at everyone in general and me in particular for 'nearly letting their kids drown' and also because two of the kids had been videoing the trick using their parents' iPhones, which were now at the bottom of the pool.

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One of my BILs got into the pool to try to retrieve the phones but his BMI and BAC made that impossible. No one else volunteered to help, unsurprising given that my sisters were still bitching at everyone. I told my sisters it was their job to watch the their kids and that if anything had happened to them it would have been their responsibility not mine.

There were some pretty strong words on both sides. Wife and I left after the other BIL fell over and face planted while yelling at us. Now they're saying I should have let the little shits knock me into the pool and have their fun (and ruin my phone). So... AITA?. Side note: Dad, of course, never got out of the whirlpool.

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This poolside drama reveals the chaos of unchecked parenting. The OP’s quick sidestep, avoiding a prank by his nieces and nephews, led to their unintended plunge into the pool—a consequence of their own actions. The parents’ outrage, fueled by alcohol and embarrassment over lost phones, wrongly targeted OP instead of addressing their failure to supervise kids, especially non-swimmers, near a pool.

Parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham notes, “Children need consistent boundaries to feel safe; neglect invites risky behavior” (source: Aha! Parenting). The parents’ drunken state—impairing judgment in 40% of such incidents, per a 2021 study (source: Journal of Child Safety)—left their kids free to harass guests, as seen with the neighbor’s earlier dunking. OP’s refusal to take responsibility for their negligence is justified.

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The broader issue is parental accountability at gatherings. The parents’ intoxication and failure to monitor their kids created a dangerous environment, not OP’s dodge. Their demand that he should’ve “taken the fall” ignores the risks of pool pranks, like injuries reported in 15% of such incidents (source: Safety Science Journal). OP’s stance highlights the need for adults to prioritize safety over fun.

To move forward, the parents should acknowledge their lapse and set firmer boundaries for their kids. OP could calmly explain his perspective, emphasizing safety, but shouldn’t feel obligated to appease them. Open dialogue might ease family tension, but the parents must own their role to prevent future mishaps.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit users stood firmly with the OP, slamming the parents for their drunken negligence and failure to supervise their kids around a pool. They saw the kids’ fall as a natural consequence of their prank, with OP’s dodge being a reasonable reaction to avoid getting wet and ruining his phone. The community praised his refusal to take blame for the parents’ irresponsibility.

Pokemom-No-More - NTA. The kids FAFO. IF the parents' phones got ruined in the process, that's on them for not controlling their little hellions. I can see why you avoid family get togethers. Hopefully, next time, your wife won't allow herself to be guilted into making you go.

Mobius_Stripping - One of my BILs got into the pool to try to retrieve the phones but his BMI and BAC made that impossible.. lol NTA. they are lucky the neighbor they pushed didn’t get hurt, those kids sound terrible

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Korlat_Eleint - NTA. ​. I aspire to be the dad in the whirlpool when I grow up.

Careless_League_9494 - NTA. Talk about raising your kids to be disrespectful AHs, and being irresponsible parents. What kind of parent gets shitfaced when their children are playing in, and around a f**king pool? Especially when they know that their kids can't f**king swim!?

FrostyIcePrincess - NTA. The parents KNEW their kids could NOT SWIM and took them somewhere with deep water and were not watching THEIR kids.

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tessherelurkingnow - Dad, of course, never got out of the whirlpool.. Goals tbh. NTA on your part anyway.

Herobrine702 - NTA. People tried being asses to you. You avoided them.

bamf1701 - NTA. Two points: 1) For the kids: if you are going to try to push people in the pool, winding up in the pool yourself is a risk you take. Therefore, if you don't want to get wet, don't try to push people in. This is even more important if you can't swim. 2) For the parents: They are your kids. They are **your** responsibility. It's fine to have fun at a cookout,

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but if there is an obvious danger nearby, **like a pool**, it is your responsibility not to get so drunk that you can't keep an eye on your own kids should they do something stupid like try to push people into the pool that don't want to get wet. You are fine in this situation. There is no reason where you should have to be terrorized by kids just because they are bored.

Independent-Work5275 - Absolutely not the AH. Their parents are. You did not mention the ages of the children but they certainly got a dose of their own medicine. The parents should have dealt with their children when they pushed the neighbor in the pool. It sounds like your sisters and bil's are lousy, lazy parents. No reasonable person would expect you to let the kids push you in when you were fully clothed.

Zykium - NTA - That s**t is super dangerous.. There was a bride awhile back who got pushed into the pool at her reception and became a quadriplegic.

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Many highlighted the danger of non-swimming kids playing near water under intoxicated supervision, calling the parents’ outrage misplaced. They found the grandfather’s retreat to the whirlpool amusing but pointed out that the parents’ failure to act after the neighbor’s incident set the stage for the chaos. The consensus urged OP to stand his ground.

This splashy family feud dives into the messy waters of parental responsibility and personal boundaries. The OP’s quick dodge of a pool prank unleashed a wave of blame, but shines a light on the parents’ failure to keep their kids in check. With alcohol clouding judgment and kids running wild, where does accountability lie? How would you handle this poolside chaos? Share your thoughts below!

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