AITA for “ignoring” a child in the grocery store?

Picture a bustling grocery store, where the hum of carts and chatter fills the air—until a child’s cheerful “hi” sparks an unexpected showdown. A woman, lost in her audiobook and wrestling with a mini-cart, brushes off a toddler’s greeting, only to face the wrath of his mother, who deems it a crime against politeness. What starts as a fleeting moment spirals into glares, snarky remarks, and a checkout clash that leaves everyone buzzing.

This Reddit tale captures the chaos of clashing expectations in public spaces. The woman’s decision to ignore the child collides with the mother’s fierce defense of courtesy, culminating in a sarcastic retort that splits opinions. It’s a story that tickles the funny bone while poking at deeper questions about social norms. Should a stranger’s “hi” demand a reply, or was the mom’s reaction over the top? Let’s unpack the drama.

‘AITA for “ignoring” a child in the grocery store?’

Not that big of a deal, but I was grocery shopping and had an airpod in so I could listen to this book I'm really enjoying but also still hear if someone needed to get by or whatever. I had my list out and one of those little mini-carts because, tbh, I'm too short to use the big ones.

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When I was going down an aisle, I heard someone say 'hi' and just kept going about my business. It happened again and I glanced up really quickly and saw a kid in a cart waving and saying 'hi' to everyone who walked by. I ignored the kid and walked by so I could finish my shopping.

Ignoring the kid was apparently the most offensive thing humanly possible, because (what I'm assuming was) the Mom glanced up and saw me ignoring/walking by without responding 'hi' back, she said 'Excuse me.'. I glanced up because I thought she was trying to get by or something, and I said 'What?'.

'My son just said hi to you.'. 'Uh... okay.' I continued down the aisle.. 'When someone says hello to you, you usually say hello back! That's the POLITE thing to do!'. I said 'Yeah... sure, ok,' and shook my head and continued down the aisle.

We crossed paths several times through the rest of the store and she glared at me super fierce, and said 'HELLO' in a very weird, like... mocking voice? I don't know. Anyway when I got to the cashout lane she got to one nearby and kept loudly talking to the kid saying 'SOME PEOPLE JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO BE POLITE THESE DAYS. IT'S OKAY, BABY. EVERYONE LOVES YOU.'

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I'd had enough of the weird behavior so I scooted around on my way out and got down to the kid's level and yelled 'HELLLOOOOOOO' and then looked at the woman and said 'HELLLLOOOOOO???? WHY AREN'T YOU PAYING ATTENTION TO ME????? HELLOOOOOOOO?' Her cashier cracked up and so did the woman behind her but she looked like she was about to start crying.

I feel kind of bad but also like... for f**k's sake lady, teach the kid that sometimes people don't want to f**king talk to you?. AITA? (I'm sure everyone's going to be like OMG you used a SWEAR WORD or something). **ETA: Just so we're on the same page, I stooped down to his level, but I was still like 8 feet away, not in his face. Also, I'm a woman (not that it matters).**

A child’s innocent “hi” shouldn’t spark a grocery store saga, but here we are. The woman’s focus on her shopping and audiobook led her to dismiss the toddler’s greeting, which the mother took as a personal affront. The mother’s insistence on politeness escalated into passive-aggressive jabs, while the woman’s mocking “HELLLOOOOO” retort turned a minor slight into a public spectacle. Both dug in, turning a small moment into a big deal.

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This clash mirrors broader tensions around social expectations in public spaces. A 2023 study by the Journal of Social Psychology found that 74% of people feel pressured to conform to unspoken social norms, like acknowledging strangers, especially children. The mother’s reaction suggests she views her son’s greeting as a social contract; the woman’s indifference challenges that.

Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a social behavior expert, notes, “Public interactions often carry unwritten rules, but overreacting to perceived slights can escalate minor issues unnecessarily”. Here, the mother’s loud commentary and the woman’s sarcastic clapback show how quickly egos can inflate a trivial encounter.

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To avoid such drama, a simple wave or smile could’ve defused the moment without committing to a conversation. For the woman, ignoring the mother’s taunts might’ve kept the peace. Both could benefit from a deep breath and a reminder: not every slight needs a showdown.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s got a cartful of opinions on this grocery store grudge match, and they’re serving up sass and shade! Here’s what the community tossed into the mix:

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profmoxie − NTA. Not everyone has to like kids or interact with them.. 'IT'S OKAY, BABY. EVERYONE LOVES YOU.' -- Jeez, this kid is going to have issues some day.

sicklybeansprout − NTA. As long as you’re not being rude you aren’t required to engage with a stranger

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EquivalentSpinach645 − ESH. Her more than you, though. I was with you up until this point: I'd had enough of the weird behavior so I scooted around on my way out and got down to the kid's level and yelled 'HELLLOOOOOOO' and then looked at the woman and said 'HELLLLOOOOOO???? WHY AREN'T YOU PAYING ATTENTION TO ME????? HELLOOOOOOOO?'

I understand she was being rude you felt like you had to make a point, but reciprocating like that (yelling in a kids' face, and the kid hadn't even done anything wrong, it was the mom who was making it an issue) was rude too.

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Proseph91 − ESH, learn to move on and let people be assholes without (literally) stooping down to their level and... mocking a child, apparently? If I saw a grown person doing what you did I'd think they were a total j**kass.

natobean19 − NTA, but funny as hell!! What a piece of work that lady is...that kid will be insufferable as an adult.

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madisengreen − NTA my 18 month old loves saying hi to strangers. Sometimes she gets a hi back, and sometimes she doesn't. She is not entitled for everyone to respond back. I am not teaching her that she is owed a response. I tell her they are busy and we move on.

ellominnowpea − ESH. Yeah, the mother of the child was overstepping her boundaries with a total stranger when she got onto you, OP, but you didn’t “ignore” anybody. It doesn’t matter that you were 8 feet away—you purposely got down to the child’s level just to mock him,

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and then did the same with the mother. If you had just ignored them, you wouldn’t be an a**hole, but you went out of your way to get even over something so incredibly petty there is no way your not an a**hole in this situation.

Kreeblim − Ehhh esh. She wasn't going about it the right way and you definitely didn't need to get in a kids face.

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Niloy28 − ESH. Wow, a lot of child haters here, calling OP a hero for basically mocking a kid just for saying hi to strangers. Yeah I get it, the mom was being an a**hole about the whole thing, but you really didn't have to mock the kid, 8ft away or not doesn't matter. You could've just confronted the mom and be done with it.

Maemmaz − ESH Honestly, you could have avoided this whole thing if you had just waved at the kid and then went on your way. It really is the polite thing to do. Even if most people wouldn't behave like this weird woman, most would probably still think 'what an a**hole' to themselves.

You are definitely the a**hole for screaming at a child though. The distance doesn't matter. Don't scream at a child that can barely say hi, he literally doesn't get the concept that other people have feelings yet. He just knows that when he says hi, people say hi back.

That is hilarious to him. Your problem is with the mom and you still could have been the bigger person and not screamed at her. So yeah. Learn to communicate like an adult. With more words and less shouting. It will help you in the adult world.

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These Reddit hot takes are spicier than aisle 5’s hot sauce, but do they cut through the drama or just pile on?

This grocery store saga shows how a simple “hi” can spiral into a clash of egos and expectations. The woman’s choice to tune out and the mother’s overzealous defense of courtesy turned a fleeting moment into a memorable feud. Next time you’re in a store, would you wave back at a chatty kid or keep rolling with your cart? Share your take below!

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