AITA for “holding my work hostage.”

The hum of a busy lab, filled with data crunching and study plans, set the stage for an employee’s quiet revolution. For five years, they juggled studies, data entry, and training, but their passion for self-taught coding turned heads when they built a website on their own time. Expecting praise, maybe even a raise, they instead faced a boss who wanted it all—coding and regular duties—without extra pay. Burnout loomed, and a line was drawn.

When they refused to code for free, the boss cried foul, accusing them of “holding work hostage.” Now, the lab’s buzzing with tension, not just test tubes. Is this worker a boundary-setting hero or an unprofessional rebel? This workplace saga dives into the heart of fair pay and self-worth.

‘AITA for “holding my work hostage.”‘

From data entry to coding wizardry, this employee’s journey took a sharp turn when their extra efforts went unrewarded. Here’s their story, straight from Reddit:

I've worked for a lab for almost five years now. I've gone from a part time worker to a full-time worker. I was hired on to lead studies, do data entry, train people, and manage data. Early on my boss had me do some simple application design which I did in PowerPoint. Our programmer denied a lot of my ideas, which frustrated me to the point I just started to learn programming on my own.

I've spent roughly 1.5 years teaching myself various programming languages on my own time. Once I became comfortable, I did some custom programming to make my job easier. I mostly just did some linear regression analysis in python and moving files around. I learned full stack web development. I made a rough version of our desired website over the course of a few weekends and showed it off.

I wasn't using the right web stack. I then learned the new web stack, reimplemented it over another few weekends, and showed if off again. They agreed to let me start working on the website for them. While I learned programming, I was still expected to do my full-time job. I repeatedly let them know that the only time I had to do programming was outside of work.

I told them I was having a hard time managing both programming and my normal duties. I was getting very burnt out from working an extra 2-4 hours a day and from my classes I took on weekends Last week I had my performance review where my boss told me that he still wanted me to do both web development and my normal duties.

He informed me that he believed it was just a time management issue and we could move some of my duties off my plate. However, a solution could not be found during my performance review as to what duties could be removed nor who they could be given to. We have recently lost a few employees and finding new hires has been difficult.

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At the end of my review, I asked for a raise as I was now expected to do web development for them. Once I asked for money for the additional work I was doing, he started questioning my credentials. Whether or not I had a computer science degree (he knows I do not) and which certificates I had. These questions were not raised when he had asked me to do the web developing for him.

They never directly said no to my request, however, the questioning of me and the general reaction felt like a no. As they never said yes to my request for a raise and they started to grill me with questions about my qualifications, I sent out an email stating that I would not be doing web development for my lab. I stated that they saw my web development as valuable, but not enough to give me a raise to do it.

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They called me in the next day to inform me that I was being highly unprofessional, and I was holding my work hostage from them. AITA for 'holding my work hostage.' I am still doing my job. I still do my study management. I still do my study visits. I still do data entry. I just refused to do the extra web development portion.

Burnout and boundaries collide in this lab worker’s tale. They taught themselves programming, built a website on weekends, and still managed their full-time role—only to be told to keep both up without a raise. The boss’s “hostage” accusation reeks of entitlement, ignoring the worker’s unpaid overtime and self-funded skills.

This reflects a broader issue: workplace exploitation of “extra” skills. A 2023 SHRM survey found 62% of employees feel pressured to take on tasks beyond their job description without compensation (Source). The worker’s refusal to code for free is a stand against this trend.

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Career coach Allison Task advises, “Know your worth and set clear boundaries; unpaid work erodes morale” (Source). Here, the employee’s self-taught skills added value, but the boss’s dismissal risks losing talent.

They could propose a part-time coding contract or seek roles that value their skills. Documenting unpaid work hours is wise for potential labor disputes.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit came out swinging, with users cheering the worker’s stand and roasting the boss’s audacity. From legal tips to calls for a new job, here’s the community’s fiery take:

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AvaAutumn25178 − NTA. If they didn't pay for it, it's not theirs. It was created in your own time as you were not being paid to do it.

StAlvis − NTA. They called me in the next day to inform me that I was being highly unprofessional, and I was holding my work hostage from them.. That's NOT what 'holding hostage' means. You can't hold your own property 'hostage' — in this case, your skills. By their logic, everyone should work for everyone for free.

Redeye_Jedi1620 − NTA. Never work for free.

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RachelWWV − NTA. They decided to play dirty to save money and you outed them publicly, which they were not prepared for. Nothing you said was false. They'll either come around or try to fire you ASAP at this point, so be prepared.

Tschudy − NTA but make sure you keep records of what you've made of the should decide to get litigious. If you've developed all of this off the clock, then they cant lay claim to any of it unless theyve got a contract with you aaying otherwise. If you uave a contract, id seriously consider getting a consult from a lawyer on the matter.

hotaku_kun − NTA. You actually went out of your way to learn programming, made their life easier while making your own hell, expected you to do this for them for free and try to bully you when you're not willing to do so?. F**k them. If you can, update your resume and (if it's within your posibilities) find a job elsewhere. Something tells me that you're more indispensable than they (or even you) realize.. 

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michaelscott1776 − NTA. This is why you never work for free. It's like you said OP when you were doing it for free on your time they could care less but as soon as you start asking for money they shut you down and said well we can't do that.

From now on just focus on your job and your job only. If they want you to continue doing web design or whatever they can pay you extra for it. Also if you can get a log of all the extra hours you've put in and bring it up with the labor department.

highwoodshady − NTA Consider it a lesson learned, do the job your hired to do and don't burn yourself out being too accommodating. Most job descriptions have the catch all ' and other duties as assigned as required'.

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It's too bad your company did not value your work but all managers and directors are interested in this the bottom line, productivity and their annual bonus. Your manager is upset because you drew a line in the sand and he/she/it was getting pats on the pack for your initiative. Just keep your head down and do your job.

crazeyal − NTA. 'Professional' is code for easily misled. You set limits and expect to be compensated for extra work. They may retaliate, but you are not being abusive to them by refusing to do unpaid overtime. You did not say if the company paid for the extra classes. If they did, there may be a bit of a claim on your services, but it sounds like they are just trying to strongarm you.

Radiant_Cat618 − NTA - you’re not holding your work hostage, you know your value. They can either pay for the work or not. It’s not okay for them to expect you to do extra work for free.

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These Reddit opinions pack a punch, but do they capture the full scope of this workplace clash? Is the worker right to draw the line, or should they have compromised?

This lab drama shines a light on the tug-of-war between employee effort and employer expectations. The worker’s coding saved the day, but their boss’s refusal to pay up sparked a standoff. Should they keep coding for free or hold firm on their worth? If your boss expected extra work without pay, what would you do? Drop your thoughts and let’s unpack this workplace showdown!

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