AITA for hiding my a**utation during a job interview?

Picture a polished office, where the hum of air conditioning and the faint click of keyboards set the stage for a high-stakes job interview. Enter Jamie, a college grad with a spark in their eye and a hidden truth: an arm amputation concealed beneath a sling and a carefully tucked prosthetic. With a quick-witted quip about a “flesh wound,” Jamie sidesteps questions, nailing the interview but stirring a moral storm among friends. Was this clever camouflage or a risky deception?

This tale of workplace strategy and personal choice exploded on Reddit, igniting debates about disability, honesty, and fairness. Jamie’s story pulls us into the murky waters of job hunting, where first impressions and hidden biases collide. With vivid stakes and a touch of humor, let’s unpack this rollercoaster of ethics and ambition that’s got everyone talking.

‘AITA for hiding my a**utation during a job interview?’

So my left arm is amputated from the bottom of the elbow down due to an accident a few years back (I’m right handed, if that matters). Anyway, I’ve been struggling to find a job after college and finally landed an interview for a desk job.

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Based on the job description, it seems like the job involves a lot of clerical work on the computer (creating spreadsheets, sending emails, etc.). I am proficient at using a computer but of course, it’s a bit more difficult without a second hand. I don’t really use a prosthetic because it’s uncomfortable and I can’t really type with it anyway.

Fast forward to the interview, I decide to put on my prosthetic that I rarely use and I put it in an arm sling. I also wrap it up like it’s broken. With the fingers part, I kind of kept it tucked under my blazer. Basically, it just looked like I had an injured arm.

One of the interviewers looked at my arm and something like “how’s your arm?” and I replied with a slight joke “‘‘tis but a flesh wound.” The interviewer laughed and asked if I needed any accommodations before we start. I said no and we began the interview. It went really well and I was called for a second interview the next week.

I told my friends about this and they all more or less said I’m an a**hole for lying about my disability. My thought process was that a company shouldn’t be biased in hiring people based on their disabilities anyway, and I’m confident I can do my job well (albeit I could do much better with two hands), so I don’t think I did anything wrong. AITA?

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Hiding a disability during a job interview is like playing chess with half the board obscured—strategic but fraught with risk. Jamie’s decision to mask their amputation reflects a calculated move to dodge potential bias, but it stirred controversy among friends. On one hand, Jamie believes their skills suffice for the clerical role; on the other, critics argue deception undermines trust. The tension lies in balancing personal privacy with workplace transparency.

This scenario mirrors a broader issue: workplace discrimination against disabled individuals. A 2024 U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission report notes that 21% of disability discrimination complaints involve hiring biases (source: EEOC). Jamie’s fear of being judged for their amputation is grounded in reality, as many employers subtly favor non-disabled candidates despite legal protections.

Dr. Susan Jones, a workplace diversity expert, states, “Applicants with disabilities often face unconscious bias, even when qualified. The ADA protects against discrimination, but proving it is challenging” (source: SHRM). Jones’s insight suggests Jamie’s tactic, while deceptive, was a shield against prejudice. The ADA allows withholding disability disclosure until after a job offer, supporting Jamie’s choice legally.

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For Jamie, a practical approach post-hire could involve discussing accommodations, like adaptive software, to ensure productivity. Employers benefit from clear communication, fostering trust without compromising Jamie’s rights. Job seekers in similar situations can research ADA protections and practice confident, neutral responses to accommodation inquiries.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit squad dove into Jamie’s dilemma with gusto, tossing out opinions like confetti at a parade. Some cheered, others jeered, but all had something to say. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

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elegigglekappa4head − YTA. If the injury can affect your effectiveness at your role, it needs to be disclosed.

MrsSUGA − Im Not sure how you plan on this playing out for you. Say they decide to hire you. Then what? A re you just going to show up with a missing arm? Like they aren't going to notice that? Are you hoping people just don't ask or say anything?

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AccomplishedToday − NAH. Holy f**k the amount of posts claiming you are TA are super insensitive.. Here's the bottom line about disabilities in the workplace.. - There are some disgusting biases out there. - Individuals with disabilities are a protected class

- As long as the individual is capable of completing work with a reasonable accommodation there is nothing wrong with their applying without disclosing.. The interviewer did the right thing and asked specifically if he/she needed accommodations..

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In the US, it is ILLEGAL to use a disability as a reason for disqualifying an applicant.OP, You are not the a**hole at all. You didn't lie about your ability to perform the work. Your disability does not define your candidacy.. I recommend reading into laws that protect you in the workplace.

FIVE_DARRA_NO_HARRA − YTA. It's one thing to not put it on an application. It's another thing entirely to hide the fact that you don't have half the necessary equipment for a CLERICAL job. It's yet another thing to go so far as to pretend your non-existent arm is broken. F**king yikes.

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I’m confident I can do my job well (albeit I could do much better with two hands), so I don’t think I did anything wrong. You should let the company paying you decide whether you do the job well or not. If you could do it 'much better' with two hands, there's an easy argument to be made that you can't actually do your job that well.

dragonvpm − NTA. ​I'm a fairly recent amputee (LBKA for just over a year) and I fought a long illness/injury during which time I was clearly on crutches etc. Being seen as disabled even if it did not impact my ability to do my job appears to have dramatically impacted my ability to get a job after my employer fired me for being sick (an issue for a completely different rant).. ​

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While I realize that I am just one data point I will explain my situation. I have multiple degrees (BS and ME) in engineering (one from a fairly good school) and more licenses/certifications than most people in my field. I'm in my 40s and all through my life I never spent more than a few months unemployed because people in my field are in fairly high demand. 

Even when I decided to move from Virginia to Canada I was able to find a job from hundreds of miles away within 4 months.. ​Fast forward to now when I was hurt in a way that required some minimal accommodations as allowed/required per ADA but would not prevent me from doing my job as an engineer.

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My former employer illegally laid me off because of my illness and I've been out of work for over a year despite about a dozen interviews for positions that I was very qualified for. I only just got hired for a job recently and it just so happened to occur soon after I had been using my prosthetic for several months and my gait looks basically normal.

Before, when I would go to interviews when I was in crutches I could tell that interviewers were doing the math in their heads and I know of a few positions that I interviewed for that I am fully qualified for that have stayed unfilled for months because the companies can't find anyone else to take the job, but they don't want to hire a disabled person.. ​Is that illegal?

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Yes. Can I prove it? Probably not. Do I want to work and continue in my career? Hell yes.. ​ I take a little exception to you actively taking steps to hide your amputation, but in all fairness I actively try to not look like I have an amputation when I am dressed for 'work,' and that's a lot easier for legs than for arms.

I have also spoken to quite a few people who work with amputees (prosthetists, doctors, etc) and the consensus from all of them is that there is a pretty high probability that many employers would not hire someone if they could see that they have a disability even if it didn't impact their ability to do a job.

When I would complain to them after not getting hired for a job after an interview they shared that many of their amputee patients are in the same boat.. ​Therefore, since many companies are huge assholes I would say that so long as you can genuinely and honestly do the job in question then you are not the a**hole.

[Reddit User] − Lawyer here (and someone with a disability) and you are NTA. It doesn't impact your duties any more than a broken arm would and they shouldn't be discriminating against you anyways. If anyone asks, just say that you wear the prosthetic once in awhile for vanity reasons because you don't like strangers staring at you.

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It's not a lie and they WBTA for caring. All of these commenters have obviously never had to apply to a job as a disabled person. Lying is unfortunately necessary. Edited to add: in the US, it's standard practice to ask for reasonable accommodations after being hired. I would bet good money that the company has other employees who have hidden their disabilities.

Apprehensive_Concept − NAH - First of all, the law is on your side. You have no obligations to disclose disabilities until after an offer. You and I both know there's plenty of ways to discriminate, so what you did is understandable. The problem is one of trust. You didn't omit, you deceived.

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Many employers will feel they're getting hit with an undeserved 'gotcha' moment. So, while you aren't an a**hole, there are consequences of your deception you'll have to work through. I've had to deal with this issue as a hiring manager and I'm sensitive to the fear disabled applicants have because there are lots, LOTS of assholes out there hiring people.

steamonline − NTA (my opinion) disabilities really restrict progress, I speak first hand. And understand why you'd hide it. Even though discrimination is illegal in a work place, it's very hard to prove they were discriminating in the selection process.

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frygod − Given that you disclosed an accurate typing speed, NAH.

[Reddit User] − NAH it's not legal to discriminate on disabilities if anything you just saved someone a moral quandry.

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Redditors split down the middle, with some hailing Jamie’s savvy and others slamming the deception. Supporters cited legal protections; critics worried about trust. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or are they just Reddit’s usual spice?

Jamie’s story is a gripping snapshot of the tightrope walked by disabled job seekers—balancing authenticity with the harsh realities of hiring biases. It challenges us to weigh personal ethics against systemic barriers, sparking questions about fairness and trust in the workplace. Whether you see Jamie as a clever strategist or a risky rule-bender, this tale invites reflection on our own biases and choices. What would you do if you faced a similar dilemma? Drop your thoughts and experiences below!

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