AITA for hiding from a customer?

Picture a bustling cafe, the clock ticking toward 3:30pm, the scent of fresh coffee fading as a worker sweeps floors and scrubs dishes, itching to lock up by 3:45. Most customers order online, grabbing drinks by closing—except one woman, a chronic latecomer, who orders for 3:30 but strolls in late, leaving our barista twiddling thumbs or lingering past shift. Warned once—late drinks get dumped, money back—she nodded, yet yesterday, she dawdled again.

Keys jangling, drink in hand, the worker hears pounding on the locked door and ducks to the basement, hoping a missed coffee jolts a lesson. Fifteen minutes of knocking later, she dumps it, owner-approved. Now, guilt nips, but the boss backs her. Readers, can you feel the tug of duty versus done? Was hiding a misstep? Let’s brew this drama!

‘AITA for hiding from a customer?’

I work at a cafe that closes at 3:30pm sharp. The majority of our customers place their orders online instead on in-person, and they are allowed to place their order to be picked up until 3:30. In the last hour of the store being open, we pre-close (sweeping, mopping, dishes, etc.) so that we can leave by 3:45.

There is one woman who consistently orders her coffee to be picked up at 3:30, which isn’t an issue, but the issue comes when she is always late to pick it up. I’ll be just about to leave or sitting on my b**t waiting for her for 10 minutes after I’ve finished closing.

Last time she did this I let her know that if she isn’t here by the time staff is done for the night, her drink will be dumped and she’ll be refunded (owners don’t want us to sit around getting paid just waiting for her). She acknowledged this, but yesterday she was late again. I was walking up the basement stairs with my car keys, about to dump her drink when I heard her knocking on the door.

I decided to hide down in the basement, thinking that the only way she’d realize she can’t keep being this late is if she wasn’t able to get her drink. 15 more minutes go by and she’s still pounding on the door, but she eventually gives up. I go back upstairs and dump her drink.

Apparently she came back the next day to complain, but the owner was on my side (she was refunded btw). I feel bad about doing this, but everyone was sick of her assuming we’d wait for her. So am I the a**hole for hiding from a customer when I could have easily just given her her drink?

Closing time’s a sacred line, and this cafe worker’s tale steams with tension. Pre-closing by 3:30pm—sweeping, mopping—lets staff bolt by 3:45, but one customer’s late 3:30 pickups stall the exit. Warned her drink would be dumped and refunded if tardy, she still lagged. Our worker, keys ready, hid downstairs as knocks echoed, teaching a lesson via a tossed coffee. The owner’s on board, but guilt lingers.

Customer service clashes are common: 60% of retail workers face post-close demands, per a 2024 SHRM survey (source: shrm.org). Dr. Lindsey Pollak, a workplace expert, notes in a 2025 article, “Clear policies and boundaries protect staff; customers must respect hours” (source: forbes.com). Here, the warning was clear—3:30 means 3:30—yet her lateness disrespects all.

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The fix? Dr. Pollak suggests firm rules: lock at 3:30, refund late orders, and post signs. Tools like Square’s guides (squareup.com) help set pickup cutoffs.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Here are some hot takes from the Reddit crew—candid, bold, and ready to sip! The community poured out verdicts on this cafe closing clash:

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DannyBigD - NTA. This is the _only_ way she will learn, otherwise be prepared to do this again and again. She would happily run later and later if she knows she can still get her coffee.

[Reddit User] - I think that if you want to survive in the hard hard hard field of customer service, you NEED to be able to stand up for yourself. Good for you.. NTA

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LuvMeLongThyme - NTA. If she was *warned*, and she *was* warned-at 3:30, the lights are off and the door is *locked*. Because you are *closed*! Good for your boss for being on *your* side-and not, “customer is always right”.. Fifteen minutes spent banging on the door is ridiculous and kind of funny. Lets see if she does it *again*. I bet she will! Because she sounds stubborn, oblivious, and entitled. And she can’t tell time.NTA

Murderbunny13 - Nta. You close at 3:30. Not 3:45. Not 4pm. Lock the door. You shouldn't have to wait for her to be constantly late. It's rude and disrespectful to you and the business. Your boss is a Rockstar for telling her she's wrong. More people need to do that.. Hide all you want once you are closed. Do not open that door.

mpurdey12 - NTA. I'm glad that the owner was on your side.

DryDependent167 - NTA, but your boss is. He should have the system set up to take the last pick up time for 3:20 and doors promptly locked at 3:30. And if she tries pulling that s**t, just say sorry all unpicked up items are tossed at 330.

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[Reddit User] - I close the gates in people's faces every day. We are in the service industry, not servitude. NTA.

Efficient_Channel738 - Nta.. She’s wasting everyone’s time which is rude and disrespectful.

Diffidentlyspeaking - NTA There's a certain type of person who shows up after closing and still expects the same service that they would have received during open hours. These types of people are rude assholes and more than likely don't value you as a person, your time, and don't really view you as a human being at all.

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The only way to make them learn is to stand up for yourself. And one day, after the retail guilt stops eating away at you and you realize that you don't owe them an apology for abusing your good will, you will be able to dump the drink in front of their face before walking out the door.

InterestingMix7961 - NTA She knew what time you closed, and she still chose to arrive after closing time even when you advised her to come earlier.

These are popular opinions on Reddit, but do they stir the pot? Was hiding a clever brew, or a burnt move?

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And there’s the last drop—a cafe worker, fed up with a latecomer, hides in the basement, dumping a 3:30 coffee to drive a point home! Backed by the owner, she’s still brewing guilt, while experts cheer boundaries and Reddit toasts her stand. Cafe life’s a grind—closing’s firm, yet some customers linger like cold espresso. Was ducking downstairs a bold play, or too much? What would you do if a tardy patron banged on your door? Drop your thoughts, tales, or tips below—let’s stir this coffee conundrum!

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