AITA for hiding baby food from my 6y niece?

A woman sharing a home with her sister-in-law, brother-in-law, and their 6-year-old niece found herself in an awkward spot after welcoming her own 9-month-old baby boy. With the family temporarily living together while their new house is built, jealousy surfaced as the niece began grabbing the baby’s store-bought snacks and yogurt from the shared pantry.

What makes the story more complicated is the adults’ habit of loudly commenting that the baby “eats double and better” than the niece whenever he has a snack. This seems to fuel the niece’s picky eating phase and her interest in the baby’s food, leaving the mom to hide supplies since her sister-in-law doesn’t replace what’s taken. The tension highlights the challenges of multigenerational living and differing parenting approaches under one roof.

‘AITA for hiding baby food from my 6y niece?’

Temporary living arrangements brought new family dynamics after the baby’s arrival.

I share house with my SIL, BIL and 6y niece until they finish their new house. Past November had my baby boy [now 9 months and half],

and clearly there's a bit of jealousy goin on since then. So now I started giving him store bought snacks and yogurt, and I kept them in a shared pantry.

Comparisons from the family intensified the niece’s interest in the baby’s food.

My niece is in that phase she doesn't eat anything, only drinks and wants chocolate milk or flavored yogurt. The family in general now evertime baby is eating says loud...

The mom took steps to protect her baby’s supplies due to lack of replacement.

And now she started eating his snacks and food, when there's plenty of food for her. Because those are aimed for baby and my SIL isn't replenishing the food my...

This conflict stems from the stresses of shared households, where boundaries around resources and parenting styles often blur. The mother’s decision to hide food prioritizes her infant’s nutritional needs, especially since baby-specific items are formulated differently and can be costly. Opposing perspectives focus on empathy for the 6-year-old, who may simply like the taste or packaging while navigating jealousy toward the new baby.

Some see the comparisons as harmful, potentially worsening the niece’s eating habits or fostering resentment. However, the responsibility lies with the parents to address their child’s diet without relying on the host’s supplies. Broadly, this touches on entitlement in temporary living situations.

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Guests, even family, should respect the homeowner’s property and replace what their child consumes. The loud comparisons also risk long-term emotional impact on both children. Clear communication about expectations could ease friction until the move-out, reinforcing that protecting an infant’s essentials isn’t selfish but necessary.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Many users backed the mom, emphasizing that baby food belongs to her child and the guests should replace or control what their daughter takes.

EbonyDoe − SOunds like this is YOUR house and they are YOUR guests, tell them to either start replacing the eaten snacks or get their theiving child under control NTA

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DesertSong-LaLa − NTA - Eating double and better than their child? -- Who's fault is this? ...not yours. Continue to meet your baby's needs.

It's astounding you need to hide food for your child and now listen to their comments. I hope their move-in date is sooner than later, if not, have a family...

Aggravating-Pain9249 − I assume you pay for your child's food as you state the SIL doesn't replace it when her child eats it. You have every right to keep it...

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WebAcceptable7932 − NTA it’s your child’s food. SIL can and should buy her daughter her own food.

jaybull222 − NTA. They are living with you so they should respect your child and your boundaries. I would hide anything that is for your baby,

and then when they ask where that food came from and is there more for niece, just say it is the last one. Or simply say no and let them...

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Seriously make this THEIR problem and be completely unhelpful about it since that is how they are treating you If they are building their own house,

they have money for their own groceries, but taking advantage of you is easier. Make it the harder option, and if your niece has a temper tantrum, just leave.

What is with people stealing baby food, anyway? The baby literally can’t eat anything else, so why on earth steal that food when there is other food in the house?

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Would your sil allow you to do this to her if the situation was reversed? No. I don’t understand how people can move in with someone, which means you are...

Make taking your BABY’S FOOD a louder and bigger problem than your niece makes NOT getting that food. They are literally stealing food from a baby, so of course NTA,...

Several commenters offered balanced advice, urging a conversation about harmful comparisons while supporting the food protection.

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Iwishistayedhome − INFO: Why is the family telling the niece that the baby is getting better food than her?

GroundbreakingWar243 − NTA but they are definitely causing that by outwardly comparing her to the baby and saying the baby is better than her in any way. It’s not helpful...

Formerretailmom − NTA, but I feel terrible for your niece. She shouldn’t be shamed. It’s going to cause resentments with her cousin and possibly cause further issues with food for...

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As others have said, talk to your BIL and SIL about adjusting their tactics regarding their daughter’s diet. But as far as the food goes;

you need to make sure YOUR child has the nutrition they need. And most baby food is not cheap. I would keep it hidden or locked away until they move...

A few brought lighter or practical suggestions to ease the situation without blame.

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Icy_Department_1423 − NTA. Keep your baby's food out of reach. Do have a convo with Bil and Sil to not make comparisons on the eating habits of the children as...

friedonionscent − She's only 6 - it's easy to over-estimate a child's maturity when you have a baby but in all likelihood, she probably enjoys the baby food, whether because...

Kids will be kids. Why not suggest her parents buy her toddler food? There's no harm, that stuff is relatively healthy and if she's a small eater, it's better than...

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If she gets her own, the novelty will eventually wear off. The issue is your SIL not replenishing the food, which is inconsiderate.

In the end, the mom chose to safeguard her baby’s food amid unhelpful family comments and lack of replacement, with most agreeing she’s within her rights in her own home. The situation underscores how temporary cohabitation can strain relationships when boundaries aren’t clear.

Have you ever shared a home with extended family—how did you handle food boundaries or kid comparisons? Did adult comments ever unintentionally fuel sibling or cousin rivalry? Share your tips for surviving multigenerational living or dealing with picky eaters without creating resentment!

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