AITA for having someone retrieve the kid they left with us?

What would you do if a friend left a child in your care without warning? A 19-year-old woman and her friends faced this when their friend vanished, leaving a 5-year-old girl behind. Hours passed with no return, forcing them to act. The friend’s angry response sparked a debate about responsibility and trust.

This story, shared on social media, drew strong reactions. Many supported the group’s decision to demand the friend’s return. Others criticized their handling of the situation. The incident raises questions about friendship boundaries and childcare obligations. Was the group wrong to insist their friend retrieve the child?

‘AITA for having someone retrieve the kid they left with us?’

The story begins with a group of friends hanging out after finals.

Me (19F) and two of my friends (20F) and (20M) were hang out in my friend’s apartment. We were all about to go home after finals. Our other friend (19F)...

The friend left the child without explanation.

Then our friend, after an hour, suddenly disappeared and left the girl here. I called and asked where she went, and why she didn’t bring the girl. She said she...

The group struggled to care for the child.

She didn’t return for several hours, and the girl started asking for food. We didn’t feel like it was good to give the girl junk food for dinner, but we...

The friend returned, upset with the group.

Our friend arrived angry, demanding to know why we couldn’t watch the girl for a few hours and had to bother her.

A group of young adults was unexpectedly left with a 5-year-old girl when their friend, tasked with babysitting, vanished for hours. The group, unprepared and unable to care for her properly, demanded her return. The friend’s angry response highlights a breach of trust and responsibility.

ADVERTISEMENT

The friend’s actions were irresponsible. Leaving a child without consent is unacceptable, especially with individuals unprepared for childcare. The group’s concern about food allergies shows awareness of potential risks. Their decision to call repeatedly was reasonable, as they lacked the skills and authority to care for the child. “Childcare requires clear communication and consent among all parties involved.” — Dr. Tovah Klein (Child Psychologist), Barnard College, 2020.

The friend’s anger suggests a lack of accountability. She shifted blame instead of acknowledging her error. The group could have contacted the child’s parents or authorities if the situation escalated further. This might have ensured the child’s safety more decisively.

This incident underscores the importance of clear boundaries in friendships. The group’s inexperience with cooking or childcare highlights a broader issue of young adult preparedness. Ultimately, this situation prompts reflection on responsibility and trust. How should friends handle unexpected obligations?

ADVERTISEMENT

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Social media users were vocal about the group’s situation. Most supported their decision to demand the friend’s return, while some criticized their handling of the child’s care.

Many users condemned the friend’s irresponsibility.

AnarchyAcid − NTA. You have no idea if that kid had allergies, you literally could have killed the child by feeding it. I’d have called the police and reported an...

ADVERTISEMENT

[Reddit User] − NTA. WTH? ??!!! SHE was babysitting this child. She gave you NO warning that she was leaving the child with you. YOU were the ones that were...

If I were you, I would try to find the identity of that child's parents and let them know what happened. She should NEVER be allowed to babysit ANYONE! !!...

crbryant1972 − NTA The child was left in your friend's care. She was probably getting paid to babysit the child.

ADVERTISEMENT

You were right about not giving her food either - she could have been highly allergic to certain foods and you would not know. You should have asked the child...

BlueRFR3100 − NTA. I would be pissed if I hired a babysitter and the babysitter left my kid with someone else. If you know the child's parents, you should let...

seventeenblackbirds − NTA, why is she outsourcing her babysitting job to you? You don't even know who to contact if there's an emergency!

ADVERTISEMENT

WooliesMom − NTA but, y’all really should know how to cook a few basic meals just for your own sakes.

OskeyBug − NTA. Never talk to this girl again.

Chelular07 − NTA if that wasn’t her child please report her to the authorities. She has no reason or right to leave a child that isn’t hers anywhere besides back...

ADVERTISEMENT

NagaApi8888 − NTA. Tell your 'friend' if that ever happens again you're calling the police to report an abandoned child.

DeepFudge9235 − NTA you didn't sign up to be babysitter , she did and her putting responsibility on your group without asking was BS. If the child got hurt you...

Some users questioned the group’s response or offered advice.

ADVERTISEMENT

Dry-Package-8187 − This is why I don’t read any posts by people under 28yo. You didn’t call the police when your friend DITCHED SOMEONE ELSES CHILD WITH YOU FOR HOURS.

You just waited for your friend to come back and pick the girl up? Did you just ignore the child the whole time, thinking “not my problem”? The person that...

Adventurous-Good6450 − INFO: Do you know where the child's parents were? If this ever happens again please call the non-emergency number for your local police department.

ADVERTISEMENT

tcrhs − NTA. She’s lucky you didn’t call the cops for abandoning a child. FYI, at your ages, you should already have basic cooking skills.

Country-girl-2212 − NTA at all. However, even though I don’t judge for not feeding the kid (with no knowledge of allergies etc…) I find it comical that between a 19yo...

Convoy95 − What the actual f__k am I reading. How is this even a question? NT-f__king-A

ADVERTISEMENT

This story reveals the challenges of unexpected responsibility. The friend’s abandonment of a child was reckless, leaving the group in a tough spot. Social media users mostly supported their decision to demand her return. The incident highlights the importance of clear communication and accountability in friendships.

What would you do if left with a child unexpectedly? Share your thoughts below.

Share this post

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *