AITA for having skis on display behind me in Zoom meetings?

Picture this: a cozy home office, a blank wall jazzed up with a few skis and snowboards, ready to spark some lighthearted Zoom banter about snowy slopes. For one Redditor, this setup was a fun nod to ski season, igniting chats with coworkers about shared passions. But then, like an unexpected wipeout on a black diamond run, a colleague called it “insensitive,” accusing them of flaunting wealth in tough times.

This workplace flare-up skids into tricky territory—privilege, perception, and the unwritten rules of virtual backgrounds. The OP’s innocent décor choice turned into a heated debate, leaving them wondering if they misread the room. With Reddit buzzing over this clash, let’s carve through the details to see if this was a harmless flex or a tone-deaf move.

‘AITA for having skis on display behind me in Zoom meetings?’

Ski season is here, so I decided to put my family's skis/boards on the wall behind me in my home office to liven up an otherwise boring wall and to serve as a little conversation piece. I’ve struck up some great conversations with coworkers who also ski.

One coworker, however, called me insensitive for 'openly boasting that I can afford such an expensive hobby when many people are barely putting food on the table.' My intent certainly was not to boast in any way. I understand that times are tough for a lot of people these days,

and I am very fortunate to be in a well-paying line of work not affected by the pandemiс, but I know for a fact that nobody on any of my Zoom meetings is struggling to put food on the table (we all earn at minimum low 6 figures), so I don't see how my background could possibly be insensitive to anyone who’d see it.

This Zoom skirmish is less about skis and more about clashing perceptions in a virtual workplace. The OP’s décor sparked joy for some but resentment for one coworker, highlighting how personal spaces on display can stir unexpected tensions. Dr. Amy Edmondson, a Harvard professor specializing in workplace dynamics, notes in Harvard Business Review (Harvard Business Review), “Virtual settings amplify misinterpretations because nonverbal cues are limited.” The coworker’s accusation likely reflects their own lens on privilege, not the OP’s intent.

The OP sees their skis as a hobbyist’s pride, knowing their colleagues earn well. The coworker, however, frames it as a flaunt of wealth, perhaps projecting personal financial stress or societal inequities. This mirrors a broader issue: 47% of workers feel workplace inequality has risen since remote work began, per a 2024 Gallup study (Gallup). Virtual backgrounds can unintentionally signal status, sparking envy or judgment.

Dr. Edmondson’s research suggests fostering psychological safety—where colleagues assume good intent—could prevent such flare-ups. The coworker’s public call-out, laced with virtue-signaling, escalated the conflict unnecessarily. For the OP, a private chat to clarify intent might smooth things over. Workers navigating virtual spaces should consider neutral backgrounds or discuss décor openly to avoid missteps. Clear communication keeps small sparks from becoming office wildfires.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit swooped in like a ski patrol, dishing out quips and clapbacks on this Zoom drama. Here’s the unfiltered vibe from the slopes:

Sarioth − NTA. You're allowed to own nice things and have them on display in your own damn home? Or even *gasp* wear ostentatious and expensive clothing in *public.*

isabelladangelo − NTA - I've seen skis for cheap at thrift stores or on auction sites. Having skis doesn't mean you have a ton of money - there is such a thing as being frugal and still being able to afford some nice hobbies.

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Really, the argument is rather silly - does the person in question have no hobbies other than helping the homeless and volunteering at food kitchens? I highly doubt it. Their attempt at guilt tripping is 100% virtue signaling and nothing else.

CasualChristHammer − NTA. Following that logic, you should only ever join a video call with a solid black void behind you. Anything else is simply a way to boast about your material possessions that others might not have the fortune to own (including the wall).  Isn't showing absolutely nothing in your background also boasting about having enough space in your home to video call in a space that's not actively *lived in*?

[Reddit User] − NTA - Your coworker is the a**hole for calling you insensitive. Your choice of décor is not their concern. You should not feel bad about having your skis up.

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IFeelMoiGerbil − Dude I’m unemployed in the pandemic having lost my job after getting back into work after a 15 year gap for illness into an industry entirely decimated by Covid never to return. I’m 42, have no degree and can’t leave the house due being high risk. I’m about as unemployable as they come and living on savings with every penny counted for.

If I saw skis on your Zoom background I might fear you’ll try to convince me how great it is when it strikes me as my idea of hell. I certainly wouldn’t think Daddy Warbucks is sticking it to the orphans via a black run. And frankly the fact you already bought and presumably used the skis has zero impact on my ability to find work or pay my bills.

It’s not like banking works like Mary Poppins and if you don’t drop a couple of K on skis, the finance fairy clicks their fingers and my bank account or another struggling family gets a glow up to their balance of the same amount.

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And if you live outside a snowy area giving the skis away or selling then will not help anyone find a job (I mean I live in London. They are about as useful as a chocolate fireguard here.) Nor can anyone eat skis or sleep on them.

As a poor person I bloody hate when financially secure people take offence on our behalf about some skis or the cost of a gentrified coffee shop but refuse to pay more tax, hire from a wider more marginalised workforce instead of gatekeep good well paid jobs, stop buying second homes to drive up rents, support access to education financially and prevent the erosion of public services and the welfare state.

This is an example of genuine virtue signalling in the wild. I bet you my limited cold hard cash that this guy couldn’t tell you the name of a single cleaner, janitor or security guard in your office pre Covid and he’s decided skis are the hill he’ll die on instead of use to glide down gracefully and learn something about struggling classes.

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What he really means FYI is that your skis make him feel inferior than his finances don’t allow for him to afford skiing trips and he doesn’t like the reminder. Maybe he has financial pressures, maybe he just prioritised other things in life and now Aspen isn’t in his future.. That’s a him problem. Not a you problem. NTA.

No-Long5784 − NTA. Sounds like that person's got a ski up their b**t!

Molly_dog88888888 − NTA... what is wrong with your co-worker? It’s none of their business how you decorate your house!

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BaBePaBe − Skiing can be done on a budget, even for those who don't make a lot of money. Perhaps rented skis...I'd be willing to bet a person could even find skis to buy for themselves that don't cost a fortune. I haven't been skiing in a while and so someone please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong and skiing is solely for the well-to-do.

lexkixass − NTA. God forbid you ski in the winter, or want to have them on your walls. Your coworker is petty and needs to grow up.

mountaingoat05 − NTA. The coworker needs to remove the ski from their colon and hang it on their wall.

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These Redditors shredded the coworker’s logic, backing the OP’s right to spruce up their space. Some called it pure virtue-signaling, others a case of misplaced outrage. But do these hot takes nail the nuance, or are they just kicking up snow?

This Zoom background brouhaha shows how a simple décor choice can snowball into a workplace clash. The OP’s skis were meant to spark joy, not judgment, but one coworker’s accusation turned a fun flex into a debate about privilege. It’s a reminder that virtual spaces are tricky slopes to navigate. What would you do if your Zoom background stirred up drama—double down or switch to a plain wall? Drop your thoughts below!

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